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To have lost all motivation for anything

625 replies

Pleidiolwyfimgwlad · 18/01/2021 17:30

Is the endlessness of lockdown getting to anyone else? I seem to have lost all motivation for tidying the house, cooking, homeschooling, my job - all of it.

Me & the kids walk every day but that’s about it - it’s the relentlessness of it all that’s really getting to me I think. I just want to sit about eating toast & sleeping- I’d take to my bed if I didn’t have kids to look after.

I have quite a big job at a uni too and even the thought of it makes me feel depressed. It’s awful- I am fed up of my colleagues and they are lovely people so I feel bad.

Aibu to have just lost all mojo? I don’t think I am depressed- just OVER it all- I don’t even know what I need at the moment!

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BiddyPop · 25/01/2021 11:27

(and nice food - not naice food, just decent proper food that's hot (temp), isn't hot (chilli), and that I don't have to please everyone else in the house with - or that someone else would make and serve but it's actually edible.....)

BonnieDundee · 25/01/2021 11:52

Dreamt I was in a shop trying out perfume, went to put my mask on and the girl said oh don't worry, it's ok now.

What a lovely dream. Bet it was horrible to wake up and find we're still stuck in this nightmare Sad

DahliaMacNamara · 25/01/2021 11:56

Another sleepless night. Hungry, but cannot be arsed to make food. Can barely be arsed posting about my own lethargy.

mbosnz · 25/01/2021 12:37

Damn. Damn, damn, DAMN. I managed to dredge up some motivation to clean the bathroom, and I have completely put my back out. I should have stuck with being unmotivated. Now I'm getting nothing done, but am sitting here in really quite a bit of pain. . .

Nonamesavail · 25/01/2021 13:13

Another day. Same old shit.

HintOfVintagePink · 25/01/2021 13:19

So glad to read this thread. I cannot get myself off the sofa. DC are on iPads, again. List as long as my arm of things I could do. It’s too bloody cold outside to walk (that’s my excuse) and I’ve just eaten 2 cupcakes.
I’m bored, fat, bored, tired, bored, boring and bored! Come on spring....

formerbabe · 25/01/2021 13:19

Is it me or are the days sooooo long? When my dc were at school, the six hours they were out the house would fly by. The days drag on and on now.

HappyFlamingo · 25/01/2021 15:29

I work part time (4 days a week) and I find I'm working 5 days a week instead. Partly to make up for not being very productive on my 4 days, and partly because I haven't got anything better to do anyway. I can't wait for a 'proper' Friday off, with the DC at school and able to meet a friend for coffee.

SingToTheSky · 25/01/2021 15:46

I can’t believe it’s only a month since Christmas, and at the same time I can’t believe it’s already a month since Christmas Confused

I am SO bored and yet completely avoiding the many things I should be doing. Even nice things

HintOfVintagePink · 25/01/2021 16:34

I stirred my stumps and managed to vacuum the stairs, empty the dishwasher, put a casserole in the oven and sort some laundry. That’s over a whole afternoon and part of the morning. In ‘the old days’ that would have been 30 minutes rushing about between school run, hobbies and work.
But the extra time isn’t enjoyable or fulfilling. It’s mundane and draining. I think I need sleep.

NorbertMeubles · 25/01/2021 16:42

January feels like a million days long.

HeronLanyon · 25/01/2021 17:00

hint 👏🏻 This reminded me I’ve got a wash in which finished a few hours ago. Better go put that out. I haven’t hoovered for quite a long time. Seems it can be delayed for ages these days.

missha20 · 25/01/2021 17:02

I am wondering how other mums managing to work full time and homeschooling? Mine 7 years old spends most of the day watching telly/playing PC and I dont know what else I can do to keep my rather demanding job which I need to pay my bills? We spend 2 hours a day learning at google classroom with constant questions and interruption so I am getting up at 6 am every day to catch up with work emails. Our school is struggling with places for key workers so only can take a kid if parent doesnt work from home despite to be at critical industry. Not sure how the are checking though as I have seen my next door taking both kids to school while both of their cars on driveway all day so both of them work from home. I am on my edge and really dont know how to cope with permanent tiredness if they saying school wont open until Easter now.

soundofsilence1 · 25/01/2021 17:02

I am reminding myself today that there are only 6 days left of January and February is a short month. Feels like I am wishing my life away though.

HeronLanyon · 25/01/2021 17:05

Oh just reminded me there’s a press conference now.

Fembot123 · 25/01/2021 17:47

@Cantbbothered

Me too but felt much like this before covid so no change there. If I had the courage I'd be gone in a shot.
You have masses of courage just getting up when you are feeling so low, it’s exhausting Flowers
Fembot123 · 25/01/2021 17:48

Does anyone else feel a horrible creeping dread as well as the boredom?

LemonSherbetFancies · 25/01/2021 17:56

6 weeks time and I think a lot of the restrictions will be eased.

Frozenintime · 25/01/2021 19:01

I would feel better with a flow chart. We can go to tier ....... if hospital admissions drop below ........ Etc . A map out of this horrible inertia

RosieLemonade · 25/01/2021 21:02

@soundofsilence1

I am reminding myself today that there are only 6 days left of January and February is a short month. Feels like I am wishing my life away though.
I feel the same. And like I'm wishing DD's away as well. She was 2 when this started and now she is nearly 4.
keepmeawayfromthesherry · 26/01/2021 08:00

I seem to walk around in a constant daze of miserableness. I'm like Eyeore from Winnie the Pooh with the rain cloud over his head. I just can't muster up any happiness at all. The news is constantly doom and gloom and the shows which aren't news all seem to have people trying to be fun and jolly and it just makes me so mad. We all know they are not jolly and happy, we all know they think it's shit yet the presenters trying to be happy and smiley and all unicorns and rainbows and pixie dust just make me feel like I'm doing it wrong and I should be dancing around my kitchen adorned in fairy lights, baking bread and crocheting my dinner.

I wish there was a 'good news' section on the news where the put the positive perspective on news rather than misery. I've had my fill of misery and have now got a day of home schooling to contend with with a reluctant primary school child. I am so miserable.

keepmeawayfromthesherry · 26/01/2021 08:02

But thank you for this thread OP as finally I have found people who are being honest. All my friends who I speak to on Whatsapp are all living their best lives and busy as the busiest bees and loving every single family walk they do. I want to tell them to stop lying and ask them what they are trying to prove.

Pleidiolwyfimgwlad · 26/01/2021 08:13

@keepmeawayfromthesherry It’s such a wierd thing isn’t it. I had a really good chat with 2 work colleagues yesterday & both said that they had lost even motivation to do their jobs. Felt so much better in a strange way. It’s so hard what we see living through

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rookiemere · 26/01/2021 08:42

@keepmeawayfromthesherry I'm definitely Eeyore to DHs Tigger. He just can't understand why I'm impacted by this at all, so this thread is very helpful.

I too struggle with my work.Fanny away the day like now and end up working late to make up for not doing enough during normal hours.

Blobby10 · 26/01/2021 08:47

Another one here who feels the same. I don't have school age children any more so don't have the pressure of home educating either, and I've worked every weekday through all lockdowns but not as a front line /caring worker so can't even claim exhaustion as my reason! I was doing OK until this weekend when we had a HUGE fall of snow and its put paid to my early morning C25K runs yesterday and today as I don't want to risk falling over, injuring myself and needing treatment from the over stretched NHS. Add in some pre menstrual hormones and I'm in the pit of despair where all I want to do is hide away for a week. But I'm at work and struggling with the motivation to do my job - for which 15 other people rely on me to do so they have an income.