Do you think most couples who get married in their twenties last?

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I've phrased it clumsily, sorry. Do you think couples who meet and marry in their twenties generally are seen to be more successful marriages?

I can't imagine marrying that young, I'm nothing like the person I was in my early twenties. Broke off an engagement and shudder at the fact I nearly married a massive twat. But that's on me clearly, like I say I was really immature

I'm fascinated by people who marry young and successfully grow together with their spouse, just can't imagine that experience at all! I do think it's seen as the 'right' timeline to aspire to in general.

Hard to say. We met in our teens and married at 22. On the one hand we are still married after 30 years, on the other hand, i am sick of the sight of him.

Another one here who married at 22 and 24 and still stupidly happy 32 years later. Most of our friends were a similar age and only one couple have split up.
You are not the same person at 50 that you are at 20, but your basic morals do not change.

I think I was 28 when I got married...? Im 37 now and have been with DH 15 years, so got together when I was 22 I think. Gosh that sounds really young, but it definitely didn't seem it at the time, and most of my close friends met their now husbands at around the same time and are still with them now. I think it's just different for everyone. Meeting and marrying in your twenties seems pretty standard for me, then having kids early 30s after being together for a while 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Met at 21 and got married at 23, still happily married now more than 18 years later.

Married a very wealthy man at 24. Stupid idea. Very controlling. Left him at 33. Now 40 with a fiancé who earns not much more than minimum wage and very happy.

Met DH when I was 21, got together when I was 25, married at 27. He's 3 years older. Still married 31 years later.

Sure someone must have said this already..you grow together or grow apart. The shared experiences of Iife can be good or bad for a relationship. It's different for everyone.

I met my husband at 18, 42 now. Love him to bits, loved him more when we set up home, became parents, went on special holidays, shared ups and downs. It is exactly those things that can make you realise you are unhappy with someone though.

Totally depends on the people involved. The nastiest split/divorce I’ve witnessed within my friend group was between a couple who’d met and married in their mid-30’s.

I think it’s more to do with readiness and commitment to the relationship. As a PP said, you have to let your partner grow and change, whatever age you get together.

We met at twenty, engaged at 21, and still going now, age of 49.

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Isn't it quite normal to get married in your twenties? The vast majority of married couples I know were married in their mid to late twenties.

No? Depends on your social circle, surely.

I don’t have any friends who got married before 30. We all did long degrees in a field requiring years of post graduate training.

Quickly googling looks like the average age is in the 30s. I can’t see the median age just looking quickly.

I haven’t checked recently, but last I did a bit of reading on this the research was saying that people who marry young are no more or less likely to stay together than people who marry later in life. What I also read was that first marriages have a higher success rate than second marriages, which have a higher success rate than third marriages...and so on.

My DH was 15 when we met and I was 17. We married when we were 21 and 23. Been married for nearly 36 years.

We dated at University, got married when I was 23 and DH had just turned 22. Still blissfully married 23 years later.

It sounds so young looking back, but I wouldn't change it for the world. We've grown together, experienced life together, we are the best of friends as well as still fancying the pants off each other .

All our closest relatives and friends married relatively young too and are still all(seemingly) happily married.

I feel so blessed that we were lucky enough to have met so young and that we have experienced all the laughter and tears of our adult lives together.

Married at 18 ( both of us. ) 27 years ago. 6 kids later and still happy .... don’t think there is a right or wrong age. I am not the same person I was at 18. Nor is my DH. We were kids when we married but we grew together. Fortunately stayed on the same path

I was 25 when I married my husband, admittedly I’m very different to the person I was 10 years ago. We are still married but we’ve had a very challenging relationship, mostly because we are quite different people to the young couple we once were.

Well I met my husband when I was 14, we started seeing each other when I was 16 and we got married at 23. I’m nearly 32 and I love him more than ever. I can’t imagine being with anyone else, ever.

I met DH when I was 19. I'm 66 now and he's nearly 70!! So yes, we can talk about when we were at university, although it's an awfully long time ago and we tend to talk about the present and the future most of the time. We didn't marry until I was 32, so we lived together first for 13 years. We get on well most of the time, we have shared interests and it's nice to have a long shared past. Life is good. Many of my friends have had long marriages, too.

I can only speak for myself but we met when he was 19 and I was 22, moved in after a month, engaged after 6 and married when he was 21 and I was 24. After 16 years and counting we're still happily married. There have been ups and downs, much the same as everyone but we're happy and in love.

I was in my 20’s we almost made it to 20 years but didnt manage it. I think its about though, not the timing...

I got married at 22 but I had been with him for 3 years. I’ll be 43 this year and we’re still tossing a coin to see who empties the dish washer. He’s my man and I’m happy with that.

I was 21, Dh 27 , got married 1982 , it wil l be 40 years of marriage next year and l would do it all over again if l could .

I know lots of couples who met at uni and are still together including me and DH

Hope so. Met DH at 18, married at 24, 2 kids, business, 38 now, no one I’d rather be with. I think I appreciate just hanging out with him even more now than when we first met.