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To want to go to Markies for picky bits

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Agirlnamedsam · 09/01/2021 14:15

I’ve not been in a shop since the beginning of December. Been wfh and only been out to go to the park with DS or go for a walk.

We have been using Tesco click and collect, but I want to go to Markies and get some picky bits / afternoon tea for lunch tomorrow.

DH thinks I’m being a bit silly as it’s not necessary travel: and that we should be avoiding shops. He’s happy for us to get something delivered or to collect something. But I’m just a bit fed up and want to go and select some nice bits and pieces.

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CitizenClem · 12/01/2021 14:34

My mistake, they are clearly NOT commonly understood phrases

Bloodypunkrockers · 12/01/2021 15:15

@ShowOfHands

I've found this thread really interesting from a linguistic pov. I've always had a visceral reaction to certain language and "picky bits" is right at the top of my list. It turns my stomach and I have to physically stop myself from grimacing when I hear it. I've always noticed that it crops up repeatedly on threads about words you despise (and many of them are food related eg plate up, meal, yum, treat) but this level of reaction has made me think. Why do these words evoke this reaction? I know for me, picky bits seems to evoke scabs and skin conditions or referring to food, the notion of "picking" seems to conjure carrion picking meat from a bone. It's so deeply unpleasant and it's not just me evidently. It's not class either, I know people from all spheres who say it.

I think there's something else at play with Markies and it's not regional. I remember a thread many years ago with a new Mum in the grips of PND who could not cope with the sing songy motherese her husband was using. She said she could tolerate it normally but while exhausted and struggling, it was making her want to scream. I've seen this reaction quite a few times over the year. It's nothing to do with dialect really but the singy songy twee shortening of words. Here you wouldn't hear Markies (it's Marks's) but do hear Sainsbo's, Dotty Ps, MaccyDs etc and that sort of language is what we do with toddlers. Doggies and horsies and milkies and biccies and so on. In adult only company, it feels infantilising to some people I think. As an aside, I was out to dinner once with DH's colleagues and partners and one woman referred to it as "din dins" before cutting up her boyfriend's meat. I was aghast but weirdly, the language was the worst bit.

I was one of the people who saw the thread title and 100% assumed it was a goady thread about despised language and was surprised to see the op was being earnest.

I'm an adult of course so manage not to lambast those who use language that I find unpleasant but I find it fascinating nonetheless that there is such a level of reaction to the same words and use of language.

Anyway op, just order in some frivolous food periodically with your normal deliveries. Goodness only knows, life is miserable enough so cheering yourself up is a good thing.

BTW, do M&S still do those biscuits that are a sort of flat shortbread with half a covering of chocolate. I used to babysit for a family who left them out and having never shopped there, I was always a bit in love with them.

What an interesting post

I have the same visceral reaction to certain words and do cringe and wince even reading them.

Picky bits, hubby, yum - all make me mutter under my breath and immediately dismiss whatever else the speaker is saying

Weird, I'd love to delve into my brain to figure it out

pinbinpin · 12/01/2021 15:35

I'm exactly the same with "holibobs" and "nom nom" - I physically cringe when reading them. What is it about these words? Something about adults talking in the way we might expect children to speak?

puffinkoala · 12/01/2021 15:55

@pinbinpin

I'm exactly the same with "holibobs" and "nom nom" - I physically cringe when reading them. What is it about these words? Something about adults talking in the way we might expect children to speak?
I don't know, I don't like them either. Same with unnecessary abbreviations like rads for radiators or electric/lecky for electricity. Maybe it stems from my father refusing to let me say 50p when I was a child, I always had to say 50 pence. If I said p I was asked where the green vegetables were :(
puffinkoala · 12/01/2021 15:57

BTW, do M&S still do those biscuits that are a sort of flat shortbread with half a covering of chocolate. I used to babysit for a family who left them out and having never shopped there, I was always a bit in love with them yes I think they do

IncludeWomenInTheSequel · 12/01/2021 17:21

I remember that 'motherese' thread Showy!

My DD and I both have a VERY visceral response to mispronunciations etc, and I think that's fine, and very common.

The issue here has arise because some people are labouring under the impression that their way of doing things is RIGHT and other peoples' is WRONG. And then they act like ignorant cunts based on that.

justwanttobemum · 13/01/2021 00:34

Lol at pp who thinks NE Scotland has Ocado and Waitrose. Lol we don't even get next day delivery 😂

Markies · 13/01/2021 09:14

@justwanttobemum

Lol at pp who thinks NE Scotland has Ocado and Waitrose. Lol we don't even get next day delivery 😂
Christ sometimes we don’t even qualify for mainland delivery! 🤷🏻‍♀️
ShowOfHands · 13/01/2021 15:19

@IncludeWomenInTheSequel damn you! I now have Hamilton going round my head. Like I said, as an adult, you know not to criticise people for something as simple as their vernacular. Except if you're a poster on AIBU. Carte blanche to be as awful as you like apparently. I'm quite uptight about many things tbh. If I spoke up every time anybody butchered language, sniffed, chewed or praised Boris Johnson, I'd have no friends left.

I can't wait to move to rural Scotland. Currently in rural East Anglia and quite used to shaking my head at the just get an uber/hop on a bus/order a deliveroo/get a cab stuff fired from a London centric contingent but we do at least manage Amazon Prime and the occasional bus.

ShowOfHands · 13/01/2021 15:26

Pretty sure these are the M&S biscuits I'm remembering.

To want to go to Markies for picky bits
SendHelp30 · 13/01/2021 17:21

@ShowOfHands best biscuits in the world 😍

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