Page 6 | Shopping alone during lock down

AnxiousSM · 2021-01-16T16:59:32+00:00

This applies to the current lockdown not in general. Why can’t people shop alone? The only exception to this would be a parent with a child they don’t have childcare for. Zero excuse for family outings to the supermarket. If you have to be driven then can’t partner stay in the car? All this bollocks about being unable to shop alone, there’s no reasonable excuse.

arethereanyleftatall · 16/01/2021 18:58

@FrameyMcFrame
Yes, I would leave an 11 year old home alone. It's safer for him there than at the supermarket at the moment. Round my way (amd I think people tend to do what they see other parents doing) around 9 is the age you leave children home for for a short time. Or my kids go to the park next to the supermarket whilst I shop. Or let him go for a walk whilst you shop (they're encouraged to walk to school alone from y5/9yo because it's good for their independence)

EmilyInParis · 16/01/2021 18:59

About 25 posts back down that way love when you started to get all shouty at everyone claiming you were being discriminated against, when, plot twist, you're not...

Self appointed. You're welcome.

HangOnToYourself · 16/01/2021 18:59

And I'm sorry you have had a rough time but you are not the only one by a long shot, feeling sad doesnt make you less likely to spread covid though does it?

plg21 · 16/01/2021 19:00

I think the point is the difference between those that have to shop with someone else and those that choose to. They are some people that clearly fall into the latter category.

And yes, it's great if people who can manage to shop alone do so. I've had quite bad arthritis since childhood which makes lugging shopping around and pushing a full trolley painful. It would be a good reason to have one of my teenage sons or husband accompany me. But, at the moment, I feel I should manage on my own, or my husband went today instead.

I fully understand that not all people can manage without help or have young kids they have to bring along. That's not a problem. But it would help everyone if the rest of us made an effort to shop alone if we can.

SandrasAnnoyingFriend · 16/01/2021 19:00

I don't drive and wouldn't choose to get in a taxi if it was in any way avoidable. So I took my 18yo to carry bags back with me.
The alternative was multiple trips, probably increasing the risk more.

Whyistheteacold · 16/01/2021 19:01

@AllPlayedOut who said that disabled people shouldn't be seen in public?? I genuinely think that you need to read the actual words people are saying rather than making ridiculous claims up. You complain that lockdown has gone on for a year already, and it will continue to do so until the infection rates decline, which won't happen while people are inventing reasons that the rules don't apply to them. As I already said, I agree that getting out of the house is important. I do not agree (and neither do a lot of other people) that going grocery shopping is the time or place for that.

ThePricklySheep · 16/01/2021 19:01

@Newmama29

I’m a FTM with a baby not big enough to sit in a trolley. I try to shop with my mum when I can as I can’t push a pram & a trolley & I don’t have a car seat that comes out the car (joie 360 spin). My partner works away so he can’t always go for us. I think people need to stop judging others all the time & focus on their own lives, you don’t know people’s circumstances

I’m not going to argue with you about covid rules, but your life might be easier if you put your baby in a trolley seat.

You can use them from newborn? I mean this type. It’s an alarming idea but it really will make things easier.

Bringonspring · 16/01/2021 19:01

Sooo boring been done already. Why don’t you get a on line shop???!

WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants · 16/01/2021 19:01

@EcoCustard

How can people get wound up about this when you can still go to a garden centre, and do so many other non essential activities? Maybe people just want to get out the house and have some sort of contact or semblance of normal life as life is devoid of such activities. Maybe people are sick of the arbitrary rules, along with all the other reasons people shop with someone else. People were frightened last March, less so now. I took my 20 month old to Morrison’s today, dh stayed home with older kids. First trip to the supermarket since December 22nd. Seemed better than the local village shop that is busy with the many construction workers from outside areas buying there goods daily since work began in January.

Is your DH not capable of looking after his toddler?

donewithitalltodayandxmas · 16/01/2021 19:02

People will always find excuses why they can't so its pointless.
Yet someone else in exactly the same position will manage .
Would rather people were honest and just said because I want to .

Littlecaf · 16/01/2021 19:03

Went Tescos today and they were enforcing it - lady at the door saying “one adult per household only”, asking teenager children and the other adult to stay in the car, asking lone parents to put their toddlers in the trolley and not let the walk around. Also asking everyone customer to keep their masks on etc and santise their hands etc. Was impressed!

AllPlayedOut · 16/01/2021 19:03

*About 25 posts back down that way love when you started to get all shouty at everyone claiming you were being discriminated against, when, plot twist, you're not...

Self appointed. You're welcome.*

Yes because saying that people with genuine disabilities shouldn't shop isn't discrimination. I guess it isn't an issue if you don't give a flying fuck about people who are disabled.

