Would you purposely have a baby before marriage?

[badnews21]

Info:

Wedding this year but will probably be postponed (already moved it from March 21 to Nov 21) - added complication is that parents live overseas so even if we wanted to do something small our parents probably couldn't come which would be very hard

We are 33 and 35 and I have mild endometriosis

Would waiting 10 months make a huge difference to conception times?

I am already massively struggling with lockdown etc so the fear of unsuccessful TTC terrifies me as I struggle with my mental health

From gov website:

This means you should only consider booking a wedding or civil partnership (or continuing with one that is already booked) in exceptional circumstances. This may be for example, if you or your partner is seriously ill and not expected to recover, or is to undergo debilitating treatment or life-changing surgery. Weddings and civil partnership ceremonies must only take place with up to 6 people. Anyone working is not included.

@Nicknamegoeshere yes - and even then I have read about deathbed weddings being turned down.

I'm assuming the earliest will be March / April for something small with 6 people or something!

However after this thread I feel suitably panicked that I've left it too late so are going to crack on and get married when we can.

@badnews21 I'm not married and we have a 7 month-old baby girl. We had booked a wedding in April 2020 but I lost my job so we had to cancel the venue. We decided to start ttc as my GP advised that at my age (39 at the time) it was best not to wait.
I was incredibly lucky and fell first month of ttc.
We will just have a very low-key ceremony when we can as it's important for us now to make it "official."
Marriage can wait (and I know I am with the right man) but fertility can't.