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To have lost all motivation for anything

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Pleidiolwyfimgwlad · 18/01/2021 17:30

Is the endlessness of lockdown getting to anyone else? I seem to have lost all motivation for tidying the house, cooking, homeschooling, my job - all of it.

Me & the kids walk every day but that’s about it - it’s the relentlessness of it all that’s really getting to me I think. I just want to sit about eating toast & sleeping- I’d take to my bed if I didn’t have kids to look after.

I have quite a big job at a uni too and even the thought of it makes me feel depressed. It’s awful- I am fed up of my colleagues and they are lovely people so I feel bad.

Aibu to have just lost all mojo? I don’t think I am depressed- just OVER it all- I don’t even know what I need at the moment!

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JustHereWithMyPopcorn · 26/01/2021 08:54

Same, I'm sitting here in front of my computer meant to be working but just can not summon the enthusiasm. I work for myself too so no-one even to chivvy me.

HeronLanyon · 26/01/2021 10:03

just chivvy chivvy.
I just did full hour of work. Now feel as though that’s quite an achievement and considering sloping off. Quick mn peek.
Will now return to work - honest.

rookiemere · 26/01/2021 10:12

I think part of the issue is for me when you're actually in work, you get natural breaks when you have a quick chat or catch up about the weekend. I never used to mind Mondays much as there was always a bit of gossip and excitement from the weekend. Now I wake up and think "Great another week of this sh*t". There's just no respite - I have tea break calls at work organised and I've noticed since January attendance is way up again, but it's hard because what is there to talk about any more ?

At least at the weekend once I've walked the dog/cooked something/done a bit of washing I can retreat into a vegetative state for the rest of the day.

MagicSummer · 26/01/2021 10:20

A PP mentioned how annoying game show hosts are with their ever-smiling, ever-cheery programmes, but what makes me so sad is when the shows were made in 2019/early 2020 and nearly all the people who win money talk about the wonderful holidays they are going to take 'later in the year', and I think 'oh no you won't'. All those dreams shattered.

Does anyone else wake up in the middle of the night and start thinking about it all and get quite panicky? I get really wound up and my heart starts pounding and no chance of more sleep!

Nonamesavail · 26/01/2021 11:10

Another day. Im getting worse.

Frequentflier · 26/01/2021 12:22

We are bickering a lot. Staring at a screen for 10 hrs a day does not help, and neither does the shitload of housework and extra meals.

NorbertMeubles · 26/01/2021 12:30

Yes, the meals. I am so sick of thinking about food, preparing food etc.

ScrumpyBetty · 26/01/2021 15:47

@FrenchBoule totally relate, if I have to watch another inane episode of bloody captain underpants and hear that ear grating 'tra la la' I might have to start sticking pins in to my eyes

SingToTheSky · 26/01/2021 16:02

Getting back to home ed stuff has helped a bit (disclaimer - DS has been HE for several years so this is not the same as trying to manage school at home, which is still quite a struggle with DD1). Just CBA with much else.

Had a cupboard removed today by the HA so we can get a dishwasher but we are slightly limited space wise and it just feels like a biiig mountain to climb to find a fitting one! I hate all that stuff at the best of times because I get so worried about making the wrong choice. I know having a DW will help a lot though

PinkFondantFancy · 26/01/2021 16:07

Same here. I have a great job but can't seem to get my mojo together to get into it. If I can start concentrating I'm ok but otherwise every 5 mins I'll look for a distraction and then get frustrated that another day has gone by and I've done very little.

The monotony of every single day being the same is relentless. Weekends don't break it up, just same old load the dishwasher, load the washing machine, watch a movie.

Can't plan holidays, fun activities with the kids, nothing. Even going for a run doesn't relieve the tension much due to the constant glaring at the 'heavy breathing covid spreader' (and before anyone says anything, I am very considerate and run in the road past anyone on the pavement etc but it doesn't seem to stop the glaring)

PinkFondantFancy · 26/01/2021 16:09

Oh and also yy to the constant cooking and the house being a completely tip, yet no energy or enthusiasm for sorting it. Bleugh.

tttigress · 26/01/2021 16:13

We need to end this lockdown!!

