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To have lost all motivation for anything

625 replies

Pleidiolwyfimgwlad · 18/01/2021 17:30

Is the endlessness of lockdown getting to anyone else? I seem to have lost all motivation for tidying the house, cooking, homeschooling, my job - all of it.

Me & the kids walk every day but that’s about it - it’s the relentlessness of it all that’s really getting to me I think. I just want to sit about eating toast & sleeping- I’d take to my bed if I didn’t have kids to look after.

I have quite a big job at a uni too and even the thought of it makes me feel depressed. It’s awful- I am fed up of my colleagues and they are lovely people so I feel bad.

Aibu to have just lost all mojo? I don’t think I am depressed- just OVER it all- I don’t even know what I need at the moment!

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CountessFrog · 24/01/2021 11:32

That’s really true about the flip side.

I’m a well known multi tasker. I have a job and I run two separate and unrelated businesses alongside bringing up two kids.

I now struggle to get dressed. Again, the government has no idea about this issue, which I think is widespread.

HeronLanyon · 24/01/2021 11:38

lido took me ages to work out your date too but finally I do see what you did there. 😂
Went out fir walk round the block in the snow. Distanced chat with a few neighbours. Offered my back for a few snowballs from kids. Feel so much better. Now where’s that list . .

HeronLanyon · 24/01/2021 11:40

psycho that’s it exactly ! Tried to get round this by my ‘by 11.00’. I wasn’t fooling myself clearly. Everything on that list can be done whenever frankly.

2021optimist · 24/01/2021 12:43

@Wearywithteens

Me too OP - and all spent all of last year wondering why people couldn’t get a grip. Now it’s me who can’t! I’m usually pragmatic and hopeful but I just feel completely flat and have no motivation for anything.
Me too. Wrote a dissertation last lockdown, got fit. Now just want to doze and eat carbs.
Sexnotgender · 24/01/2021 12:46

@Nonamesavail

My teens have not been outside in days
I make mine walk the dog by 10am otherwise she’d never leave the house.
LemonSherbetFancies · 24/01/2021 18:22

My niece is an introvert and she said as much as she hates living like this, she is also worried as to how she will cope when things go back to normal.
Personally, I am really struggling. I miss DP enormously and his kids. I am missing our very active social lives, our friends and holidays. I have no motivation right now either. In the morning I get changed and then just sit on the bed for ages not caring to move as there is nothing of purpose to do. Just want DP and our old life back. Sad

Snowdrop30 · 24/01/2021 18:33

Yes, it's hitting me now too. I'm lonely. I'm bored silly. It just all feels grey. The only thing that seems to feel meaningful is getting off my arse and helping someone in a worse off position than me. It takes me out of myself, if you know what I mean, and makes me feel like I did something worth doing today. Rather than just dust, hoover, homeschool, work, cook, sleep, repeat.

PrettyLittleBrownEyedMe · 24/01/2021 18:52

I am really, really struggling with this lockdown. My thoughts are racing and I feel in a state of anxiety constantly about how the fabric of our lives has been shredded - and yet at the same time I'm bored bored bored.

However, sometimes a lack of motivation can be a good thing. We finally mustered some motivation today to give the downstairs loo a lick of paint to brighten it up ready to put the house on the market soonish - something to look forward to, a goal, a point to the day. Hooray for us. DH goes in, decides there might be a damp patch in the top corner, peels off a little paper to look. This pulls off a surprising amount of plaster too. DH looks a bit closer and tests the plasterboard - just out of curiosity - and pulls off a huge chunk of that too. Just out of interest we then go and turn on the tap in the sink upstairs and the ENTIRE LOT just cascades straight through the ceiling.

We didn't say much. We're now back on the sofa, slightly chastened, with a problem WAY bigger than we're competent to fix, the downstairs loo looks like an apocalypse has happened, and we're several steps further away from being able to sell the house.

From now on I'm embracing my lack of motivation.

psychomath · 24/01/2021 19:40

Oh no Pretty!! I had a similar ceiling cave in once but fortunately it was in a rented house so not my responsibility to repair. It decimated the kitchen so was a real pain while we were waiting for the work to be completed.

