Shopping alone during lock down

[AnxiousSM]

This applies to the current lockdown not in general.
Why can’t people shop alone? The only exception to this would be a parent with a child they don’t have childcare for. Zero excuse for family outings to the supermarket. If you have to be driven then can’t partner stay in the car?
All this bollocks about being unable to shop alone, there’s no reasonable excuse.

I don’t spend my life on MN so I haven’t seen the other threads on this. So many apologies for annoying you with a similar thread.

All the one way systems do is force people down every single bloody aisle in the place when they don't have to be there. Thereby coming into contact with even more people. They make no sense

Sorry I thought you could have interaction with people without them being up your arse? I stand corrected 🙄

YANBU I don't get it either. I hate shopping so would never choose to go if I didn't have to, even in normal times let alone in a pandemic!

How can people get wound up about this when you can still go to a garden centre, and do so many other non essential activities? Maybe people just want to get out the house and have some sort of contact or semblance of normal life as life is devoid of such activities. Maybe people are sick of the arbitrary rules, along with all the other reasons people shop with someone else. People were frightened last March, less so now.

I took my 20 month old to Morrison’s today, dh stayed home with older kids. First trip to the supermarket since December 22nd. Seemed better than the local village shop that is busy with the many construction workers from outside areas buying there goods daily since work began in January.

YANBU at all but everyone breaking the rules will think their reason for doing so is special and unique and not care that loads of other people in the same circumstance are still following the rules. People are selfish.

Why on earth are people taking their baby to a supermarket instead of leaving them with their mum...who has to go shopping with them! Absolutely bonkers!

One way system was an awful idea. Forced you to go along aisles you didn't need to go into and made the shopping trip much longer

You know fuck all about my disabilities and what I can and can't do so keep your ignorance and prejudice to yourself in future please. Being disabled is not a fucking crime.

What is it with these fucking brain dead thick arseholes of men that can’t shop . Fucking hell !!
If I sent my DH out for fruit he’s unlikely to come back with a fucking pushchair is he
If I particularly want gala apples and the only had Granny Smiths he’s either A) going to phone me or B ) make his own judgement about how why I can only eat Gala or I prefer Gala and that Gala and Granny Smiths are very different so he’d get similar
If he does come back with a pushchair instead of fruit you need to wonder why you married such a stupid bastard

I don’t get it either. Surely it’s common sense to go alone and as little as possible. Quite why anyone would want to take children unless really no other choice I’m not sure as not worth the risk surely.

Many seem to think it’s a family outing, a daily event, ways to catch up with friends, fancy a bottle of wine or chocolate etc rather than leaving the home for essentials only.

I shop alone wherever possible but a handful of times I have had to shop with the assistance of my DM who is bubbled with us.

Most recently I had a situation where DH was supposed to be off work so could watch DS whilst I went to the shops. He got called in last minute.
He had no more days off for over a week
We’d run out of everything (because I’d been waiting to go on his planned day off).

I am pregnant and had my baby in tow.
No click and collects or delivery’s within 5-7 days.
My DM who we are bubbled with was going to do her shop but on a tight time limit herself.

I drove to the supermarket to meet her and we both shopped into the same large trolley/ stuffed things under the pram. It was a dead quiet week day morning. I felt still like a criminal.

I would have taken a list in for my mum but I’m slower than her. She didn’t want to take a list in for me as we needed loads (including baby supplies) and she didn’t want to faff with finding it all. She was on a time limit and could have done without me tagging along anyway.

It sucked. It was not my first choice but not sure what else I could have done.

I think you should be kind to people whose situations might well be a ‘one off’ and just plain difficult.

@EcoCustard

How can people get wound up about this when you can still go to a garden centre, and do so many other non essential activities? Maybe people just want to get out the house and have some sort of contact or semblance of normal life as life is devoid of such activities. Maybe people are sick of the arbitrary rules, along with all the other reasons people shop with someone else. People were frightened last March, less so now. I took my 20 month old to Morrison’s today, dh stayed home with older kids. First trip to the supermarket since December 22nd. Seemed better than the local village shop that is busy with the many construction workers from outside areas buying there goods daily since work began in January.

