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To find this a bit fishy?

313 replies

MrsToothyBitch · 30/12/2020 11:38

I know this is a minor gripe, but the principle of it is bugging me and I feel awful for doubting my mum. Sorry it's a bit long.

I asked for a particular bedding set for Christmas from my parents and not much else. I've loved it for ages but there's always something more practical or sensible I need for the house, so I can never justify getting it. I checked parents were happy to spend that much on 1 set of double bedding and 1 extra pair of pillowcases. They were. I did the online order on mum's iPad with her details- she asked me to. I am 99% sure I included the extra pair of the pillowcases. I remember checking it was ok with my parents. The set is also a tricky colour to match so it was easier to buy 4 from the same place. The brand only recently started selling pillow cases separately to the duvet cover, too- another reason I'd not bought them previously. I remember saying that.

It arrived no problem, I was thrilled to open bedding on xmas day plus a fitted sheet to go with it, that I'd not expected but had planned to get myself. I was also busy with helping to keep the show on the road so busy and preoccupied and didn't linger over my gifts.

Anyway, it's sheet change tomorrow, and I felt a little niggle, so I've just checked and I only have 2 pillowcases for my new bedding I've been v excited to use. I've asked my mum to check and she found the paper receipt just listing the 1 set of double bedding. I asked for the original email receipt since I'm sure I ordered extra pillow cases. The email receipt cannot be found anywhere in her inbox or in deleted emails. She usually keeps EVERYTHING and is fairly computer literate, I just did the ordering since she was busy. She's immediately suggested I order more.

AIBU to find this fishy and to think she's rung up or emailed to cancel my extras? My mum also has form for being a bit wily or using "technicalities" to her favour when she thinks she'll get away with it so I don't completely trust her anymore. She also v quickly commented that "most people just have plain" on extra pillowcases. She definitely has the nerve to style this out, too. She's a cool customer.

I honestly don't mind paying for more myself especially since they got me a fitted sheet instead- I just wish they'd said so I could've sorted something out pre Christmas and pre being all excited to FINALLY use my lovely dream bedding. I just want to know if it was my mistake in the first place. The lack of the original email - where I can see if I made a cock up, is bothering me. Will email myself a copy next time. I don't want a fight and I hope I'm being U ...

OP posts:
buttcrackmcheese · 30/12/2020 15:05

You sound like hard work OP

Plussizejumpsuit · 30/12/2020 15:05

I'm confused. You say you ordered it (I presume on her behalf) but then you say the sheet was unexpected. So which was it?

Plussizejumpsuit · 30/12/2020 15:08

Also I'm after some new bedding. Could you link to it op? Or anyone recommend good online shops? Feeling a bit underwhelmed with online offers!

Goodbye2020Hello2021 · 30/12/2020 15:13

@DrManhattan

Omg id go no contact. Wtf am I reading Hmm
Haha!! Grin Exactly my thoughts!
allthewaterinthetap · 30/12/2020 15:14

I'm focusing more on the fact that you haven't washed them before sheet change day!

donewithitalltodayandxmas · 30/12/2020 15:23

Why would she cancel the pillow cases and then order you fitted sheet , wouldn't save her money cancelling

AlwaysLatte · 30/12/2020 15:24

Oh goodness don't fall out over pillowcases. Just order some yourself!

donewithitalltodayandxmas · 30/12/2020 15:24

Emails do disappear from your deleted box after so many days on lots of set ups
I have mine set to 30 as why would I want to keep deleted emails

AlwaysLatte · 30/12/2020 15:24

I'm focusing more on the fact that you haven't washed them before sheet change day!
Haha, me too!

Mamanyt · 30/12/2020 15:28

If there is a next time, place your order online and take a screen shot of it. Put that in a folder, and if there are any questions, you have exactly what you ordered right there.

But this time? Let it go, or there may not be a next time.

MartiniDry · 30/12/2020 15:30

I've returned to add that my recent order for some elastic magically turned itself into 90 Vitamin B tablets.

It happens, and probably far more often than a deliberate change of order by a cunning parent.

oakleaffy · 30/12/2020 15:48

Bloody strange thing to get into a bate about.
Why would your mum lie?
I haven’t heard of four matching pillowcases, just buy two more and be grateful you have the duvet cover and sheet.

Maybe shop had sold out?
Definitely not making a fuss over🙂

DianaT1969 · 30/12/2020 16:03

This is the type of batty thread the Daily Fail picks up. What's the chances I'll be reading it in there in 3 days?

80sColourfulChristmas · 30/12/2020 16:48

Orders can rarely be altered once submitted online, especially during the Xmas rush....

sparkysdream · 30/12/2020 16:55

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to check as your mum would have been charged for the pillowcases- you could either call the company and check the full content of the order using the reference on the delivery note, or ask your mum to check how much she was charged. The latter would give her a way out to say you must have forgotten them though and you can’t demand to see the bank statement so I’d try the company.

I’d definitely want to know an order was correctly received and charged for missing items so that would make me push to get to the bottom of it.

sst1234 · 30/12/2020 16:59

Not sure what is more batshit? OP’s entitlement or that some posters are like ‘oh yes, OP, something definitely odd there’. The world has gone mad.

BlueThistles · 30/12/2020 17:41

@sst1234

Not sure what is more batshit? OP’s entitlement or that some posters are like ‘oh yes, OP, something definitely odd there’. The world has gone mad.

the world 🤔 the whole world based on this thread 😏

I think not 🙄

rookgizzardpie · 30/12/2020 17:47

i REALLY need to see these sheets

SmeleanorSmellstrop · 30/12/2020 18:02

This whole thing is bizarre. YWBVVVVVVVVU to even mention it to her!!! And stop saying "I don't want to row but..." You CAN'T start a row about this without literally in being the most grabby and unreasonable person on planet Earth.

Suzi888 · 30/12/2020 18:13

How did the fitted sheet materialise?

Coaster20 · 30/12/2020 20:40

Has she checked Spam / Junk mail?

WhatsTheEffingPoint · 31/12/2020 01:02

Can you not just phone or email the company you ordered from to ask them ? you have all the delivery details etc just tell them you need to check your order but can't find the original email now.

UpHereForDancing · 31/12/2020 01:28

Jeez...this is beyond ridiculous. Just say thanks and get the stuff that didn't arrive yourself.

You seem to be confusing your parents making a little mistake (because Christmas buying can be a bit stressful) with some big conspiracy to deliberately do you out of a present.

Grow up and just be grateful (and Christmassy)!

CuppaZa · 31/12/2020 01:31

Sounding ungrateful isn’t a good look OP

AlohaLola · 31/12/2020 01:37

You sound like an ungrateful brat, OP