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To have lost all motivation for anything

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Pleidiolwyfimgwlad · 18/01/2021 17:30

Is the endlessness of lockdown getting to anyone else? I seem to have lost all motivation for tidying the house, cooking, homeschooling, my job - all of it.

Me & the kids walk every day but that’s about it - it’s the relentlessness of it all that’s really getting to me I think. I just want to sit about eating toast & sleeping- I’d take to my bed if I didn’t have kids to look after.

I have quite a big job at a uni too and even the thought of it makes me feel depressed. It’s awful- I am fed up of my colleagues and they are lovely people so I feel bad.

Aibu to have just lost all mojo? I don’t think I am depressed- just OVER it all- I don’t even know what I need at the moment!

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Flippyferloppy · 20/01/2021 14:40

Same here, without the kids, so really no reason to leave the house most days. I cannot bear the thought that most of 2021 will be the same

Frequentflier · 20/01/2021 14:42

V much struggling today. Have fallen down the rabbit hole of social media and internet shopping lately. Just doomscroll. While the dishwasher remains unemptied and the laundry piles up...

justanotherneighinparadise · 20/01/2021 14:50

It’s the hole schooling that impacting my mental health. I can cope with the other restrictions. But home schooling my two children is one of the worst things I’ve ever had to do.

prettygirlincrimsonrose · 20/01/2021 15:05

Can relate to so much of this. Fed up, tired, nothing seems worth doing. I think it helps hearing it from other people feeling the same; it's great that some people are finding things to enjoy at the moment but it makes me feel even worse about feeling down when my situation isn't even that difficult.

I hate the fact that there are things it would be useful to do (mainly organising things before a new baby arrives) and I have no motivation, even though I know things are going to keep getting harder as I get bigger/more tired (let alone once she's actually here) so everything I put off is adding to problems for the future. And I'm excited about this baby, but I'm just focusing on the negatives and the uncertainty at the moment.

Was actually focused in terms of work stuff yesterday and I definitely felt better for it, but today I'm back to procrastinating and stuck in the dark playground that is mumsnet (waitbutwhy.com/2013/10/why-procrastinators-procrastinate.html). Meh.

hamstersarse · 20/01/2021 15:07

Doomscroll GrinGrinGrinGrin

Oysterbabe · 20/01/2021 15:29

I'm struggling a lot with feeling trapped and touched out at the moment. I'm a classic introvert who needs time alone to relax and recharge. WFH, kids and husband constantly touching me. I want to scream and run away. There are people in my face 100% of the time.

SingToTheSky · 20/01/2021 15:47

Doomscroll is a fab word.

I am feeling better the last couple of days thanks to some extra exercise. Ringfit on switch is really fun and I got my weights out again. It does make me end up ignoring other stuff even more though but I know it’s better than nothing and at least gets the endorphins going.

rookiemere · 20/01/2021 16:16

My neighbour caught me running in foot deep snow this morning. Running outside appears to be the only thing that gives me enough oomph to get through the day. Used to get the same effect from my outdoor group exercise classes- now they're on Zoom I can scarcely be bothered to move in them

LemonSherbetFancies · 20/01/2021 17:51

Bad day today,
Missing DP dreadfully. Haven't seen him since Christmas.
Seems like a lifetime until we will be able to enjoy the fun events we used to do every weekend.

ScruffGin · 20/01/2021 21:20

I have no motivation for anything currently... Can't be bothered to clean up or do anything. Not sure how to perk myself up tbh. Unfortunately I think the answer is exercise but can't be bothered to try Grin

blueleonburger · 20/01/2021 21:38

Same. It really hit me yesterday and continuing on today. Really been going on since new year. I just feel so hopeless. Like there is nothing to look forward to anymore. No joy. I feel very isolated with DH who bless him is lovely but driving me slowly insane. Lots of things to be getting on with work and projects and zero motivation to do them. Not seen my family all year and this close to breaking the rules and giving them a fucking hug. I don’t even have kids.

tigerbear · 20/01/2021 22:14

Anyone else really, really gone off sex too?
😬
Just cannot be bothered.

thepeopleversuswork · 20/01/2021 22:47

The thing that has really shocked me is how utterly screen addicted I have become. I've always had online "guilty pleasures": reading the papers/MN/FB etc just for a bit of downtime but its really out of hand now.

I work long hours but I am wasting an astonishing amount of time idly surfing the web for fuck all. I'm normally a pretty avid reader and I'm having to actually force myself to go and read a book. My attention span is about 30 seconds.