HintOfVintagePink · 26/01/2021 16:18

Oh this weather. Cold and drizzly while everyone else (it seems) has beautiful snow.
DH back to work so another five days of working from home, homeschool and cooking for me for the 13 hours he is out of the house. Why do children need to eat 3 times a day at least. (Lighthearted)

CountessFrog · 26/01/2021 17:09

The thing is, it doesn’t work.

I am sitting here complying. And I know several who are currently not. One on FB saying ‘oh! I’ve got covid! Got it from my mum.’ Then tagging in several people that shes spent time with socially and saying ‘sorry, I feel like such a germ spreader!’

This is followed by lots of reassurance that she probably won’t even get symptoms.

We are all locked down because people like this behave like that. We pay the price, they do whatever they like. It pisses me right off.

colouringindoors · 26/01/2021 17:46

Very, very bored and totally lacking in any motivation to do Anything (apart from drink tea and eat chocolate 🙄). Cold, wet and grey doesn't help either. Trying to resist temptation to go and buy wine...

MiaMarshmallows · 26/01/2021 17:52

Feel a bit better today. DP being really sweet and sending me lots of photos of the past few years, flashback memories. Can't wait until later in the year when we can go to events and go on a holiday again.

TheGreatWave · 26/01/2021 18:21

@SingToTheSky How big is your space? We were a family of 4 and then became 5 when we had a slimline dishwasher and it was perfectly adequate. In a strange way the slimline was much easier to get stuff in, the full-size never seemed to stack as well.

TheGreatWave · 26/01/2021 18:25

I am in the pits, I have no motivation,so nothing gets done. Then because nothing is done I get all sad and curl up in a ball on my bed, and then I have even less motivation.

And rinse and repeat.

HintOfVintagePink · 26/01/2021 18:34

Anyone else body clock changing? I am turning in to night owl, getting up to work and enjoy the house when everyone else is asleep. I think I crave solitude, but, paradoxically am also very lonely in a house full of people.

Frozenintime · 26/01/2021 18:37

@HintOfVintagePink

Anyone else body clock changing? I am turning in to night owl, getting up to work and enjoy the house when everyone else is asleep. I think I crave solitude, but, paradoxically am also very lonely in a house full of people.
Yes I stay up late reading in bed because it's the only time I can be quiet and alone. Have to be up at 6.30 am in the mornings so am finding there is a definite afternoon "crash" which leads to chocolate
aquashiv · 26/01/2021 18:38

It's beyond crap I am still working but am not productive.
The weather is cold people are tired the country is in recession. We have a bunch of muppets in charge. Eh no wonder you are unmotivated

Frozenintime · 26/01/2021 18:40

My child is missing parkrun, trampoline park, cinema, pizza , videogame museum, climbing, playing with cousins, day trips etc etc I wake up sometimes and can't believe this is all real

rookiemere · 26/01/2021 18:47

@MiaMarshmallows I really don't want to rain on your parade, but how sure are you we'll be able to do things later in the year ?
Sometimes I feel vaguely optimistic about the vaccine roll out, but then they talk about new strains and I feel like this will never be over.

I often wish I could live on my own for a bit, with no work and no DH, DS or Ddog. Obviously I appreciate that this is all pretty rubbish for someone actually on their own, but I'd like to just be able to wallow for a while without having to churn out meals, do laundry, pretend I care about my job, or worst of all fake some level of jolliness for the family.

Fembot123 · 26/01/2021 18:58

@MagicSummer

A PP mentioned how annoying game show hosts are with their ever-smiling, ever-cheery programmes, but what makes me so sad is when the shows were made in 2019/early 2020 and nearly all the people who win money talk about the wonderful holidays they are going to take 'later in the year', and I think 'oh no you won't'. All those dreams shattered.

Does anyone else wake up in the middle of the night and start thinking about it all and get quite panicky? I get really wound up and my heart starts pounding and no chance of more sleep!

Yes, it’s like being trapped I think
Youngatheart00 · 26/01/2021 19:00

Total solidarity with this. I’m a mess. Drinking most nights again. Snacking all day. Not getting any exercise. I can see myself falling off a cliff but I can’t seem to stop it.