To ask for your favourite things about your DS?

[Orangebitters]

I am pregnant and will find out the sex in a few weeks. Many people will find this irrational, but I can’t control this feeling- I’m terrified of it being a boy.

I think this is down to the fact that I have a terrible relationship with my older brother. He was an aggressive, violent, miserable bully my whole childhood and it didn’t improve as he aged- I went no contact with him a few years ago. All of my impressions of what little boys are like are tied up with him, and I’m scared that I won’t be able to bond with a DS. Of course girls can have behavioural issues too, but it seems so much more common with boys.

I also feel girls are more likely to be close to their parents in the long term (based on my brother, who has minimal contact with my parents now, but also other families). Boys seem to grow up and sort of do their own thing- but girls always stay close.

This pregnancy was unplanned and I’m just about coming to terms with it. Finding out it’s a boy will be tough, so I’m trying to prepare myself.

AIBU to ask for help here? I’d love to hear people’s positive experiences on having a boy. What did you love about it? Did you prefer it to having a girl? Did anyone really really want a boy and feel the same way that I do about having a girl?

Oh yeah, and he slept through from 5 months, 12 hours a night, with a 3 hour nap during lunch. Easy peasy

I have two sons and they are both amazing. When I was pregnant with both, I would have quite liked a girl but now I would not have it any other way. My two are 11 and 13 and are very different kids so there is no predicting what your baby will be like but if you raise them well and correct bad behaviour, bullying or meanness will not be an issue.

My oldest thinks he is the man of the family and insists on carrying the shopping and lifting heavy things despite me still be much stronger and my youngest is so sweet and does things like save his pocket money to surprise me with special presents and make me breakfast in bed.

They can definitely be boisterous and like typical boy stuff like gaming and football but I think every child is different, boy or girl and as long as you love them and treat them fairly they will love you too.

I have two sons aged (almost) 7 and 3 and they’re are AMAZING for 100’s of reasons!!!

If I were to have another child I would want another boy without a doubt.

The more I watched my boys grow into their wonderful characters the less I felt like I’d missed out on having a daughter.

@Twixmas ❤ 🤍 💙

I have 2 DS aged 8 and 13. In comparison with my nieces, they are a walk in the park. They are loving, come for cuddles for no reason, kind, thoughtful and absolutely do not screech in that high pitched tone my nieces have.

2 Girls and 2 boys here. Eldest two are boys aged 6 and 7. My eldest is so responsible. If I ask him to get/do something you can trust he will do it. He does get boisterous with his brother who is equally caring and responsible. They both play with their younger sister aged 4 and 2 and they have their moments but on a whole they get on really well. We get lots of affection and love from them. They are naughty ocassionaly but what child isn't. I'm aware I am very lucky with my kids. Boys are great too OP especially as he is the oldest. Of you have other. I used to remind my eldest when I was pregnant how such a big boy he was and how he can help with the baby and how proud I was etc. You will be fine OP and good luck x

@Flowerbunty

I have 2 DS aged 8 and 13. In comparison with my nieces, they are a walk in the park. They are loving, come for cuddles for no reason, kind, thoughtful and absolutely do not screech in that high pitched tone my nieces have.

Oh look, another negative comment about girls.

Why can’t we have a positive thread about boys without people slagging off girls, some aunt you are 😮

I only had my DS only 10 weeks ago and he is already the light of my life. I didn't mind what sex my baby was but for some reason I thought it would be a girl. I'm one of three girls and I guess it was just the 'known'. When I go on to have a second I honestly wouldn't mind either way. His beautiful little smile makes my day every day!

Ds 18 is loving, tells me he loves me a lot plus loads more. He is brilliant with all his little cousins and buys me takeaways

Me and my 4 brothers spent our childhood beating the shit out of each other 😂 we are all close now so don't waste time worrying it will be like yours because the chances are, it won't

BTW ds gets on great with dd 14 and if they do bicker I step in until its resolved. Its all to do with how there parented aswell imo, I wouldn't allow that shit to happen between them

I know you’ve had a lot of responses but just thought I’d add that my DS (almost 5) is the light of my life - loving, affectionate, funny, kind and thoughtful. Plenty of time for him to turn into a grumpy teenager of course but so far so good. I also have a really lovely (adult) brother who was a kind and generous child, a very funny teenager who was always willing to let his annoying little sis tag along with him and his much cooler mates, and as an adult is still lovely and very close to our parents. So try not to worry!

I have two boys. They are very affectionate more so than a lot of my friends girls. Boys are great I find it easy to entertain them at the moment. My only worry is when they grow up, as boys they may not feel the need to visit as much as a Daughter would but time will tell.

My baby DS is now 26 & 6’3. He’s always been loving and kind. He’s quirky and sometimes challenging but never cruel. He adores his little sister and has spent her entire life looking out for her. She loves him too and I’m sure it’s a lifelong bond.

@hardboiledeggs

I have two boys. They are very affectionate more so than a lot of my friends girls. Boys are great I find it easy to entertain them at the moment. My only worry is when they grow up, as boys they may not feel the need to visit as much as a Daughter would but time will tell.

How do you know that about your friends children 😂

My DS 3 is so much cheeky, funny and loves being outdoors! He loves making mud pies, climbing and splashing in puddles.
He's very energetic but is so loving at the same time, he loves playing doctors and fixing people and teddies and is quite a handful at times.