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To find this a bit fishy?

313 replies

MrsToothyBitch · 30/12/2020 11:38

I know this is a minor gripe, but the principle of it is bugging me and I feel awful for doubting my mum. Sorry it's a bit long.

I asked for a particular bedding set for Christmas from my parents and not much else. I've loved it for ages but there's always something more practical or sensible I need for the house, so I can never justify getting it. I checked parents were happy to spend that much on 1 set of double bedding and 1 extra pair of pillowcases. They were. I did the online order on mum's iPad with her details- she asked me to. I am 99% sure I included the extra pair of the pillowcases. I remember checking it was ok with my parents. The set is also a tricky colour to match so it was easier to buy 4 from the same place. The brand only recently started selling pillow cases separately to the duvet cover, too- another reason I'd not bought them previously. I remember saying that.

It arrived no problem, I was thrilled to open bedding on xmas day plus a fitted sheet to go with it, that I'd not expected but had planned to get myself. I was also busy with helping to keep the show on the road so busy and preoccupied and didn't linger over my gifts.

Anyway, it's sheet change tomorrow, and I felt a little niggle, so I've just checked and I only have 2 pillowcases for my new bedding I've been v excited to use. I've asked my mum to check and she found the paper receipt just listing the 1 set of double bedding. I asked for the original email receipt since I'm sure I ordered extra pillow cases. The email receipt cannot be found anywhere in her inbox or in deleted emails. She usually keeps EVERYTHING and is fairly computer literate, I just did the ordering since she was busy. She's immediately suggested I order more.

AIBU to find this fishy and to think she's rung up or emailed to cancel my extras? My mum also has form for being a bit wily or using "technicalities" to her favour when she thinks she'll get away with it so I don't completely trust her anymore. She also v quickly commented that "most people just have plain" on extra pillowcases. She definitely has the nerve to style this out, too. She's a cool customer.

I honestly don't mind paying for more myself especially since they got me a fitted sheet instead- I just wish they'd said so I could've sorted something out pre Christmas and pre being all excited to FINALLY use my lovely dream bedding. I just want to know if it was my mistake in the first place. The lack of the original email - where I can see if I made a cock up, is bothering me. Will email myself a copy next time. I don't want a fight and I hope I'm being U ...

OP posts:
Fefifobum · 31/12/2020 01:43

It’s got to be Ted Baker bedding?

Goodbye2020Hello2021 · 31/12/2020 08:18

Script: ‘The mystery of the missing bedding’ (Some time after Christmas)

OP:
‘Mum, have you been charged for an extra set of pillowcases? They weren’t in the parcel. I got a new sheet though, thanks!’

OP’s Mum (confused):
‘No love, definitely not been charged. I don’t know what’s happened there’

OP: ‘Ok! Just wanted to make sure!’

(OP reorders two pillowcases)

THE END

Bluntness100 · 31/12/2020 08:23

This is really grabby and petty 😱

draughtycatflap · 31/12/2020 08:37

Isn’t there an Agatha Christie called ‘The mystery of the missing pillow cases and the extra fitted bedsheet”?

sonicbook · 31/12/2020 08:41

YABU and I wish I had your problems.

Can't believe you even took the time to type this. I hope your mum reads it and calls you out on it.

PastaPins · 31/12/2020 08:41

First world problem.

Be grateful for what you got. I can't believe you're this disappointed over a set of pillowcases. I wish that was my biggest worry in life.

Goodbye2020Hello2021 · 31/12/2020 08:46

draughtycatflap

I think you’re right! A real page turner.

draughtycatflap · 31/12/2020 08:50

Yes, I remember reading it now. It was set during the Spanish flu pandemic when fear and misery was everywhere and Leticia Poselthwaite from Little Whinging moaned about her petty problems while eating battenburg.

millymae · 31/12/2020 09:33

Talk about piling in. ........
Some of the responses on here are rude and uncalled for and generally miss the point. No wonder there are bullies in the playground when children have parents who are happy to stick the boot in at every opportunity.
The OP made it perfectly clear that she was happy to buy the extra pillow cases and was very grateful that she’d been bought a fitted sheet, so all the grabby comments are unnecessary and uncalled for.
The main gist of her post was that she wanted to know if it was her mistake that the extra pillowcases hadn’t materialised or whether her mum had changed the order because she didn’t think they were necessary.
First world problem it may well be, but In OP’s shoes and with her mum’s history I’d want to know too. It’s not great if someone offers to buy you a gift, asks you to order it, then decides to change it without saying anything because it’s not what they think you need,
Despite having doubts about her mum’s integrity the OP is likely to end up .financially better off as a result of what arrived in the order as a sheet is likely to be more expensive than pillowcases, and as she made clear when she posted she was intending to buy the sheet anyway,