I suppose on the bright side if you have to get it professionally fixed you'll be able to have a face to face conversation with someone outside of your household!

colouringindoors · 24/01/2021 21:28

So grateful for our snow today. Made it a different day, with different stuff. Feel better for it. Now trying not to think about next week!

To have lost all motivation for anything
colouringindoors · 24/01/2021 21:30

My dcs 12, 16 have to go outside for 30 mins a day. Else no wifi.

BackBoiler · 24/01/2021 21:36

I made mayonnaise yesterday. Why did I do that?

psychomath · 24/01/2021 21:46

@BackBoiler

I made mayonnaise yesterday. Why did I do that?
Hahaha, I occasionally decide this would be a good idea and inevitably regret it just as soon as it's too late to stop Grin
allthegoodusernameshavegone · 24/01/2021 21:48

Me too, I really have to push myself to even go for a walk.

emsworth · 24/01/2021 23:35

I so relate to all of you. I am working much as usual {clinical} so at least am spending time with people and there is structure.
However, I miss being spontaneous ~'ooh, let's go to...'
Now horizons have shrunk and the freedom to be spontaneous has been taken away. Thief of joy ~lockdown

HeronLanyon · 25/01/2021 06:49

colouring lovely profile picture.

alecguinnessgenuineclass · 25/01/2021 06:56

Same! Nothing to look forward to, no holidays or shopping trips or parties. Just unrelenting work and childcare. Comfort eating is my only outlet. I've put on 2 stone since this time last year and just can't seem to find any motivation to do anything about it.

Igglepigglesgrubbyblanket · 25/01/2021 08:45

Same. Just trying to motivate myself to get dressed and brush my teeth.

HeronLanyon · 25/01/2021 10:07

Listening to ‘endurance - shackleton’s incredible journey’ audiobook. Seeking inspiration and motivation by this astonishing account of shocking desperate circumstances and true bravery, resolution and unbelievable bravery.
Still haven’t tackled most things on my list but can feel a bit of a ‘come on heron, get a grip’ feeling coming on.

Cantbbothered · 25/01/2021 10:12

Me too but felt much like this before covid so no change there. If I had the courage I'd be gone in a shot.

Excited101 · 25/01/2021 10:25

The novelty has gone. Last year it was warm and sunny, I have always had to go to work but I got to start late and have time off in the day, that hasn’t been offered this time despite the fact that my job is a lot harder and much less fulfilling this time around. I have moved house since then too, and it’s a lot harder to keep/get things in order so I feel constantly overwhelmed by it all, and no motivation to sort any of it. I have a DP This time who is my bubble, the only time things feel normal is when I’m with him but he had a slipped disk in December so can’t leave his house at all, ive been trying to care for him but that’s hard too and so exhausting. Last year I lost loads of weight really easily, was exercising loads, my house was generally tidy and clean and I had a lovely time pottering round. This time I can’t even be bothered to wash, or change the bedsheets- let alone the hours of exercise I was doing before.

Twentyweektraining · 25/01/2021 10:31

I'm still in bed 🤦.

Dreamt I was in a shop trying out perfume, went to put my mask on and the girl said oh don't worry, it's ok now. I dream a lot about being in places with lots of people and I'm the only one worried thinking omg this is wrong. I dream people are trying to infect me. I'm not actually that scared in RL, bored to death and totally unmotivated but not particularly scared.

lidoshuffle · 25/01/2021 10:51

@Twentyweektraining you've made me realise that in all my dreams (and I have vivid ones) everyone's maskless and it feels like normal times. That's strangely reassuring, I'm not institutionalised yet, my mind at least is still free.

FrenchBoule · 25/01/2021 10:58

Juggling work,kids and the house.

DS misses his friends so wants to offload his need of human contact on me. Every day. I love him but I just want some time alone.No son, I don’t have time to watch your Captain Underpants (I’m sick of it)because I have to get with all mundane household tasks that I normally do when you’re at school.

Homeschooling. Don’t get me started. Fucking chromebooks with unclickable links and uncooperative printer.

Rinse and repeat. Every. Fucking. Day.

BiddyPop · 25/01/2021 11:12

I wrote a long reply and realised it was a pure rant.

TL:DR YES

I need a holiday from work, a break from the teen, proper sleep (Pre-menopausal), and proper fresh air.