OMG I'm 11 stone

[thecutback]

Heaviest I've ever been.

This year has been tough, iui, then ivf, then a traumatic miscarriage and then the drinking and eating that comes with Christmas etc.

Really need to get it sorted! Very unhappy at this weight

Bloody hell, reading some of these comments, people are so touchy. If you're fat, you're fat no excuse for it except greediness unless you have a medical condition. Yes it's been a shit year for everyone.

Everyone' a victim nowadays. This is why we have an obesity problem and judging by some of these comments it will only get much worse. I know it's hard to lose weight, I've been there, but I also knew I was the cause and only I could do something about it. I didn't blame circumstances.

It's how you feel OP, you do what's best for you, you've said nothing wrong.

It's much easier to loose a stone or so, rather than wait until you get bigger and have multiple stones to loose.

Lots of women (and it is mainly women) see someone smaller than them dieting and take it as a judgement on their own size. It isn't. It's a statement that the person dieting would like to be smaller. I occasionally "diet" to loose a few pounds over a few weeks to get me back to where I am happy (9.5stone). I don't really give a shit that you are happy at 12/15/20 stone, I'm not. Good for you if you are, but let me do what makes me happy.

I think it says a lot about society that someone can get shouted down for wanting to lose weight at "only 11 stone". It's like they're saying "well most people are bigger so it's perfectly fine for you to be overweight". No wonder we have a problem with obesity in this country.

@thecutback

Sorry if insensitive to some, didn't mean to cause offence. Just a bit of a shock to me when my 'goal' weight is usually around the 9 stone mark.

Awful year and now I have to try and get healthy to begin the ivf merry-go-round again.

I'm not tall, either.

Same op. I cried last time I weighed myself because it was such a bloody shock!

@ADRIENNEthroughbloodshoteyes

OP I hear you. I’m 5ft 10 and I’m 11st 2 now. That’s a good 12lb over my normal weight. Nothing fits. I have a huge wardrobe of size 10, can’t wear any of it. I have a massive muffin top. I’m uncomfortable squashed into my clothes.

I noticed the weight a few months ago and my efforts only stopped the gain but no loss.

I’m reading this thread with interest. I need help making new habits and sticking to them.

I'm also 5ft 10 and have just pushed 11 stone for the first time. I eat healthily but I'm greedy and tend to eat too big portion sizes. Also I'm 47 so worrying that it will never come off. I also exercise daily - normally YouTube workouts. I think my only option is to go really hardcore.

no excuse for it except greediness

It's a little more complicated than that. Especially as you get older. I definitely find the weight goes on easier and is much much harder to shift now that I'm over 50. It was easier even 2 years ago. Don't go round telling people they're greedy. That's really quite unpleasant.

People know 11 stone for some is a good weight, and for others it isn't. They are just trying to make a point. For me over 8 1/2 - 9 stone I think puts me in the overweight category and I keep below 8. It obviously would apply to those taller than me.

I’m nearly 12 stone which is by far the heaviest I’ve ever been. I wanted to go to the gym a lot while I have a Christmas break. Managed to go a few times and shifted a little but then tier 4 happened, the gyms shut and I’ve put it back on again. The only exercise I do is a daily walk. It’s taking so much effort to force myself out of the house and it’s not enough to keep the weight off. I’m beyond fed up.

I'd be delighted to be 11st
I'm somewhere between 15-16st (don't actually possess scales!)
I've signed up to an online slimming world group

Hey @thecutback it sounds as though you have had a spectacularly hellish year, so go a bit gentle on yourself

That said, it also sounds as though you’ve had one of those sudden moments of realisation, which can be super helpful when you need to regain control.

I had something similar about 18 months ago: I got on the scales and just felt that enough was enough. It wasn’t horrific, by any means (I’m 5’6” and was just under 11stone) but like you’ve I’ve always been around the 9/9.5 stone mark, and a size 19/small 12, when suddenly (ok, not suddenly, it was slow but constant gains....) nothing fit and I was wearing the same stretchy, more forgiving clothes all the time.

I had two options: accept it, or lose it. Thank goodness for the amazing support on the weight loss threads...I’m a big fan of 5:2, but had fallen off the wagon over the last 5 years, and got great advice and support as I slowly regained control and lost the weight. I also joined the gym, and started enjoying getting properly fit for the first time in my entire life.

