Shopping alone during lock down

[AnxiousSM]

This applies to the current lockdown not in general.
Why can’t people shop alone? The only exception to this would be a parent with a child they don’t have childcare for. Zero excuse for family outings to the supermarket. If you have to be driven then can’t partner stay in the car?
All this bollocks about being unable to shop alone, there’s no reasonable excuse.

@BowlerHatPowerHat

My husband works away for weeks at at a time, there are no delivery slots where I am. We’re abiding by the rules and not seeing people so I’d love for someone to come and tell me I shouldn’t be taking my one year old to the shop with me. You didn't read the OP did you?

Of course I did - but no matter what reasoning people give for not shopping solo there’s always someone biting back at them with a ridiculous solution. Hence my post 💁🏻‍♀️

I’m in a bubble with my mum so we shop together, but are in fact shopping for two houses, paying separately.

I’m a veggie converting to vegan, so there’s no chance she’d be doing my shop for me and dropping it off, and ditto me getting the lamb in for her Sunday roast.

No, my baby isn't your concern. I'm keeping him safe.

Good luck in crowded supermarkets during a pandemic with health issues. Hope everyone else you're in that shop with has more concern for others than you.

@AllPlayedOut

Where are people saying that those who are disabled and need support in a shop to get essentials shouldn't be allowed to do so?

It's literally all over the thread.

Humour me. Because all I can see is you flying off the handle at everyone tbh.

@Newmama29

I’m a FTM with a baby not big enough to sit in a trolley. I try to shop with my mum when I can as I can’t push a pram & a trolley & I don’t have a car seat that comes out the car (joie 360 spin). My partner works away so he can’t always go for us. I think people need to stop judging others all the time & focus on their own lives, you don’t know people’s circumstances

Why not out your baby in a sling?

But I guess if you're both shopping for separate houses it doesn't make much difference if you see your mum anyway (if she's your bubble & you don't have several bubbles). Though id use a sling & I'd do my mums shopping for her.

@HaveANiceFuckingDay

I picked my daughter up from an appointment the other day , Tesco was on the way home so I went in, she waited in the car She didn’t need to or want to come in There’s a whole list of why people can’t go by themselves. Carers , disabled people , I read on here yesterday that the mother had Alzheimer’s and couldn’t be left so had to go with her husband and rightly so too . I’m sure they were wrongly judged My DIL has to take her 2 eldest children sometimes because there are 2 adults and 5 children in the house and she cannot carry it all herself again rightly so

No one is arguing about carers FFS

If DILs eldest children are big enough to carry the shopping, aren't they big enough to wait outside the store while she is shopping?

I got told off for shopping with my DS who is 11

I cried... he'd been on his own all morning while I struggled to teach my sessions online in my work room

There was no food in

Dad is NHS so working

So should I have left him home alone?

So I felt in the wrong but do not want to leave DS alone. He also looks older as he's tall.. he's just 11 😥

I've mentioned that I have disabilities yet I'm still being told that I shouldn't be shopping, by more than one person.

I'm sick to death of people having to explain their reasons for shopping with a child/other adult. It's no ones business.

I waaaaay prefer shopping with DH. We both enjoy it and plan meals in advance and even DS loves it. Before pandemic we would often all together but only off peak (ie Friday night, Thursday day time). Since lockdown 1 we've only had one person going and will continue this way until things are back to normal

Before anyone says you should've got an online delivery.... my life is falling apart and I am struggling to get the basics done as I have 40 hours of work to do, no help or childcare and home schooling on top. No play dates, no family. And I'm still expected to deliver all my work and dad is working weekends as he is NHS

hopefully supermarkets moving to use security guards to challenge twats that think mask waring shouldn't apply to them, and that shopping HAS to be a group activity will reduce the problem.

Sad that they've had to do that @EveryDayIsADuvetDay but the staff are probably sick to death of risking their health due to people kicking off.

@NailsNeedDoing

Because sometimes people that live in the same house want to buy and pay for things separately.