Iamclearlyamug · 16/01/2021 19:04

I saw this at Sainsbury’s this morning. A couple with a smallish baby getting out of their car - the trolley man who happened to be walking by warned them that the store were enforcing the one adult only rule and that one adult would need to stay in the car. Cue a fair amount of abuse and then the dad getting back in the car, and the mum strapping the baby into the trolley. Couldn’t understand why dad didn’t keep the baby in the car while the mum shopped or vice versa. Or better yet why not one of them stay at home with the baby while the other adult shopped. I just don’t see the need to treat the food shop as a family day out 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️ before anyone asks I’m a single parent to a just turned 9 year old who would very happily stay in the car on her iPad but I just KNOW I’d get judgmental comments about her being left (as she looks young for her age) so she comes in with me, but incredibly well behaved and wears a mask

AllPlayedOut · 16/01/2021 19:05

And I'm sorry you have had a rough time but you are not the only one by a long shot, feeling sad doesnt make you less likely to spread covid though does it?

You're not one iota sorry, and I've no desire for you to be so please don't patronise me like that.

EmilyInParis · 16/01/2021 19:05

@AllPlayedOut

*About 25 posts back down that way love when you started to get all shouty at everyone claiming you were being discriminated against, when, plot twist, you're not...

Self appointed. You're welcome.*

Yes because saying that people with genuine disabilities shouldn't shop isn't discrimination. I guess it isn't an issue if you don't give a flying fuck about people who are disabled.

Can you not read?

Pinkfreesias · 16/01/2021 19:06

YABVU. Since becoming disabled I don't get out much so I like to browse the magazine racks while my husband gets the shopping in. Sometimes I look at the clothes, too. Why should I be even more housebound than usual?

Some people have no thought for the frail or disabled. I need my husband to take me as I don't feel safe to drive any more.

Stop being selfish, thoughtless and uncaring. Try putting yourself in someone else's shoes for a change.

ElizaLaLa · 16/01/2021 19:06

I’m a FTM with a baby not big enough to sit in a trolley. I try to shop with my mum when I can as I can’t push a pram & a trolley & I don’t have a car seat that comes out the car (joie 360 spin). My partner works away so he can’t always go for us. I think people need to stop judging others all the time & focus on their own lives, you don’t know people’s circumstances

Get a sling.

donewithitalltodayandxmas · 16/01/2021 19:07

@sandrasannoyingfriend or your 18 year old could sit in the car and when you walk with trolley to the car he can help with bags then, ?
So really you did it because you wanted not because you really needed like a disabled person might or a single parent with one child

AllPlayedOut · 16/01/2021 19:07

Can you not read?

I can. Would you like me to teach you? I don't hold out much hope but we can try.

HangOnToYourself · 16/01/2021 19:09

@AllPlayedOut

And I'm sorry you have had a rough time but you are not the only one by a long shot, feeling sad doesnt make you less likely to spread covid though does it?

You're not one iota sorry, and I've no desire for you to be so please don't patronise me like that.

Literally wasn't even talking to you but good job showing how you arent totally overreacting to comments and making up claims of disablism...

EmilyInParis · 16/01/2021 19:09

@AllPlayedOut

Can you not read?

I can. Would you like me to teach you? I don't hold out much hope but we can try.

Well this is awkward isn't it?

Because I would say 90% of the people on this thread don't think you are reading their replies..

donewithitalltodayandxmas · 16/01/2021 19:10

When more shops start enforcing lots will be in for a shock.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 16/01/2021 19:10

@Bringonspring

Sooo boring been done already. Why don’t you get a on line shop???!

Well we could all do an online shop, instead of being in a supermarket with people with no masks and in groups. Or we could be smarter and leave the slots for people who really need them and can't go to supermarket because every third person is an exempt from this and that and poses risk to them.

HangOnToYourself · 16/01/2021 19:11

@Pinkfreesias

YABVU. Since becoming disabled I don't get out much so I like to browse the magazine racks while my husband gets the shopping in. Sometimes I look at the clothes, too. Why should I be even more housebound than usual?

Some people have no thought for the frail or disabled. I need my husband to take me as I don't feel safe to drive any more.

Stop being selfish, thoughtless and uncaring. Try putting yourself in someone else's shoes for a change.

But why do you need to go to the shops? Why cant you go for a walk if you want to get out of the house? Wanting to look at magazines and clothes is not an essential reason to go to the shops fgs 🤦‍♀️ I would love to go to a bar for a cocktail but seeing as how we are in a national crisis I cant 🙄

WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants · 16/01/2021 19:12

@Rosebel

If you don't like it don't go shopping. Order it online and then you don't have to see it. Mostly I do shop alone (well with my baby) but occasionally I go with my husband.

Why do you sometimes shop with your DH?

The staff can't choose to stay home
The people who can't shop online can't choose that
The people who can't get slits can't shop on line

On the other hand you can chose not to add to the risk level because you fancy shopping together.

Plus community spread affects everyone not just the people you come in direct
Contact with.