The thing is at the moment there's no escape from it because a) you have to be on it for work and b) there's fuck all else to do with your downtime.

My MH generally has held up reasonably well throughout this but I am quite disturbed at how addicted I have become to mindless surfing.

tigerbear · 20/01/2021 22:57

@thepeopleversuswork agree.
I think I posted up thread that my average screen time is over 5 hours a day (mainly on here). 😬

IckyPop · 20/01/2021 23:37

Yep, except I can't even manage going for a walk each day. Had enough Thanks

DahliaMacNamara · 20/01/2021 23:55

Can't even be arsed to go to bed, FFS. I will, of course, but it's something I'll have to force myself to do, like putting a wash on or making the dinner.

Yohoheaveho · 20/01/2021 23:59

To be fair (and to echo a previous poster)I have always found January to be a tough month... psychologically
I feel we can reasonably hope for a lift in mood as as the days lengthen
Hang on in there ya'll😊

79Beastie · 21/01/2021 01:06

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sally067 · 21/01/2021 01:14

I'm really struggling with work. Instead of logging on in the morning I just want to pull up a chair by my lounge window and just look out the windows for 8 hours a day rather than work.

Userzzz · 21/01/2021 02:30

@79Beastie agree. I’m so depressed, there’s no going back to our old way of life.
The other day my friend called crying, said her friend died of COVID, but well, actually, she was in the hospital with advanced cancer. 3 years ago my cousins daughter had leukemia, got the flu, lead to pneumonia and she died. Nobody ever said she died of pneumonia as she died from leukemia. This shift in thinking is very dangerous.

Oysterbabe · 21/01/2021 06:56

@tigerbear

Anyone else really, really gone off sex too? 😬 Just cannot be bothered.
Yep. No interest at all.
salcombebabe · 21/01/2021 07:11

I’m the same, got no motivation to do anything, keep meaning to do online Pilates as I’ve got acute sciatica too but can’t even be bothered to do that. The highlight of my week is the visit to the chiropractor. I haven’t worn make up since September so bought myself a new foundation (online) thinking that might make a difference, but no it’s sitting in my make up bag waiting for the day I can be bothered.

Fembot123 · 21/01/2021 07:18

@79Beastie

Yep, and this is exactly where the gov wants us all to be, right down at the bottom, pissed off with life, hating home schooling, pissed off with boring walks, not seeing family, loosing your jobs, taking away everything you love and miss. At first everyone wanted this lockdown, clapping for the NHS, everyone wanted to isolate and follow the rules and they all got their wish. But now it's getting boring, things are getting stricter, people are losing jobs, home schooling is getting harder but guess what.. we have all allowed this. We all now believe the numbers that are thrown at us. All these numbers are supposedly of people who have died of covid. Well apparently everyone these days dies of covid according to the numbers. Not because people die of illnesses like those who have say cancer, heart attacks, diabetes, stroke, car accidents etc or people who have been seriously ill and have had treatments stopped because of covid. No, nobody now is allowed to die of anything else but covid 19 you get the gist yet? All these people are counted as covid deaths and the Joe public are falling for it. So now guess what, phase 1 is complete we all believe this bullshit and we will do anything now to get our life's back. We want to get some normality back but because this is drilled in to us we will do anything now. In a couple of months we will welcome the next set of rules, like when kids go back to school. phase 2. Now that we are desperate to get back to normality we will do anything, agree to any new rules, have an injection that nobody knows what the side effects will bedown the line. well that's what they want us to do. It's like in the forces, they break you down to build you back up again. Luckily some people are starting to figure this out. All the gov wants is control, if everyone read all the facts, reports that are out there, not the reports that are getting money from the gov, then you will see that we are all being taken for fools. At this stage we will all probably believe and agree to any new rules that we are given just so we can get back to normal. But unfortunately, things will never be the same.
To what ends 🤷‍♀️
TomatoesAreFruit · 21/01/2021 07:31

I feel that I am just going through thr motions of life. Sleep, eat, work, look after DS, watch TV, talk to DH. Same conversations.

Ring family - end up talking about the virus.

I treated to myself to a Pret lunch yesterday via uber eats. It was ridiculously expensive but felt like self-care.

I dont believe that all the government wants is to comtrol as said uptrend. Boris wants the good times and the Conservatives hate increasing welfare/ benefits that they keep on having to do.

But this life is truly relentless.