Cant you take turns week to week?

The amount of times I see on our local FB pages people shaming door staff for turning them away because they 'can't' shop alone, they need someone with them otherwise they get anxiety

And the people claiming to be shopping for a neighbor and needing two trolleys so just have to go with someone else - bullshit

@AllPlayedOut

I've mentioned that I have disabilities yet I'm still being told that I shouldn't be shopping, by more than one person.

You're being deliberately inflammatory and you know it. I can't see anyone saying to you that you must shop alone even though you are physically unable to do so. You were challenged as you claim it to be your only way of leaving the house and was then challenged with other options you could take instead of a crowded supermarket that I presume could put you at risk with your vulnerabilities that you have stated you have.

@FrameyMcFrame

I got told off for shopping with my DS who is 11

I cried... he'd been on his own all morning while I struggled to teach my sessions online in my work room

There was no food in

Dad is NHS so working

So should I have left him home alone?

So I felt in the wrong but do not want to leave DS alone. He also looks older as he's tall.. he's just 11 😥

Try and not let it get to you. Some people are bastards. My dh comes shopping with me because I can't lift and no he can't go on his own because he has dyslexia so giving him a list wouldn't work and I couldn't keep him on the phone because our local Asda has lots of blackspots and him waiting in the car wouldn't work either. He actually doesn't go anywhere else and I work, so we are following all other guidelines. Hope that's ok with the covid police.

@HangOnToYourself no didn’t fancy some social interaction but had to do a shop, for those essentials. I took my 20 month old as after nearly two weeks of being home with his 3 siblings whilst trying to homeschool they needed some space. It was safer than the village shop as I mentioned. And rules? I didn’t know that shopping alone was a rule, more where you can.
After losing my business due to the pandemic, income, kids education and health suffering whilst in recent weeks many I know carrying on with life as the ‘rules’ allow I’ll be happy to carry taking my trolley bound 20 month old to the supermarket.

@AldiIsla

Sad that they've had to do that *@EveryDayIsADuvetDay* but the staff are probably sick to death of risking their health due to people kicking off.

This! My mum spends most days of the week on the shop floor and this year has been eye opening for her around people’s behaviour

No my disabilities do not put me at risk and as for inflammatory I'm not one of those making disablist comments at people with disabilities daring to be seen in public. But no one gives a shit about discrimination like that.

As shown by this thread, many people have ‘reasons’ most of them are crap, but not all of them. You’re not just making the decision for yourself, you’re impacting everyone else you come into contact with. Some people are selfish and brainless though so they’ll do what they want

Come back when you have a decent response @AllPlayedOut because you're just not cutting it I'm afraid.

@AllPlayedOut

No🙄 By people going in twos or groups when it's not necessary

Are you half so insufferable IRL?

Apparently I am quite ok

[quote EcoCustard]@HangOnToYourself no didn’t fancy some social interaction but had to do a shop, for those essentials. I took my 20 month old as after nearly two weeks of being home with his 3 siblings whilst trying to homeschool they needed some space. It was safer than the village shop as I mentioned. And rules? I didn’t know that shopping alone was a rule, more where you can.
After losing my business due to the pandemic, income, kids education and health suffering whilst in recent weeks many I know carrying on with life as the ‘rules’ allow I’ll be happy to carry taking my trolley bound 20 month old to the supermarket.[/quote]
But why does the space they need have to be a supermarket? Do you have a partner? If not then fair play but if you do and they are able to go shopping then I'm sorry but you are making excuses. I've been cooked up homeschooling as well and have no partner, I rely on online shops and if I need to give the kids some time out of the house we go for a walk. Literally the whole point of this thread is that supermarkets are not there for family entertainment and it is putting people at risk of dying, how are people not getting that? Your desire to take the family to the shops doeent trump peoples right to live and most supermarkets have issues guidance along these lines. As I say, if you are a single parent of course that's a different kettle of fish

When were you assigned the role of thread police?