I was the only one not invited aibu?

[breadandwines]

I started a new job in July in a call centre.
I quickly made friends with my team.
In august I started seeing a man off our team and was invited on meals out (few and far between with covid ) but we had outdoor meet ups in between.
We all speak on a group chat on WhatsApp.
One of the group doesn't like me(it's obvious ) and I think she doesn't like the fact I'm part of the group.
Nye the girl wrote to one of the members "sleep well,excited for tomorrow "
I didn't think much of it and thought maybe they were meeting for a coffee or something.
Anyway last night they had a house party (which I wouldn't have went to anyway due to covid restrictions"
They didn't invite me and the guy I'm seeing is there and didn't invite me.
He hasn't spoke all day yesterday or today
Aibu to feel pissed off ?

If he’d have messaged me that I would’ve told him he deserves it for being an idiot and going to a house party during a pandemic. Also he’s a dick... dump him!

@breadandwines

I replied "well I'm surprised you didn't invite me" He responded "are you going on one,I won't chat to you till you chill out" I haven't replied He's just turned it around and I'm in the wrong.

What an arse. So he will reward you if you behave and not tell him about your feelings. Just get rid of him. You should be his priority not an option.

And your workmates are awful too. What a nasty little gang.
How hurtful and demoralizing.

So, they're all a bit thick (breaking lockdown rules) and not particularly nice (by not inviting you).

Why would you want to be friends with any of them?

Why would you want to go out with this bloke? He sounds awful.

Step back. Stop socialising and accept that they are work colleagues.

I wouldn't even get into a discussion with him about this. It's not worth it and you will be wrong.

The words you are looking for here are "No worries, in case you didn't realise we're finished!

I don't think they are. I think in his eyes they never 'started'. Certainly not in a proper relationship. And I think the op should take the same approach - it wasn't really anything.

She should just be cool and not respond. Any dramatic 'finishing' linked with the lack of invitation just gives him more ammunition to tell her to 'chill'.

Just don't respond op.

Now the guy has shown his true colours, just carry on as if nothing has happened - minus him.

Be glad you didn't become more involved.

Life goes on and when the pandemic is over/under control, you will see there are plenty more fish in the sea. Do have some uncommitted fun before committing to anyone. These are years you will never get back.

I would reply. "Let's not chat at all" then move on. He's an arse. So are they.

Do management know about this, they may end up all having to isolate.

He’s not going to see your point of view and will just think you’re being moody. Probably gossip about you to the others. Don’t respond to him any more.
Just withdraw quietly from the group, engage when you have to and keep it all entirely professional.

Report it to your hr
They are breaking rules

At this point the only sensible thing to do is completely forget about it all, and don’t see this guy anymore. He’s totally shown himself to not give a stuff about you or your feelings. How great that you’re working from home and don’t have to see them anyway.

don't reply just leave it. no need for a big breakup with the guy, whatever you say will be sent round this clique in minutes anyway. any more messages just be vague. easy to let it fade with all the SD rules.

ignore the woman too, of course she posted that for you to see, some people never mature beyond the playground.

they're just a bunch of colleagues and aren't a good crowd if they're doing stupid stuff like parties right now, quietly back away and try not to rely on them for friendship or a social life.

I am done messing about with him.
I have a feeling the message I sent him will have been forwarded as well.

Tell him to get fucked. What a lowlife. Dont be settling for that.

Screenshot the messages. Report to your boss. Leave all the chats. Block them all.

What a prick!! Stay away. Don't reply to anything else yet.

Yes he probably will share your message. He sounds that type. But it doesn’t matter. He sounds as bad as her. You’re better off without them.

@breadandwines

I am done messing about with him. I have a feeling the message I sent him will have been forwarded as well.

Of course it will. I really wish you hadn't sent that message. You really have played into their hands. You can't even make the point that it was stupid of him to attend such a party, as you've mad it clear you wanted to go.

Best thing to do now is to try to retain your dignity. So don't get involved at all. Definitely don't tell the bosses at work, (that's terrible advice from a pp).

Withdraw from the relationship calmly, and keep yourself to yourself. You're not part of that group, and you never were. When you're finally back on the premises, look for work friends outside the group.

I've started applying for new jobs.
I originally did cabin crew but due to covid I wasn't offered a contract renewal in the summer so I made do with call centre (it's not my first choice tbh )
I have a level in travel but it's slim pickings right now and nowhere (travel agents /air travel ) is taking on.
I won't lie I'm a bit gutted he hasn't had my back.
I guess that's all I need to know to knock it on the head.

If ever there was the perfect time to ghost someone, this is it. Block and walk your fine ass out the door.

Yep he’s a dick. He’ll be moaning about you on their group chat now no doubt, getting the exact response the one who doesn’t like you wanted! A partner should be on your team. Dump the loser!

I'd think myself better than a bunch of losers having a house party during a world pandemic.
You've lost nothing but gained insight into what a prat he is.

@Spied I find it pathetic.
10 of them in a tiny house,a lot of them with young kids.
Selfish and Irresponsible
The funny thing is he has covid 2 months ago
You think he would know better

*had