... to ask if your husband still gives you butterflies

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Feel like a wee kid asking this question but I’m curious to hear from others. I know it’s naive to hope the honeymoon period will never end (ours was spectacular!), but I hear people say they still get butterflies regularly despite being together for many years. We’ve had a lot of ups and downs over the 11 years we’ve been together, but I definitely love my husband and think he’s the spunkiest man alive. Just can’t remember the last time I got butterflies. Anyone?

I never got butterflies. I never remember having them for anyone. But do I still love the bones of the kind, funny, generous, intelligent bloke I married over 20 years ago? Hell yes.

occasionally! we've been together 9 years. The other day he was doing some garden work and was all sweaty and wearing a manky old coat... phew!
Unfortunately I'm heavily pregnant and he doesn't want to do anything with the baby "there" so it didn't come to anything!

Yes totally. There was a lull after the overwhelm of our first child but now I fancy him more than ever. Stopping taking the mini pill a few years ago was a good idea too. It really killed my sex drive to be on it.

24 years married and I still get excited to see him at the end of the day. He also makes me laugh a lot. He’s the absolute best man I know.

When he's fixing something and his forearms are exposed and rippling with muscle I want to jump on him an rip his clothes off. Does that count? Together 12 years.

Yes, been together 20 years. It does depend on my mood but I still look at him and think “there will never be another man for me”. (I do also sometimes look at him and think “God, you’re a right dickhead” though too!)

@LeggyLinda Loving your caterpillar comment, made me smile

Yes to butterflies with my new partner of 5 years

Married 31 years.

I get butterflies when he comes home still when I haven't seen him all day

I look forward to my husband coming home from work (and when I'm in the office I look forward to coming home to him), and spending time with him. He is my best friend as well as my husband.
It is a different kind of butterfly feeling. It isnt necessarily that passionate butterfly feeling you get in the first months of dating. It is a more contended type of feeling.

Nope. Sadly.

No

Contented*

@Carysmatthews

24 years married and I still get excited to see him at the end of the day. He also makes me laugh a lot. He’s the absolute best man I know.

This is so sweet - I don't even know you but this really made me smile. What a fabulous relationship you have with your husband.

Yes
We still kiss every day , hold hands and we have been married 21 years
I couldn’t be with someone I didn’t fancy

Our butterflies are caged up just now. Both been WFH or on furlough for nearly a year now, there is such a thing as too much time together.
I know the first time we manage to go out for dinner together after lockdown, wearing something other than joggers, there will be butterflies again because he’s bloody gorgeous and I love him 😍

If we get dressed up to go out and he's groomed/wearing nice shirt/put on nice aftershave then a small flutter yes. On holiday- same scenario but with a tan and chilled- even more so. Day to day life walking around in slippers at home, nope!

Just occasionally, but we’ve been together over 20 years.

40+ years...we’re old now and he annoys me sometimes but I still get butterflies when he kisses me or just makes me laugh.

Yes - sometimes. I have posted this before but once he pulled over on his motorbike to talk to me (I was walking down the street) and I didn't immediately realise it was him but - yes, butterflies! Married 17 years almost.

Also it helps that he is also very smartly dressed. Doesn't really do casual clothes (no t-shirts!) so pretty much corrisponds to the Cary Grant style of man that I have always loved!

No
I still fancy him though
Married 15 years

@Helmetbymidnight

we've been together nearly 24 hours a day since last march. if we had some proper healthy time apart id feel more kindly disposed towards him

This. No butterflies here

When he’s dressed for work (airline pilot) most definitely

God no, a murderous rage is more likely. 😂

He does 🙂 16 years together and I still think, wow, he's mine.