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AIBU to get a Covid test once a week

196 replies

eagle27 · 14/01/2021 13:31

New dp has an underlying health condition to do with his breathing, not classed as shielding but could be very bad if he got covid.

At first we were extremely careful only meeting outdoors etc but he was completely on his own over Christmas due to family living in London. He really wanted to see me indoors so after my ds went off to his dads, I got a covid test, it came back negative the next day so I went and saw dp and stayed over.

Did the same thing last week, ds goes to his dads on a Thursday so I got tested then and saw dp after result came back on Saturday. Dp now wants me to start doing this every week so we can see each other as he is really struggling atm. Me taking the tests isn't his idea - he isn't bothered either way, but I was refusing to see him indoors early on because if I passed it to him and he became seriously ill/died I would never forgive myself. so this is the only way I personally am willing to see him.

AIBU to keep doing this? Will I flag up anywhere if I continue to get tested every week? I'm worried the test centre might challenge me and I don't want to get in trouble. I know tests are only supposed to be for people with symptoms but I think our circumstances are quite unique. I am also actually classed as a key worker but I WFH.
There is the option when booking a test to state whether you are a key worker but I normally tick "no" in case they notify my work I keep getting these tests. So I just claim to have symptoms instead and am now worried its logging the fact that I apparently have symptoms every week...

So my question is AIBU to book another test today, I am currently in two minds about whether or not to do it as scared of repercussions.

OP posts:
Ch3rish · 14/01/2021 13:35

Seems selfish to me and no guarantee that you aren't incubating the virus.

mynameiscalypso · 14/01/2021 13:35

Personally, I think it's incredibly selfish. The more people who take tests for no reason means the longer people have to wait for results - that might mean they lose income because they can't go out to work while waiting for a result, for example. Your situation isn't that unique is it? It's the reason that support bubbles exist.

Fairymad · 14/01/2021 13:35

Your circumstances are not unique there are going to to many couples who are separated at this time, to keep abusing the test system so you can pop to see him is ridiculous.
It will most likely flag up that you are having these tests weekly.

sunsetorange · 14/01/2021 13:35

yeah sorry OP, you and him should either accept the risk of continuing to see each other or you wait out the vaccine. Presumably shouldn't be much longer if he is vunerable.

Ch3rish · 14/01/2021 13:36

Sorry, posted too soon, why should the tax payer fund testing for your booty visits?

Roussette · 14/01/2021 13:39

Is this a joke?

You want to see your boyfriend but the only way you feel comfortable doing that is to get a covid test every week?

I'd like to see my adult DCs, shall I get them to do that weekly too?

You have to think of the admin needed to process a test, you can't just order it weekly because you want to see your boyfriend. How long have you been in a relationship with him?

UghNotThisAgain36 · 14/01/2021 13:39

We have asymptomatic testing here and you can only get one every two weeks. If you are lying about symptoms online and using NHS tests then yes, you are a piss-taker. If you want to do this, you should fund your own lateral flow tests if you can source them. Leave the tests for people with actual symptoms, not to facilitate your booty call.

Also, tests only say if you are positive or negative at the point of test. You can still develop symptoms later so its not a cast iron guarantee you are clear.

Roussette · 14/01/2021 13:41

I know tests are only supposed to be for people with symptoms but I think our circumstances are quite unique

About as unique as most of the population ....

Torvi · 14/01/2021 13:43

I can't believe you're even asking this Hmm

You should be paying for private tests.

baumwolle · 14/01/2021 13:45

Unique to you, your boyfriend, and the roughly ten million households comprised of either individuals or single parents...

MaudHatter · 14/01/2021 13:45

You must be joking . You want a weekly test so you can see your boyfriend . And he is a boyfriend, not a partner as you refer to him 😂

MaudHatter · 14/01/2021 13:46

And to answer your question . Yes it will flag up in the system eventually.

IrenetheQuaint · 14/01/2021 13:46

Not to mention those of us who are desperate to see our elderly parents but won't because of the risk of giving them Covid.

imhavinghoops · 14/01/2021 13:47

Your situation is NOT unique. I cannot believe you can justify using vital and valuable resources so you can have a shag.

YABU, and an idiot.

MyMonsteraisDeliciosa · 14/01/2021 13:49

Are you being unreasonable to totally abuse the testing system mid pandemic to go see a new fella? What do you think?
Hmm

CremeEggThief · 14/01/2021 13:49

So are you lying every single week just to get tested?🤔😬

Yoshinori · 14/01/2021 13:50

Your circumstances are quite unique ??? Hmm

scully29 · 14/01/2021 13:50

I wonder if this isnt a real post? You cant do that!

DameEdnasNeighbourhoodWatch · 14/01/2021 13:51

As an nhs frontline worker I am disgusted that you actually are considering this, and find it laughable you think your circumstances are unique. Pay for private tests by all means but stop clogging up the vital nhs resources for those who NEED them.

TheHobbitMum · 14/01/2021 13:51

You really can't see why this isn't a great idea? Did you honestly think we'd all applaud you for pointlessly using tests so you can get your weekly shag guilt free? Hmm
Even if you had a neg result you can easily be incubating covid so if you are genuinely that scared to pass on covid you should be staying away or completely isolating

Reinventinganna · 14/01/2021 13:51

I call BS! No one is that stupid. Biscuit

Markies · 14/01/2021 13:52

If you’re paying for private tests then crack on - take as many as you like. If not and it’s NHS tests then you are being unbelievably unreasonable - and I really would hope that a pattern is flagged up for you. What a selfish thing to do.

AlexaShutUp · 14/01/2021 13:52

Sorry, but your situation is not in any way unique. I'm really surprised that you would think it is.

If you have to lie to get the test, then you know you shouldn't be doing it. Imagine what would happen if everyone abused the system in this way. It would collapse completely.

I'm sorry that you're finding it difficult not being able to meet your boyfriend, but so many people are struggling with the current situation. Please don't be selfish.

WorraLiberty · 14/01/2021 13:52

Not selfish at all.

You carry on wasting Covid tests so you can fuck your boyfriend.

I'm sure none of the people having to facilitate the tests and results will mind 🙄🙄

nicebreeze · 14/01/2021 13:53

OP, it's not right but I can't feel angry with you like some posters can and I don't think you're being selfish or entitled.

For the various reasons pointed out this isn't sustainable and you can't continue doing it. It SHOULD be - testing should be freely available to people, it would make people far more aware of the risks or asymptomatic spreading. There's also the risk you could be incubating.

I'm confused but I think you're bubbling. If you were living with your DP the risk would be the same - just take care, speak with your DCs dad and continue to bubble.

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