... to ask if your husband still gives you butterflies

[anxietyaunt]

Feel like a wee kid asking this question but I’m curious to hear from others. I know it’s naive to hope the honeymoon period will never end (ours was spectacular!), but I hear people say they still get butterflies regularly despite being together for many years. We’ve had a lot of ups and downs over the 11 years we’ve been together, but I definitely love my husband and think he’s the spunkiest man alive. Just can’t remember the last time I got butterflies. Anyone?

No, because I know him well and am not nervous about it fizzling out after 23 years, but I still adore him

Yes. But not every time I see him. It happens a lot when:

• I hear him singing
• his car pulls on the drive from work (he plays music loud when he drives)
• when he makes our DDs laugh that crazy excited laugh
• when people talk about how wonderful he is to me
• when he spoons me

Just!

Not every time I see him no. But I do still get moments where I look at him and just think God I love you and I usually have to go and give him a squeeze and I feel very lucky.

And then he forgets to change the bog roll again when it runs out and the moments gone

It shocked me though when I went away on my own to visit family for the first time without him abroad last year (pre Covid).

I didn't think anything of it when I was booking it but when he dropped me off at the airport I felt really upset at the thought of leaving him and throughout the trip too, I couldn't wait to get back.

I don't usually think of myself as needy like that and was pretty surprised by how homesick (for him) I felt.

I don't get butterflies, although I suspect it is something to do with his revolting beard. The butterflies died when he grew the beard!

Yes. So so much. I cant believe how lucky I am to have him. He gives me this look that makes my knees weak 🥰

Not been together that long, coming up to 3 years. But I never thought I would find a love like this again and I was lucky enough to find it twice. I am so happy with him and get butterflies all the time. Even when we are doing nothing. He has been my favourite person from about the first month of meeting and that feeling has only strengthened.

No, not really. I love him deeply but we've been together nearly 8 years and we've had some tough times, we've both put on weight, we don't look exactly as we did in the "butterflies" days. But I still love him and I still want him so it's all good

No, he gives me the ick.

Need to get back to the office to get butterflies again

@TheWashingMachine

I don't get butterflies, although I suspect it is something to do with his revolting beard. The butterflies died when he grew the beard!

Same. It's all grey, ginger and brown and smells of yucky grubby hair. It's like kissing a hairbrush and since that grew in 1st lockdown, I've completely gone off him. He knows I hate it but he loves it. Well so suppose that's all that matters! *nb: I suppose he has to deal with my new fatty bum bum whereas he has kept thin. Valentine's cards will be tricky this year-I need one that says I tolerate him and he needs one for me in the shape of a donut.

Butterflies definitely no.
Together 23 years and I suspect he would say the same about me.
We do live and laugh together though hot sex is overrated

Yes, definitely butterflies!!

No thank god. The only men I had butterflies for were the ones who I felt nervous or insecure around. DH makes me feel safe and content which is much better than butterflies.

What a lovely thread. Two days ago I sent a message to my husband saying "I still get butterflies when I see your face, I hope I always do". He's working away so we only speak for short bursts over facetime. I think he's so handsome and I do wonder daily what he sees in me! It's so nice to hear there are people who still feel like this decades on

6 years together, 6 months pregnant with our first baby, and yes - I still sometimes look at him and catch a glint in his eye or the way he smiles and get a little flutter in my tummy. 😍

I still got butterflies after 20 years together. Especially when he was wearing a suit and aftershave (he didn't very often because he had a work uniform). He was a very sexy man.

It IS a lovely thread @Rocket3000.

Interesting to hear about others’ reactions to seeing their partners “out of context”, like driving past randomly or from a distance talking to others. I have the same. Not necessarily butterflies but perhaps rush of attraction in those scenarios too. Wonder what that’s about.