... to ask if your husband still gives you butterflies

[anxietyaunt]

Feel like a wee kid asking this question but I’m curious to hear from others. I know it’s naive to hope the honeymoon period will never end (ours was spectacular!), but I hear people say they still get butterflies regularly despite being together for many years. We’ve had a lot of ups and downs over the 11 years we’ve been together, but I definitely love my husband and think he’s the spunkiest man alive. Just can’t remember the last time I got butterflies. Anyone?

Butterflies or fanny gallops?

@poorbuthappy

Butterflies or fanny gallops?

Good point. Butterflies are the heart, the other is...not!

25 years together I still get butterflies 🦋
Just going for a walk together I’ll randomly get them ☺️ X

Yes. We've been together 5 years and married for a few months and I fancy him more as time goes by. Can't see it changing.

Yes, he still gives me butterflies and luckily I also still fancy him like mad so I very much get the gallops as well! 😉 We’ve been together 12+ years and coming up to our first anniversary next month. 😊😊

Yep. We've only been together 5 years (married for 3). I still get butterflies, probably not every single day, but certainly several times a week. DH is gorgeous and I love being around him.

The thought of me ever having "butterflies" for DH just made me laugh out loud!

I can confidently say that I haven't had "butterflies" about any bloke since David Cassidy in 1972, when I was in my early teens.

Only when I'm having an IBS flare up

I still get fanny twitches after 8 years if that counts

Not all the time, but sometimes - when I haven’t seen him for a while or when he’s done something particularly sweet (which is often!).

What I now get which I didn’t in the honeymoon period is the deep, secure sense of tangled roots; the knowledge that we’ve grown together and are so secure and solid now. It’s just as lovely in its own way.

Married 30 years. Not butterflies exactly but a lovely warm safe satisfied feeling.

Butterflies, gallops and often the desire to kill him!! These phases fluctuate but we have been together since we were both 15 and are 42 now.

This is lovely.

I married the wrong man for me, who never gave me butterflies in the first place, and who ended up being EA.

I’d love to have had this life.

No. If I’m brutal he’s never given me butterflies. The ones that did always broke my heart.
Yeah I agree. I gave up after the last one broke my heart so badly that I had a nervous breakdown and it took me two years to pull myself together. Never dated anyone else who gave me butterflies ever again. I married someone solid and reliable in the knowledge I wouldn’t be massively hurt if he left me.

Yes. Not everyday but I still get them from him. Together 8 years married 5.

No he’s turned into a grumpy old man, not attractive.

@icelollycraving completely agree, the men that gave me butterflies all broke my heart. My DH has never given me butterflies but I love him dearly.

So many lovely stories here. Sad for those who haven't had this, but is there still time with someone else??

What I found surprising is that physically things have got better for us as time has gone on, even after 3 kids I'd say better now than ever. In our 40's now, I fancy him more than ever. Would not have expected this.

Not butterflies, but I still get excited when I hear the door go and he's home (and that's not just because I'm stuck at home all day with 2 small kids I swear!!) And yesterday he put on actual nice clothes for the first time in ages and when he walked down stairs I definitely thought 'wow!'

Not everyday but very often! And often just random pangs/surges of love when I go downstairs and see him doing a chore or making a cup of tea or something.

Also when he comes home from work and I hear the key in the door I feel like I imagine a dog would who can't wait to greet his himan- if I had a tail it would definitely be wagging 😂

Human not himan!

Yes. Nearly 20 year together and I love him more than ever.

Interestingly, after 22 years together, I did experience a sort of physical ‘butterflies’ feeling last year. I have always adored him and found him attractive but he spent the last 2 years working hard to lose a substantial amount of weight. He looks great and weighs less than he did when we got married. There was a moment, last year, mid-shag, when I realised that he didn’t feel like him anymore. He felt like a completely different man but with no guilt, because he wasn’t. I experienced a weird, almost illicit, rush of butterflies for weeks afterwards.

Yes, occasionally I find myself admiring him or when he does something sweet and I still get butterflies.

Not on a daily basis, no. But when he looks at me the certain way (NEVER when he's actually trying to do that) or he kisses me like he did the very first time - my knees still go weak and I feel the butterflies. We've been together 9 years, married 8.