I've vetoed this baby name, AIBU?

[FreakyZoey95]

I love my DH, but he's said he wants to call our baby Marrack if we have a boy (apparently Gfather name). I've vetoed it, won't he be bullied!? AIBU?

@FreakyZoey95

I love my DH, but he's said he wants to call our baby Marrack if we have a boy (apparently Gfather name). I've vetoed it, won't he be bullied!? AIBU?

Is this the Welsh name Meurig /:Merrick ?

@Sheleg

The whole "being teased for their name" thing is such a myth these days. Schools are full of all sorts of names - it's just not an issue.

Not being funny, but how can you possibly know this? Unless you are in every classroom, in every school, in every town and city and village, it's impossible to know if kids are teased for names.

When mine was at school, (mid noughties/early 2010s,) there were a few names that were made up, or were objects rather than 'names.' Eg, 'Fragrance' or 'Rock' or 'Zephyr.' And they were laughed at by other pupils for their names. They were mocked behind their back AND to their face. Even a few of the teachers scoffed occasionally.

My friend who lives near to me, has a child (aged 13,) who knows a lad named after a pop star with a weird name, and a girl named after a plant. I am not slagging off those names, but they are laughed at by a few kids for these names. And there are few more examples too.

So yeah, teasing does still go on.

@PurpleMustang

As someone who in their 40's still have to spell their name out to people, pick something easy to spell. It gets boring and I have been laddened with this by someone else's choice. I always thought middle names best to honour a relative. Hardly used and therefore don't have to spell it so often.

Well exactly this. You really need to think before you give your kids weird, far-out names, (to try and be 'different.') The poor kid is stuck with it for life.

And it's super annoying to have to spell it EVERY time.

Pre mid noughties, I lived in a cul de sac for 3 years with an unusual name (eg, Brudervernley Close.) I got SICK of having to bloody spell it every time I ordered something or booked something over the phone! I can't imagine how irksome it must be having a Christian name/forename that you have to spell every time you tell it to someone! For your whole life.

Are you waving the bully flag to support your veto?
If it means a lot to your dh then perhaps a middle name instead?assuming it's his baby too.

Was trying to figure out where I've heard this name before and finally realised it was Gerard Butler's extremely Weegie character in the 2003 turkey Timeline. He was André Marek though. And yes, reviewers ripped the piss out of the name.

How do you feel about Barack?

I friend had what he regarded as an embarrassing middle name, named after his grandfather, which he kept quiet about until a thoughtless teacher read out full names when taking the register.

No one batted an eyelid - unusual for the UK but in no way 'out there' Think e.g. Sebastian.

I don't like this notion that kids will be bullied for having a slightly uncommon name. There was another thread just like this one yesterday of a mumsnetter telling her partner his name choice would result in the child being bullied. Some kids are just bullies and they don't care what their victim's name is. I knew kids with weird names who never got bullied and I knew kids called Jack and Emily who suffered pretty bad.

Anyway, rant aside, you're never unreasonable for vetoing a name. The only reason you need is "I don't like it".

@FreakyZoey95

I love my DH, but he's said he wants to call our baby Marrack if we have a boy (apparently Gfather name). I've vetoed it, won't he be bullied!? AIBU?

I dont think they name will guarantee bullying. I have a very unusual name and I got called all sorts. Even to this day if someone wants to take the mick they may use one of the names I was called as a child like I've never heard it before and I'm just like YAWN.

Yes it wasnt nice but if someone is going to say mean things, they'll find another reason if not the name. That's just kids for you.

Make it a middle name

I know Merrick, no bullying as far as I'm aware. Marrack will probably get shortened to Maz though.
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A Marac offender is someone who is a severe danger to their partner. I'd veto for this reason alone

I’d just hear MARAC - multi agency risk assessment conference (social worker 🙃)

What on earth is wrong with Martin?

@Dozer

There ARE no Marracks: a PP advises only 7 of them since 1837!

So your H is wrong about it being a ‘West Country’ first name, at least in the last 180 years

It is very much a Cornish surname though.

Marrack makes me think of Barrack (Obama)

I can’t see why a child would be more bullied as Marrack than Barrack.

@Timeforatincture

What on earth is wrong with Martin?

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it, it’s just “of it’s time” - like Simon, Graham or Richard. All of which will probably be fashionable again in 20-30 years time just like “old man” names such as Archie, Alfie and Wilfred are currently.

@warmandtoasty2day

john merrick was the elephant man, marrick is a bit to close for me.

I was going to say the same thing. My first thought was John Hurt saying ‘my name is John Merrick’. But I’m old.

Multi Agency Risk Assessment Conference, or MARAC as it's more commonly known.

Your name immediately made me think of abuse, neglect and domestic violence. Awful.

No reason he would be bullied- it's a perfectly reasonable name and, as PP have said, similar to other reasonable names.
But you need a name you both preferably love, if not, then like, or at least agree on.

I don't know about being bullied but it is really bloody vile!!

My DH was insistent that if we had a girl we'd call her Calypso.

Just WTF, really.

I don't particularly like surnamey or unusual names but this one isn't awful. Do you only dislike it because you think he'll be bullied, or do you actually dislike it as a collection of sounds?

He'll be bullied if he isn't liked, whatever his name is.

He won't be bullied (or people will be quick to defend him) if he is liked, whatever his name is.

But please don't agree to a name you don't like.

I've heard worse.

For example, Martin.

My french friend wanted to call her baby marTANN as she said it. I had to veto her baby's name

I quite like it but I don’t agree with babies being named after someone. They’re their own person, they’re an individual and they should have a name that is for them not someone else. Maybe use it as a middle name?

I actually don't dislike it, and I'm very weird name averse
Middle name as a compromise?

Agreed

I quite like it. I used to teach a Marek, Polish lad, very sweet.