If you could have the man being pregnant, would you?

[CrotchBurn]

Imagine a far future where you could choose whether you wanted to be the one to be pregnant, give birth, nurse the child etc., or whether the male partner would do all that, which would you choose?

YABU = I would still do it
YANBU = I would have the man do it

Asking because I think the fear of being pregnant and going through labour is probably the biggest reason why I dont want children/am dragging my feet and if I were a man I think I would already have them by now.

I quite seriously think it would be the end of the human race.

God, could you even imagine the level of moaning and complaining about every single possible symptom. Insufferable doesn’t begin to cover it.

I would have happily had DW carry one or both of our children if it had been an option for us. Wasn’t for medical reasons sink had them both. I know she didn’t feel any less of a mother for not having birthed them. Nor do they see her differently to me.

It wouldn't work. Being present at my children's births made me appreciate just how much real strength women have. Weaker sex my hairy arse. If it was put on us, we'd need a general anaesthetic from the moment of conception probably right through until they finish school.

Nope, it’s magic - the ability to grow and birth a child - wouldn’t have missed it for the world!!

@Mamadothehump
How could you love giving birth?!
I'm not challenging you but asking you to explain if you dont mind because I cant imagine that!

I can see how being pregnant could feel positive - am imagining a sense of fullness and curiosity for some women. But actually giving birth?

I enjoyed being pregnant and giving birth - wouldn't give that away to someone else

First time no, I would have wanted to experience it myself. Second time absolutely 100% without question. In fact, if that were possible I would have gone on to have a third, maybe even a fourth!

No way! I find it magical

Periods they can have though!

I wonder how many men would give up smoking drinking when they find out

Yes! I wasn't a women who enjoyed being pregnant as I was sick all the time and I also had difficult births.

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I'd have happily handed my second pregnancy over to DH. I had an awful time, sick so much, then PGP and an EMCS when ds2 poked a hole a month too early.
My first was fine though.
Thankfully neither of us want any more!

I couldn’t deal with the whinging

Can you fucking imagine the whingeing?

Second and third replies FFS.

@slashlover

I couldn’t deal with the whinging

Can you fucking imagine the whingeing?

Second and third replies FFS.

And loads more

Acceptable on here thought

Though

I liked the pregnancy not the birthing so I’d of liked it to be turn about but my ex wouldn’t of liked that at all as he’s see as not natural.

Present husband went hell no so I went good job I said from the start no kids for us I was done.

I think things would be better in terms of antenatal & postnatal care, parental experiences in the workplace and the gender pay gap.

I have a wife, so we were able to choose which of us would get pregnant. It was more important to me than her, so I did.

Wouldn’t do it again though

@Mrsmorton

Can you fucking imagine the whingeing?

I enjoyed my first two pregnancies, but I'm over it now, I would defo let DH do this one :o

My DP was the birth mum. Before she got pregnant she said she'd do it again if we wanted another/try carrying one with my eggs as I tend to miscarry. After the pregnancy she said no way in hell was she doing that again!

I know it isn't the same as with a heterosexual couple, but I know DP said it was a massive shock realising how shittily people treat pregnant women and female-presenting people (I don't mean that as a trendy woke phrase, just DP never came in for much of that 'sit down little lady' type treatment before).

In a bloody heartbeat. I absolutely do not have any closer bond with my twins than DH does, and in fact I am certain they prefer him to me. If I could have a baby by having sex once and then getting a baby handed to me 9 months later, i would definitely have more of them!

I knew I was scared of birth before I got pregnant, but that turned into full blown hideous tokophobia once I was actually pregnant. I can’t even get myself into 1/10 of the state I was in about it now I’m not pregnant but know if I got pregnant again it would be back.

Eventually an elective c section was agreed but I needed an emergency section earlier. The spinal was the worst medical experience of my life, against some stiff competition. I can’t have any more babies as I can’t go through any of the options, unless they agreed to give a GA or hit me over the next head with a mallet first.

Some of pregnancy was okay (several weeks in the middle) but wouldn’t want to do the rest again.

I love that I'm growing another person. I love how my body is changing, its fascinating. Feeling baby kicking is amazing and I feel bad that DH will never feel that like I do. I feel like I'm already bonding with baby and getting to know them.

I have a super high pain threshold and am used to managing pain, I'm not afraid of the pain of childbirth and I have no health issues or anything that would suggest anything should go wrong. Obviously there's a chance but there's always a chance that anything you do could carry life changing injuries.

Well my ex thought pregnancy and birth were a piece of cake so yes I would like to see him go through it as I’m sure he would change his mind