Shopping alone during lock down

[AnxiousSM]

This applies to the current lockdown not in general.
Why can’t people shop alone? The only exception to this would be a parent with a child they don’t have childcare for. Zero excuse for family outings to the supermarket. If you have to be driven then can’t partner stay in the car?
All this bollocks about being unable to shop alone, there’s no reasonable excuse.

If you don't like it don't go shopping. Order it online and then you don't have to see it.
Mostly I do shop alone (well with my baby) but occasionally I go with my husband.

@Newmama29

I’m a FTM with a baby not big enough to sit in a trolley. I try to shop with my mum when I can as I can’t push a pram & a trolley & I don’t have a car seat that comes out the car (joie 360 spin). My partner works away so he can’t always go for us. I think people need to stop judging others all the time & focus on their own lives, you don’t know people’s circumstances

There are trolleys you place a car seat on.

There are also trolleys with reclining seats for babies.

Your mum could look after your baby.

You don't need to go with your mum.

@AllPlayedOut who said that being disabled is a crime?? Calm down. I agree that getting out of the house is important, as is being independent. But both of these things can be achieved without endangering supermarket workers, yourself and other people who are actually trying to follow the rules and keep safe. It's a pandemic, no one is saying shop alone forever

It's been almost a fucking year! And no I will not calm down when people are spouting such spite and ignorance towards people with disabilities.

I've followed the rules and I'm getting sick of the self pitying justifications that people are coming out with, now.

One of the worst things about the virus is it's brought out the fucking worst in a lot or people, including me now. How are we ever going to tolerate one another again now we know - really KNOW - what a bunch of selfish fuckwits we share this island with.

It's been almost a fucking year!

That's why we are having enough🤷🏻 Third "lockdown". Third

I agree. I have been going myself, shopping for a family of 5 plus my dad, since March. It would be far easier to bring my 17yo dd, as I can't fit all the shopping on the belt so have to pack at speed, but the cashiers are patient, and it not that much of a hardship.
I get there are some people that can't shop alone, but I really don't get a trip to a supermarket as a day out . Even if there wasn't a pandemic! I hate it!

Basically people are doing what they want and justify it with every excuse under the sun. Newmama is the perfect example. Numerous solutions but basically she wants to go shopping with mum and baby so she will. End of.

I've gone with my support bubble although we stood apart in the queue - we were let in alone & joined forces inside.
In fact he was let in first & I had to wait outside for a few minutes until other people came out.

That's why we are having enough🤷🏻 Third "lockdown". Third

Because disabled people dare to venture out? You miserable judgemental lot won't be happy until we're all nailed in our homes and have our daily allowance of gruel posted through the letterbox.

My parents shop together as my mum is disabled and dad doesn't have a clue what to buy.

@AllPlayedOut

That's why we are having enough🤷🏻 Third "lockdown". Third

Because disabled people dare to venture out? You miserable judgemental lot won't be happy until we're all nailed in our homes and have our daily allowance of gruel posted through the letterbox.

No🙄 By people going in twos or groups when it's not necessary

@QuestionableMouse

My parents shop together as my mum is disabled and dad doesn't have a clue what to buy.

Has he heard of a newfangled invention called a shopping list?

@Newmama29

Maybe because when I get to go to a shop it’s the only interaction with other adults I have in weeks. I wish people would stop telling others what to do. It must be great to live such a perfect life that you can do nothing wrong.

If I’m honest, I’m more annoyed about people in shops that come right up my arse when I’m trying to get something off the shelf or wearing their mask on their chin than I am with people shopping in pairs

Have you tried a sling? Even before covid, most of us don't have an adult to come to the shops with us, that's what I always did. Or online shopping is still an option, and then meeting your mum (or another person) outside for a walk.

@AnxiousSM

I don’t spend my life on MN so I haven’t seen the other threads on this. So many apologies for annoying you with a similar thread.

You don't need to spend your life on mn to have seen one of these threads. There's one everyday!

Aye, @AllPlayedOut, my baby has never been to a baby group, a soft play or interacted with a child his own age, long as you can choose your own grapes in Tesco though.

Cos it's Tesco or the house isn't it. No where else in the world to walk, interact or meet others safely.

My husband works away for weeks at at a time, there are no delivery slots where I am. We’re abiding by the rules and not seeing people so I’d love for someone to come and tell me I shouldn’t be taking my one year old to the shop with me.

Where are people saying that those who are disabled and need support in a shop to get essentials shouldn't be allowed to do so?

It's aimed at that those who are perfectly able and capable with zero disabilities. That's the problem.

[quote AnxiousSM]@TopSecretSquirrel perhaps I should have said there are some reasonable exceptions, such as your example. But for people not needing support due to medical conditions, and parents unable to get childcare, there are no valid reasons.[/quote]
But the thing is, you don't know why people are shopping together. On the thread the other day there were a lot of genuine reasons why people couldn't. Honestly very eye opening.

From hidden illness/disability & SEN - children & adults. Logistics of getting shopping home alone walking or public transport.

Elderly people who need each other's contribution to the process.

Daughter & mum. Mum has dementia so needs to be taken as she can't be left at home alone (but presents pretty normally)

But yes, anyone who can, should.

I live alone & have deliveries, so no skin in the game.

My husband works away for weeks at at a time, there are no delivery slots where I am. We’re abiding by the rules and not seeing people so I’d love for someone to come and tell me I shouldn’t be taking my one year old to the shop with me.
You didn't read the OP did you?

@Markies

My husband works away for weeks at at a time, there are no delivery slots where I am. We’re abiding by the rules and not seeing people so I’d love for someone to come and tell me I shouldn’t be taking my one year old to the shop with me.

No one is going to, as you have a BABY and you aren't taking half of your extended family along with you as well.

@Markies

My husband works away for weeks at at a time, there are no delivery slots where I am. We’re abiding by the rules and not seeing people so I’d love for someone to come and tell me I shouldn’t be taking my one year old to the shop with me.

Why would they? It's been well established that you can shop with children if you have no other options

Again you know nothing about my issues, my therapy or anything. Your baby isn't my concern. My mental health is mine. I am not willing to allow my mental health issues to get to the point where I literally can't leave home most of the time or I find myself in a stupor walking in front of cars when I do because they've gotten so bad. I'm not going there again. It'd take very little for me to lose two years of my life again as I did before due to my problems. I'll do anything to prevent that.

Where are people saying that those who are disabled and need support in a shop to get essentials shouldn't be allowed to do so?

It's literally all over the thread.