There’s no miracle cure but 9 months after I started I was back to 9.7, but fitter and stronger than I had ever been. And nearly a year later I’m still at 9.7, and still working out regularly, and proud of myself for making the change.

You can do this. One day at a time. Some days won’t go so well, but stick at it, and you will get there.

Ahem, typo. Size 10/12, not 19...

@justanotherneighinparadise

confused I don't see how with a height 1inch smaller than OP (5'3?) and 11lbs. I'm not sure what age range has to do with it but I'm at the very top end of a healthy BMI (according to NHS) being 5'5 and 10stone 6lb (and currently being inactive😬). I'm just a couple of lbs from being overweight according to them.

One inch smaller than the poster I quoted.

Ah, ok! Should have rtft.

Op you have had a crap year and your hormones will have been horrendous.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Please don't beat yourself up about it.
It's a new day a new year. Make positive changes and be happy.

@wincarwoo I’m 46, hello! I’m worried too about it not coming off! For me it’s not portion size it’s bad habits, no proper daytime meals just constant small grazing, and then suddenly at night I’m starving and the damage is done.

@wincarwoo - sorry hit send too fast - yes I’m going to go for it on the bike - going for calorie burn. I’ve got to shift it down. Plus when I’m exercising I seek out healthier food, which is a mysterious blessing! We can do it!

@justanotherneighinparadise I didn’t say being 11 stone is necessarily overweight - I just said you’d have to be quite tall for it to be an ideal weight. My point being no one should be jumping on the OP for saying she’s not happy at 11 stone.

With you OP am also in need of dropping 2 stone. Important to maintain a normal body weight to increase you chances of having a healthy and long life, rather than life spent waiting for NHS ops to get your knees replaced due to excessive weight and all the other conditions that severly compromise health, from excess weight. I know i dont want to end up with an amputation caused by diabetes which could have been prevented by a healthier diet

OP good on you for trying to get it under control while it’s still manageable. I am trying to do the same, logging everything I eat and trying to move more. It’s hard having your clothes fit tightly, the past few months I have put on some weight and it affects every aspect of my life. To me, weight gain is similar to that saying “ when you have your health, you have a million problems, but when you don’t have your health, you only have one problem.” I find that when I’m overweight it seeps into everything. It’s like, if it affects us so much, why not just put in the effort and solve it? I’m trying to do that now. This year has been a hard year on everyone, let’s have a little grace with each other.

@TheLovleyChebbyMcGee

I'm about 20 stone. Does that make you feel better?

And who’s fault is that? 🙄 op is allowed to be upset at her own weight, this isn’t about you

Oh love the "slim shaming" but it's not OK to "fat shame"

I feel you OP, I'm 5'7 and just under 11 stone.... Had always maintained a 9.5 stone size 10/12 weight and the last 12 months its just crept on but can't shift it. It does affect my self esteem and confidence.

@combatbarbie
I agree, you can poke a slim person and tell them they need a feed but imagine poking a fat person and telling them to stay out the biscuit tin, you’d be hung out to dry!!!
These offended very overweight ppl should get on a weight lose plan instead of expecting everyone to tippy toe around them.

I’ve always felt sorry for the people with slow metabolisms who can get to 20+ stone eating salads.

(Didn’t change my name for this thread BTW!)

@thecutback I’m in the exact same boat. Sorry that you find yourself in this position after a shit run of events. I had a late (17 weeks) miscarriage in September and haven’t managed to lose the stone I’d gained to that point in the pregnancy. I’ve now added a couple of pounds over Christmas and I’m 11 stone too - I’m usually 9.5st and rarely varied from that, so this is a bit of a shocker and not helping my mental health either.

I’m kicking off the fast 800 on Monday, which I plan to do for 4 weeks to make rapid head way. Also c25k, daily yoga (even if it’s only 15 mins) and the odd Joe Wicks workout.

Good luck!

[quote ADRIENNEthroughbloodshoteyes]@wincarwoo - sorry hit send too fast - yes I’m going to go for it on the bike - going for calorie burn. I’ve got to shift it down. Plus when I’m exercising I seek out healthier food, which is a mysterious blessing! We can do it! [/quote]
I'm doing some Heather Robertson vids. She's quite hardcore. No snacking. A lot of soup