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AIBU.. to report my own parents (coronavirus)

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Tier4ParentProblem · 04/01/2021 11:28

Sorry, NC as outing..

They are in a tier 4 area.

I live abroad in a country which has struggled hugely with coronavirus and has put a ban on Brits entering there. I’ve avoided the virus so far with extreme diligence as I work a zero hour contract with no sick pay..

They turned up unannounced on my doorstep.

Whilst I’m pleased to see them, I’m furious that after all our care and sacrifice, they’ll have brought not only the virus but the “British variant” and then when it’s reported in the press it will be patently obvious to the neighbours who is responsible. Also, whilst being not an at risk group, we’ve been really careful to minimize our risk precisely so this nightmare can end sooner and we can visit them safely, in the uk. I’m cross with their arrogance. They won’t even isolate in my home either, they miss shopping and eating out...

So... WIBU to report them?

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Tier4ParentProblem · 04/01/2021 12:04

@unassortedthoughts

What would happen if you reported them? I think it's very harsh on your parents tbh. Just give them a stern word and let them know you are not happy. That would be punishment enough for them..
I'd report them in the uk - I think at most a visit from a nice officer with a stern word or two!? Because they think my concerns are hilarious and that they've been very clever.
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Cadent · 04/01/2021 12:05

OP, not sure why you're getting a hard time. On other threads, people are encouraging each other to report their neighbours and posters are saying they would feel 'smug' if their neighbours got the virus, and yet you've had parents turn up on your doorstep in a different country from a Tier 4 area!

The only thing I'm thinking is that little Englanders here are outraged that Brits have been banned from other countries.

101namesforme · 04/01/2021 12:06

Blimey you’re getting a hard time OP.

YANBU to be really pissed off. Your parents are completely selfish and thoughtless.

ElizaLaLa · 04/01/2021 12:06

If you are in spain the borders between regions are shut until 15th January. There are roadblocks on most motorways.

A negative pcr test is only required for entry by plane or ferry.

And the borders have now been shut to anyone that isn't resident. Even people with residency have been turned away from airports.

And the shuttle is still shut, is it not?

LEELULUMPKIN · 04/01/2021 12:06

So what it boils down to is that you would rather see your parents potentially in prison than suffer the comments of your neighbours?

AnneOfTeenFables · 04/01/2021 12:06

So you want to report them to the British government - not your government? Even though the process put in place by the British government allowed them to show a test result and leave in the first place...

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Tier4ParentProblem · 04/01/2021 12:07

Fair enough @Notimeforaname , I meant "if" of course. Im typing quickly in the snow with freezing hands.

Of course I hope they don't have it. I don't want it! But it's frustrating that I've abided (abode? Abidden?) by all rules and they think I'm being a silly little girl. I'd like it if they were told of the importance of the rules by a figure whose opinion they hold in higher regard!

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Haffiana · 04/01/2021 12:08

You could just shoot them yourself, OP? Why put police or anyone else in danger of dealing with them.

That would really show them just how clever you are, eh?

ApolloandDaphne · 04/01/2021 12:08

www.diplomatie.gouv.fr/en/coming-to-france/coronavirus-advice-for-foreign-nationals-in-france/

This is the advice for traveling to France from the UK.

Nanny0gg · 04/01/2021 12:08

Have you had to let them stay with you?

I'd have been furious too

sirfredfredgeorge · 04/01/2021 12:08

I think the law broken is British law, no?

No, they have only broken British guidelines, no law with the information you've provided.

Notimeforaname · 04/01/2021 12:08

I'd report them in the uk - I think at most a visit from a nice officer with a stern word or two!? Because they think my concerns are hilarious and that they've been very clever

And its absolutely your job to 'teach then a lesson'Hmm

If this is how you feel,you should not have opened your door to them. I'm assuming you turned then away at the door and have had no other contact with them????

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Tier4ParentProblem · 04/01/2021 12:09

@Cadent

OP, not sure why you're getting a hard time. On other threads, people are encouraging each other to report their neighbours and posters are saying they would feel 'smug' if their neighbours got the virus, and yet you've had parents turn up on your doorstep in a different country from a Tier 4 area!

The only thing I'm thinking is that little Englanders here are outraged that Brits have been banned from other countries.

I expect so, it would have been interesting to post it as some of reverse with my parents as the foreigners and myself the resident of the uk!
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Moondust001 · 04/01/2021 12:09

You are living abroad in a country that can be driven to, which has struggled enormously with Covid, and you have all your shops and bars open so your parents will be able to pick up Covid and bring it back? This story gets wilder by the moment.

Cadent · 04/01/2021 12:09

OP, could you at least tell them to move to a hotel? They should not be living with you. Have you told them that you are on zero hours contract and have effectively been shielding?

AnneOfTeenFables · 04/01/2021 12:09

OP I'm now more concerned about your freezing hands and typing in the snow. Have your parents annexed your house, declared it part of Britain and banished you to the frozen wastes? In that case, report them to everyone!

Lookslikerainted · 04/01/2021 12:09

I’d be happy to see my parents, and they have a negative test and you’re not in a risk group!

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Tier4ParentProblem · 04/01/2021 12:09

@LEELULUMPKIN

So what it boils down to is that you would rather see your parents potentially in prison than suffer the comments of your neighbours?
Would they go to prison? Nobody's even been arrested in the uk! Have people even been fined?
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HermioneMakepeace · 04/01/2021 12:10

Where are they now, OP? Did you let them in?

Cadent · 04/01/2021 12:10

I expect so, it would have been interesting to post it as some of reverse with my parents as the foreigners and myself the resident of the uk!

Definitely interesting, you would have had very different responses.

Don't take it to heart, just laugh at the hypocrisy Flowers

summerstorms · 04/01/2021 12:11

you didn't have to let them in

ChaToilLeam · 04/01/2021 12:11

They are idiots. Absolute idiots.

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Tier4ParentProblem · 04/01/2021 12:11

@Moondust001

You are living abroad in a country that can be driven to, which has struggled enormously with Covid, and you have all your shops and bars open so your parents will be able to pick up Covid and bring it back? This story gets wilder by the moment.
Yes bars and shops are open (for now) what's your point?
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Notimeforaname · 04/01/2021 12:11

Wait so youre going to report them in the uk...BUT you're going to have them in your home ?
Grin this is a joke.

lunalucie · 04/01/2021 12:11

"British Covid"?!? Sounds like something Trump would come up with like his Chinese virus 😂

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