Probably because you can easily choose to avoid a garden centre but everyone needs food It's not a social club ffs we are living in a pandemic, why does everyone feel it doesnt apply to them cos they fancy some social interaction

My Dh does the shopping since he is the driver. I have to say that I am always at some stories here of DHs shopping. They are adults... This is why I wouldn't date someone who didn't live by themselves...

We have all given up a lot in the last year and frankly, it's starting to grate that while I, and many others, are keepping up to rules, many others are taking a piss and we are in third lockdown and what the fuck is the point of me not doing stuff when others don't think twice.

That's why people are getting angrier.

And I swear to god, they should start neutering the healthy people with masks below their noses. We don't need that DNA in the genepool.🤦

I picked my daughter up from an appointment the other day , Tesco was on the way home so I went in, she waited in the car
She didn’t need to or want to come in
There’s a whole list of why people can’t go by themselves. Carers , disabled people , I read on here yesterday that the mother had Alzheimer’s and couldn’t be left so had to go with her husband and rightly so too . I’m sure they were wrongly judged
My DIL has to take her 2 eldest children sometimes because there are 2 adults and 5 children in the house and she cannot carry it all herself again rightly so

And btw I say this as a single parent who hasnt seen another adult in weeks and funnily enough I manage.

@NailsNeedDoing

Because sometimes people that live in the same house want to buy and pay for things separately.

well maybe this is the time to think less of what they want, and step up and do something for the wider good. i guess many staff struggling in ICUs would rather have go skiing, or have an easier job, but they push themselves every day, emotionally as well as physically, to try to keep as many of us alive as possible. and some of us can't be bothered to make an effort to put off doing exactly what we want.

We don’t have a shop in our village so it’s a once a week supermarket job.
DH can eat at work so it’s me and DS who would have been left without.

I could have gone alone and bought a small amount I could fit under the pram but then I’d have been back a few days later, then a few days after that. Surely there’s a balance between shopping together in a dead supermarket and having to make multiple visits alone with a baby

@Pumpertrumper

We don’t have a shop in our village so it’s a once a week supermarket job. DH can eat at work so it’s me and DS who would have been left without.

I could have gone alone and bought a small amount I could fit under the pram but then I’d have been back a few days later, then a few days after that. Surely there’s a balance between shopping together in a dead supermarket and having to make multiple visits alone with a baby

Did you both go in? Or did one of you wait in the car?

Because as you will see from all the responses - people convince themselves that what they are doing is ok. Same with schools really isn’t it - you could keep your child at home as the rest of us have to if you have one parent at home but people excuse their selfishness to themselves. What they are doing is fine for xxxx blah reason. It really is time for us all to think of the greater good and the overwhelmed hospitals and change our behaviour but we don’t.

Maybe because when I get to go to a shop it’s the only interaction with other adults I have in weeks

No one is questioning you going shopping for the "interaction" you get besides your mum, but it's the fact you could do that alone and still get that interaction.

It just a case of all trying to do our bit, but obviously there are cases where this is Just not possible and cases of where people are just not willing, and that is 2 very different things sadly.

@Pumpertrumper

We don’t have a shop in our village so it’s a once a week supermarket job. DH can eat at work so it’s me and DS who would have been left without.

I could have gone alone and bought a small amount I could fit under the pram but then I’d have been back a few days later, then a few days after that. Surely there’s a balance between shopping together in a dead supermarket and having to make multiple visits alone with a baby

Unless one of you waited in the car then why on earth didn’t one of you go once DH back from work or on the weekend? I am genuinely baffled as to why you think this is ok

• well maybe this is the time to think less of what they want, and step up and do something for the wider good. i guess many staff struggling in ICUs would rather have go skiing, or have an easier job, but they push themselves every day, emotionally as well as physically, to try to keep as many of us alive as possible. and some of us can't be bothered to make an effort to put off doing exactly what we want.*

Hear bloody hear!

@Newmama29

Oh god forbid, me an adult, chooses to do what I like without the pandemic police having their input. It’s not against “the rules”, therefore mind your own business

Do you not think we should have any rules about it? What if everyone did what they want and the NHS became even more overwhelmed? Do you have to sort it out? No probably not.