... to ask if your husband still gives you butterflies

[anxietyaunt]

Feel like a wee kid asking this question but I’m curious to hear from others. I know it’s naive to hope the honeymoon period will never end (ours was spectacular!), but I hear people say they still get butterflies regularly despite being together for many years. We’ve had a lot of ups and downs over the 11 years we’ve been together, but I definitely love my husband and think he’s the spunkiest man alive. Just can’t remember the last time I got butterflies. Anyone?

Yes I still do. 8 years together.

5 years together, 3 married so probably too early to stop fancying him . I still get giggly around him and get butterflies whenever I see him. He's been my rock and continues to surprise me. I still get excited when he texts to say he's on his way home, I rush to the door to see him.

We gave up a lot to be together and neither of us regret it.

No.
I'd ask him about if I do the same, but he's fallen asleep after his lunch.
🤦🏻‍♀️

@LeggyLinda

Not exactly. But I get a caterpillar from time to time.

More of a larvae situation with my ExH, tbh.

@willowtree81

So many lovely stories here. Sad for those who haven't had this, but is there still time with someone else??

What I found surprising is that physically things have got better for us as time has gone on, even after 3 kids I'd say better now than ever. In our 40's now, I fancy him more than ever. Would not have expected this.

Practice makes perfect!

Not butterflies but a sort of 'rush' of affection. I don't think any man has ever given me butterflies, only taking exams / jobs interviews do that!

Nope. Not sure I ever did.

Sad for those who haven't had this, but is there still time with someone else??

I don’t think it’s sad. Love and respect without butterflies is enough for me. If the bloke dies before me there definitely won’t be anyone else, I’d be perfectly happy without a man.

Similar to pps, I wouldn't say it's "Butterflies" in my case.

2 men in my life - late teens - did give me what I thought was butterflies but thinking back it was more like sick nerves/walking on eggshells around them. ☹️

Met DH 44 years ago and he was so not my type but he persevered with me and we eventually got together and married 22 months later.

Now after all these years I still get a secure, warm glow around him. We have been though so much together but now have a wonderful life.
Him and our DD really are my world!
After snooping on FB and finding my ex fiancé and the other former "Love", neither of them have fared well in life and I certainly thought, "Phew" then but not in a good way. 🤣

Yes I still get butterflies, 11 years together also. Not every day or every week though. I still get excited to see him too!

Butterflies, gallops and often the desire to kill him!!

Heh yes - I’d say it’s split pretty evenly for me: about 25% each of butterflies, gallops, cosiness/security/snuggly feelings, and rage. 😉

He is a fantastic man, truly the best I could have ever wished for, and I love him immensely.

I equate butterflies with nerves and have anxiety so to me it's a good thing not to have them 🤣

I love my DH, he makes a trip to Tesco fun. We laugh everyday, there is a lot of sarcasm in our house! He's been my rock through the 14 years we've been together. He's my best friend.

I always got butterflies at the starts of relationships but I do think it was more that I was nervous. I'm very shy.

Agree with PP, I relate butterflies more to the start of a relationship or when I fancied someone unattainable/ bad for me. It’s more a nervous thing. Once I’m in a stable relationship I don’t tend to get them even if I still fancy them.

No.

Yes together over20 years

Yes.

Together 16 years, married 10.

I'm always excited when I know he's on his way home from work.

And a good snog in the kitchen will still make me 'weak at the knees' (silly phrase we know it's not my knees that I get a feeling in then....)

No...been together 50 years😕

No... almost never. The exception is when either of us has been away on business trip for a longer trip of a week or two. I love to collect him from the airport :) Might seem silly, but I do get excited to see him exit from the security area and go hug him.

Yes still get butterflies, been together coming up 19 years.

No. Not at all. No butterflies here. Glad you do though, op. It’s a nice thought!

After w5 years - no. No butterflies. If he does something lovely though I get an over whelming feeling of love.

25 years not w5 🙄

No! Married 23 years - but we are good pals and make each other laugh which isn’t bad

Yes, especially if I'm watching him from afar iyswim. Interacting with other people, or doing sport. I guess it's primal

And also, if we've had sex the night before (now that it's no longer a nightly occurrence ), my tummy flips the next day every time I think of it.

No. He's done things/made decisions/ kept things from me that have broken all trust. Don't think I love him anymore either. I found all this out after he was diagnosed with a progressive disease and can no longer work. I would leave but for this.

Aye. Definitely.

He's a turbo babe.

He gives me more butterflies now than he did 12 years ago.