Do you think most couples who get married in their twenties last?

[Whydoesmybackhurt]

I've phrased it clumsily, sorry. Do you think couples who meet and marry in their twenties generally are seen to be more successful marriages?

I can't imagine marrying that young, I'm nothing like the person I was in my early twenties. Broke off an engagement and shudder at the fact I nearly married a massive twat. But that's on me clearly, like I say I was really immature

I'm fascinated by people who marry young and successfully grow together with their spouse, just can't imagine that experience at all! I do think it's seen as the 'right' timeline to aspire to in general.

Married the love of my life aged 24, he was 25. Growing together has been one of life's joys and delights. I don't regret it for a second, despite the challenges we have faced as individuals and as a couple.

@PutBabyInTheCorner

I wouldn't have been ready in my 20s, I was far too immature and selfish and was having a great time without commitments. I'm 40 next and still not ready (although have been with my partner since we were late 20s and have 3 kids now...)

I viewed things the opposite way around. Getting married wasn’t the big deal, because it’s not difficult for two adults to walk away from each other. Having children with my DH was the major relationship commitment for me as we’d be jointly responsible for them and would always have a connection through them. I married but waited years to start a family! Some friends got together at 21/23, but didn’t have their first child until 38/40!

I was 22, we have been married for 10 years. Extremely happy in my marriage

We have been together since we were 24 and 25, got married at 28 and 29 and still together at 43 and 44.

The one thing I'd say is our relationship was very different from the relationships our friends had in their 20s. It wasn't dysfunctional, we held similar values and were on similar trajectories. We were just very well matched, and people often remarked on that

I think that's the same for us. Met and living together at 21(me) and 26(dh) house bought 2 years later, first child at 23/24. married a few years later.

I missed out on nothing, been to uni, traveled, moved around the country. Had been partying hard since age 14. live on my own from 16. had previous long term relationship (3 years) which taught me a lot about my expectations from a partner, mainly as that one was so shit.

DH and me have been together 20+ years now. But when we mutually separated around 8 years ago for 9 months after a rough couple of years. A few people's reactions were shock as they always thought DH and me would be together ever type couple!

Anyway we both decided that actually we still really loved and liked each other in the end. 💁‍♀️

My Aunt and Uncle were married in their early twenties - they celebrated their 70th wedding anniversary in the year before they both died.

I married at 20 and was divorced at 27. No way would I want my children to marry that young. X

Met at 22, married at 29, still going strong after 17 years of marriage.

One wonderful woman I met told me she had a "starter marriage" in her twenties got divorced and embarked on real life in her thirties. I was too restless to get married in my twenties and was very commitment phobic but I had lots of fun.

I met my husband the week before I was 18, bought a house at 19, married at 20, first born at 21, #2 at 23, #3 at 30... still happily married at 38

My gran married at 17 and she lasted until 90 with the same person. Very happy relationship.
I too have been with someone since I was 15...23 years later and we are still together. I think people tend to change together, where as I see people who meet in their 30s and in one way its great as you know what you're getting into, you know if they can drive, have a good job and what type of person they are, but at the same time, people by this age tend to not be able to budge with the way that are. Sometimes I think it causes more clashes as people are set in their own ways by this age.

I thought it was relatively normal to get married in your 20s? My parents were married at 24 and 26 and are still married now, 30 years later. A friend of mine got married at 18 and is still married now, nearly 10 years later.

I’m not actually married but I met my partner when I was 18 and he was 24, we are still together 10 years later and have 3 children together 😊

I met my Husband at 17 when we were both dating other people. We started dating just after my 18th birthday (He is 18 months older than me). We've been together almost 30 years now and celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary this summer.

I'm not saying it's been an easy 30 years - some of it has been really hard work with arguments (over the most stupid things) and compromising on both parts but you reap what you sow. Most of our time together has been happy.

I come from a family with a lot of divorcees and this fact has made me want to be different to the other members of my family and what has pushed me to work through the difficulties we have encountered.

However if he was to be unfaithful that would be the end as I couldn't get past that kind of betrayal.

Out of my group of 4 friends (including me) 3 married in our 20s, and are now on second marriages (which have lasted- we’re now in our 50s). One married in her 30s, and is now divorced and single.

Only one of us had divorced parents.

I have many siblings. I'm the only one who's never married, but am still with my DP who I met when I was 19. From my siblings, all 4 married in their mid 20s, half of them having got together with their OH in sixth form, other half in Uni. Only one divorce (from the Uni batch), but since remarried in early 30s to OH in their early 20s. As far as I can tell, they're all going strong. Between us, we've accumulated well over 100 years of marriage / cohabiting.

I met my husband at 19 years old. We've been together nearly 18 years and married for 12. We are happy.

I think it really depends on the person you marry.

I married in my twenties, had two sons and divorced 17 years later. Married and divorced again after 20 years, had a daughter. Now with a partner and living well into retirement with three grandchildren.

I was married at 21 and my husband 27. We had a very happy 40 year marriage until he died three years ago. I have a new partner and we were planning to marry last year but the pandemic got in the way. I suppose attitudes change over the years - I’m talking 43 years ago, when we married, but they reckon that if you have had a happy marriage you’re more likely to seek it again if you’re widowed. I didn’t actively seek it but very glad it happened along.

I've been with my husband since we were both 16. Married at 23. 30 now.

I met my husband when I was 19, got married at 24, I'm 45 next month, still very happily married ❤

Well ours didn’t got married at 21 divorced at 27, but very happily married and have been for 30 years

@SmellyPooHead

No idea, I got married in my early 20's. Married for over 30 years now

Me too. 😁

I married at 21and my hubby was 23.Wehave lived together since I was 18. We have been together happily now for 30 yrs.

Surely there are too many varaibles.

I married 26 - to DH 28 - we'd been together for 8 years by that point and through a fair bit having met at University.

Quiet a few couples we know who married late 20s few years post univeristy either having met before or during are still together with various aged children.

That's bit different to shorter gaps between meeting and marraiges but possibly similar to couples who met as teens and married in early 20s.

Big marriage stressors seem to be kids - having them or not post having and tirdness and money worries then having second or more or them being teens or empty nest realsing couple has grown apart. and possibly career progressions. So there may be more likley ages to split - quick goolge tells me divorse is most likely post 45 and our circle of friends are only just reaching this milestone.