Shopping alone during lock down

[AnxiousSM]

This applies to the current lockdown not in general.
Why can’t people shop alone? The only exception to this would be a parent with a child they don’t have childcare for. Zero excuse for family outings to the supermarket. If you have to be driven then can’t partner stay in the car?
All this bollocks about being unable to shop alone, there’s no reasonable excuse.

I agree with you but you'll get lots of responses of all the reasons on earth why people can't, you'll be accused of being judgy, so no point discussing it really. People will do what they want to do. I popped into Herons for supplies last night on my own but I was the only one. Lots of adults in couples, dads and teenage sons. Kids in droves. If it's not enforced severely, people will do what they want like they have all year.

I agree to some extent. Simply put, some people NEED a carer with them, and single parents NEED to take their children. Everyone else should shop alone. Its not a day out. There have been a lot of threads full of excuses though. The best one being 'I don't trust my DH to shop alone'

Each to their own though. There will be more excuses that the supermarket is a family day out on this thread I'm sure.

I went with my son in the first lockdown. I’d had very recent gallbladder surgery.

I wanted him to push the trolley and do the bag lifting. I needed to pay.

I didn’t think that was particularly unreasonable.

I’m a FTM with a baby not big enough to sit in a trolley. I try to shop with my mum when I can as I can’t push a pram & a trolley & I don’t have a car seat that comes out the car (joie 360 spin). My partner works away so he can’t always go for us. I think people need to stop judging others all the time & focus on their own lives, you don’t know people’s circumstances

@TopSecretSquirrel

I went with my son in the first lockdown. I’d had very recent gallbladder surgery.

I wanted him to push the trolley and do the bag lifting. I needed to pay.

I didn’t think that was particularly unreasonable.

This is the thing. You have will never know if someone has a genuine need so best just let folk go about their shopping without judgement.

@TopSecretSquirrel perhaps I should have said there are some reasonable exceptions, such as your example. But for people not needing support due to medical conditions, and parents unable to get childcare, there are no valid reasons.

@Newmama29 why can’t your mum get your shopping?

Yeah. It's the third lockdown. Outside of lockdown we love to shop together (which was on one thread called controlling and weird😂😂😂), but during lockdowns, we obviously aren't.

Because sometimes people that live in the same house want to buy and pay for things separately.

This has come up a lot recently on here.

The advice is to shop alone if possible. There will be a handful of reasons why some people cannot do this.

All threads like this do is become an endless list of posters declaring why they personally can't.

Can your Mam not watch an immobile baby for 30 minutes @newmama29?

I don't care what you do, I don't go in shops, but the excuses are laughable. If you wanted to shop alone you could, you just don't want to.

@NailsNeedDoing

Because sometimes people that live in the same house want to buy and pay for things separately.

That's really not excuse. Paypal it to each other or smth

I think too many people see shopping as a social activity and a morning or afternoon out, which is why in normal times people don't shop alone. There may sadly be some who are going out to escape some unpleasant aspect of life at home.

Not that I agree with shopping as a group unless there are reasons such as no alternative childcare (even then why not shop at a different time) or someone who cannot carry shopping because of disability.

@Newmama29

I’m a FTM with a baby not big enough to sit in a trolley. I try to shop with my mum when I can as I can’t push a pram & a trolley & I don’t have a car seat that comes out the car (joie 360 spin). My partner works away so he can’t always go for us. I think people need to stop judging others all the time & focus on their own lives, you don’t know people’s circumstances

Why doesn't your mum watch your baby? This is so lame

Real life = totally reasonable

Mumsnet minority = everyone who dares says I shop alone is a complete bastard, hysterically spouting a million excuses as to why they shouldn’t have to.

What I want to know is (aside from the very few genuine people that need to be accompanied), why does anyone want to take the family with them? Couldn’t think of anything worse!

Maybe because when I get to go to a shop it’s the only interaction with other adults I have in weeks. I wish people would stop telling others what to do. It must be great to live such a perfect life that you can do nothing wrong.

If I’m honest, I’m more annoyed about people in shops that come right up my arse when I’m trying to get something off the shelf or wearing their mask on their chin than I am with people shopping in pairs

Me and my partner don't live together (he is not my kids dad) he lives alone and I'm a single parent household so we formed a syppirr bubble. I don't have a car and he takes me food shopping and we usually share a trolley but he has his stuff and I have mine. We look like the same household out shopping together. My friend takes her mum shopping who she is bubbled up with as her mum doesn't drive. It's not always as it seems.

I’m with you OP, pandemic or not. I cannot understand why entire families go on shopping trips. DC crying as they troop round the aisles. Bored men traipsing round after women in M&S. I posted about this in the past and got told toddlers were being trained about budgets and it was a chance for quality family time!

@AldiIsla

Can your Mam not watch an immobile baby for 30 minutes *@newmama29*?

I don't care what you do, I don't go in shops, but the excuses are laughable. If you wanted to shop alone you could, you just don't want to.

Or give her a list and she can do your shopping. She can go in the shop and you wait in the car, or stay at home. Or she can stay in the car with the baby and you go in the shop. There seem to be quite a few solutions.

Support**

Some people might need help carrying stuff home.
Some people are fussy eaters and need to choose for themselves.
Some people get anxious on their own.

It really is Groundhog Day isn't it?

Another thread on this? Really?

My support bubble single household young adult would have to shop every few days alone or once a fortnight with me. We share a trolley so less cross contamination with the GP but outwardly we look like 2 people shopping together.
I stand by our one trip a fortnight together has less impact on how we would both individually shop