Goodbye2020Hello2021 · 31/12/2020 09:41

draughtycatflap
😂😂😅

Gonkytonk · 31/12/2020 10:32

Best guess is you accidentally ordered the fitted sheet by accident instead of the pillowcases.

It’s a non event and whilst I can sympathise in wanting to check (it bugs me immensely when online ordering goes wrong), it’s not worth a battle with your Mum over.

Gonkytonk · 31/12/2020 10:33

Also I really need to see a picture of this fabulous bedding Grin

SchadenfreudePersonified · 31/12/2020 13:44

@draughtycatflap

Isn’t there an Agatha Christie called ‘The mystery of the missing pillow cases and the extra fitted bedsheet”?
Yes.

It was a Poirot one.

Turns out Miss Lemon changed the order because she was sick of him getting moustache wax on the good pillowcases, and wanted him to just use plain ones and swap the bottom pillows to the op every night, and then back again in the morning.

Friend Hastings thought it was a "jolly bad show", but didn't want to criticise a lady, so hadn't mentioned anything.

BlueThistles · 31/12/2020 14:58

@millymae

Talk about piling in. ........ Some of the responses on here are rude and uncalled for and generally miss the point. No wonder there are bullies in the playground when children have parents who are happy to stick the boot in at every opportunity. The OP made it perfectly clear that she was happy to buy the extra pillow cases and was very grateful that she’d been bought a fitted sheet, so all the grabby comments are unnecessary and uncalled for. The main gist of her post was that she wanted to know if it was her mistake that the extra pillowcases hadn’t materialised or whether her mum had changed the order because she didn’t think they were necessary. First world problem it may well be, but In OP’s shoes and with her mum’s history I’d want to know too. It’s not great if someone offers to buy you a gift, asks you to order it, then decides to change it without saying anything because it’s not what they think you need, Despite having doubts about her mum’s integrity the OP is likely to end up .financially better off as a result of what arrived in the order as a sheet is likely to be more expensive than pillowcases, and as she made clear when she posted she was intending to buy the sheet anyway,

Agreed 🌺

StanfordPines · 31/12/2020 16:06

The main gist of her post was that she wanted to know if it was her mistake that the extra pillowcases hadn’t materialised or whether her mum had changed the order because she didn’t think they were necessary.

But if that was the case why did she talk about her mum being over bearing and a lier?

niugboo · 31/12/2020 17:21

Is this a joke? She got you an extra sheet so is clearly not trying to be shifty. You obviously made a mistake. Thank you mum for going to the extra effort of getting you a sheet too.

bondgirl76 · 31/12/2020 17:42

Sorry..lost the will to live...

tommyhoundmum · 31/12/2020 17:45

Why not ring the company and check? It will all be on their computer.
I like 4 matching too and you've waited a while for the set.

Jaded1 · 31/12/2020 17:46

I presume that it’s voluntary that they give you anything at all?
Take a deep breath because you are not doing yourself any favours.

pollypot123 · 31/12/2020 17:46

In normal circumstances this would make you sound like a petulant child. In current circumstances...

Scbchl · 31/12/2020 17:49

I honestly wouldnt give a flying fuck about this in the grand scheme of things.

Owl55 · 31/12/2020 17:56

Pathetic YABU

Nearly47 · 31/12/2020 18:05

She is probably lying but I'd just buy the pillowcases myself. There is nothing to win. If she wanted she would have offered to get the extra pillowcases now. She hasn't so she doesn't want to. Accept the gift that she did give you and buy yourself the extra bits.

Whenigrowupiwanttobea · 31/12/2020 18:22

Did you have to set up an account on the website when you placed the order? Because you could log in and check under the "My Orders" section to double check what was listed in the order?

Insanelysilver · 31/12/2020 18:35

Maybe on reflection your mum felt you were already asking for an expensive bed set and asking for the extra pillow cases was taking the pee.
A lot of parents don’t buy for their adult kids once they become grandparents.