To think women have a best before date

[Meowmeow202027]

To men that is?
Talking to dh about the fact im turning 30 this year and how since getting married and having 3 kids i feel unattractive and no one cares about my opinions or even looks my way. When men have kids etc there body doesn't change. Pretty much they are the same people as before unlike women.
Sorry for the rambling.

Intelligent women don't. Kind women don't. Entertaining women don't. Successful (professionally) women don't. Lots of women don't.

This;

*I disagree with that concept totally!

However, even if I did agree with you.

30* 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

bargain basement younger woman

Dear dear me!

Absolute rubbish that we have a best before date. Frankly at every part of our lives we are attractive beautiful and value in different ways.

In my teens and early twenties I had fire , I took risks and I'm glad I did. I believed I could do anything .

In my thirties I was a parent and facing the biggest change to my life which taught me resilience and the true worth of things.

In my forties I am confident and unashamed to be exactly me without need to copy styles. I have the fire I did in my twenties but balanced by the realities and sense I obtained in my thirties.

Every decade was valuable and the best of in it's own inimitable way.

I had an odd experience yesterday , through a convoluted home hair dye stripping incident (best not to ask) I looked on the mirror and through sheer accident / blind luck I managed to turn my hair back to my natural colour (we shall ignore the months and money spent trying to do this in the past to no avail....apparently perfect storm circumstances and a home stripping kit were all that was required !).

I haven't seen that colour since I was 15 (absolutely no exaggeration) I am now 41. Initially it was oddly disconcerting. I had this sudden odd epiphany. That whilst of course the face staring back at me was older (26 years will do that to a face) I suddenly realised that I now look the way I wanted to at 15.

I'm a healthy weight , I'm confident enough to wear the clothes and makeup the way I like. I hold a self assurance I would have killed for at 15. It was an odd but lovely moment.

Past my best? Bugger that , I've always been my best and it will keep on going. I will rock out my 40's , go into my 50's and 60's and 70's with a bloody bang. Fingers crossed my eighties will see me wearing purple satin and biker trousers and I will bloody rock them.

We are only past our best if we let people tell us that. Most people do not solely define themselves by motherhood so why in hell would we accept our usefulness and value ends when we can no longer produce offspring.

Nope .

Simply not accepting it.

30 is young and definitely not past your sell by date!! I think it depends how young your kids are..I felt tired, no time to look after myself when they were little. Now my youngest is 5 I feel much less invisible and more ‘me’ again. Things will change..

Now I'm 40 men don't really look my way any more. It's a huge relief tbh.

@Whydoesmybackhurt

That sleazy grey haired old goat with his bargain basement younger woman, Paul Hollywood, was it, definately downgraded.

Ugh this is a shite thing to say about another woman. FFS.

'Bargain basement' and a 'downgrade' indeed

Actually, its just accurate. The woman who knowingly cheated on Paul Hollywood's wife with Paul Hollywood and who was dumped by him when she refused to sign a NDA, still makes money out of selling photographs and photos of herself to the press on the basis of her relationship with him several years ago.

So given that she makes money out her notoriety and cheating with a married man, she fully deserves to be judged as both a downgrade (despite being younger she clearly isn't as attractive as his former wife) and her behaviour absolutely meets the definition of bargain basement spot on.

The bigger point is that its relevant to the OP in that it shows the reality of what men cheating on their wives with younger women often is - no oil painting, unless you're a Russian oligarch. And very few of them are.

Actually, its just accurate
No! Describing her actions as despicable is not the same as calling someone "bargain basement!" It is perfectly possible to criticise and comment without obnoxiousness!

I agree, sadly. I think it’s 30, for most ordinary women

I think I Iooked at my very best at the end of my 30s!

I had my twins at 38 and was still aware of mens attention but I was slim and have always been pretty. I'm now almost fifty and still get chatted up. I think being black is in my favour as I still don't have wrinkles even though I'm slim.

@Madamum18

Actually, its just accurate No! Describing her actions as despicable is not the same as calling someone "bargain basement!" It is perfectly possible to criticise and comment without obnoxiousness!

Entirely accurate. Her actions alone are enough to make her a very, very unattractive person. I'll repeat, in case you are still in doubt - knowingly cheating with a married man, courting publicity and still selling articles about her affair with a married man several years after the affair ended.

Its about as bargain basement as you can get. And "bargain basement" is hardly that bad a thing to say. If you can't cope with such descriptions, how on earth do you cope with the rest of the internet? Do you have a personal interest or something?

Best used before? No.

Best eaten before? Yes.

[quote praepondero]@time4anothername
People of both sexes enjoy being desired, liked and loved.
If a person feels invisible to the opposite sex, if no-one desires, loves or even likes them, wouldn't it affect their mental wellbeing? Unless, of course, said person has given up on ever being desired etc. again.
How a person looks affects the type of attention they get. Shallow, yes, but true. At least until the attention-givers have a chance to get to know the person in question and discover their marvellous personality.[/quote]
wondering how old you are to have posted this?
We all age and change. Women's bodies of course change more from childbirth, and the change is often feared by women, leaving cosmetic producers and surgery etc companies getting very rich off the back of it. They've even learnt well now how to market to mens' fears too, the size of the male aesthetics market is growing enormously year on year.
If you are going to base your life on being desirable or believe that your level of sexual desirability is going to define your opportunities or happiness, or if someone is interested in your opinion, you are likely to have a stressful life where you work hard for money you then pay out for someone else to keep you in your fantasy by offering you all sorts of treatments that divert your attention from confronting your fears and developing yourself all round.