To find this a bit fishy?

[MrsToothyBitch]

I know this is a minor gripe, but the principle of it is bugging me and I feel awful for doubting my mum. Sorry it's a bit long.

I asked for a particular bedding set for Christmas from my parents and not much else. I've loved it for ages but there's always something more practical or sensible I need for the house, so I can never justify getting it. I checked parents were happy to spend that much on 1 set of double bedding and 1 extra pair of pillowcases. They were. I did the online order on mum's iPad with her details- she asked me to. I am 99% sure I included the extra pair of the pillowcases. I remember checking it was ok with my parents. The set is also a tricky colour to match so it was easier to buy 4 from the same place. The brand only recently started selling pillow cases separately to the duvet cover, too- another reason I'd not bought them previously. I remember saying that.

It arrived no problem, I was thrilled to open bedding on xmas day plus a fitted sheet to go with it, that I'd not expected but had planned to get myself. I was also busy with helping to keep the show on the road so busy and preoccupied and didn't linger over my gifts.

Anyway, it's sheet change tomorrow, and I felt a little niggle, so I've just checked and I only have 2 pillowcases for my new bedding I've been v excited to use. I've asked my mum to check and she found the paper receipt just listing the 1 set of double bedding. I asked for the original email receipt since I'm sure I ordered extra pillow cases. The email receipt cannot be found anywhere in her inbox or in deleted emails. She usually keeps EVERYTHING and is fairly computer literate, I just did the ordering since she was busy. She's immediately suggested I order more.

AIBU to find this fishy and to think she's rung up or emailed to cancel my extras? My mum also has form for being a bit wily or using "technicalities" to her favour when she thinks she'll get away with it so I don't completely trust her anymore. She also v quickly commented that "most people just have plain" on extra pillowcases. She definitely has the nerve to style this out, too. She's a cool customer.

I honestly don't mind paying for more myself especially since they got me a fitted sheet instead- I just wish they'd said so I could've sorted something out pre Christmas and pre being all excited to FINALLY use my lovely dream bedding. I just want to know if it was my mistake in the first place. The lack of the original email - where I can see if I made a cock up, is bothering me. Will email myself a copy next time. I don't want a fight and I hope I'm being U ...

Is this seriously about two pillowcases?!

Your biggest mistake was not forwarding the email to your own email address and then deleting it from the sent and deleted folders.

Did you get your mum what she asked for?

I always have to remind myself to buy 4 cases, 2 just doesn’t cut it.

@Crocatigga

Wow! Can't even imagine thinking too much about this let alone starting a thread on a forum about it. Wish my problems were that small!!

Why don’t you just move on and let the rest of us discuss it.

@Apollo3

P ordered this stuff... she is not imagining this... someone changed the order or it's been part delivered... this needs to be queried... what's the problem with this thought path confused

You're so sure she ordered correctly, but OP says she is not. So what IS the problem with your thought path? Good question

And again, OP cannot contact the company as she is NOT THE CUSTOMER. Sheesh.

and this needs to be established .... because nobody is sure... so what's the problem ?

Phone the Company direct OP... 🌺

I get it’s not really about pillowcases.

If she’s overbearing and domineering and changes bedding orders because she’s paying and thinks the pillowcases aren’t worth the money...
...why are you going round with a NYE bottle? You’ve done her shopping, sue should be getting you one. It sounds like control issues on both sides. Maybe back off a bit and show her your worth.

I'm actually happy that there are so many posters who can't get their heads around this.
It means that you have nice, normal, loving mothers.

It doesn't take Sigmund Freud to see that this is not really about bedding!!

Maybe you mum changed the order and is worried to tell you because of your overreaction.

Just say thank you for the present and move on.

I think they were out of stock for pillows and that's why they sent fitted sheet instead. Doubt your mum had anything to do with it because it sounds really ridiculous, why would she want to ruin your "dream bedding big sheet change day"?
People are losing there jobs and dying op, give your head a wobble.

People are losing there jobs and dying op, give your head a wobble.

‘Their’ jobs. I’m not a spag pedant but you need to give your grammar a wobble.

I can only assume there is some back story if you doubt your mum over 2 pillowcases? Perhaps they put in the sheet you weren't expecting, instead of 2 pillowcases.

Personally I'd not mention it to her but would buy the rest myself.

Wonder if the shipping warehouse packed a fitted sheet instead of 2 pillowcases.
Happens a lot, especially at super busy time of year.

I get you have issues with your mum but tbh you’re best off distancing yourself and not engaging with her weird games if this is the case. She could be getting a kick from causing confusion and upset if she has form? Or as above if could be an error.
Either way I’d let it go, it’s not worth the mental energy you’re expending over it.

I get it, OP. It's about the potential lying and going behind your back over something that should have been a non issue, it's not about the pillowcases themselves. Having said that, I'd just let it go now, it's not worth falling out over. Choose your battles!

Im with you OP. No point ASKING someone what they want, agreeing to it, then not getting it.

I must say though, there have been times I SWORE I did something and I didn't. It is odd that the email has disappeared though. Have you checked her email for other messages on that day? Does she regularly delete emails?

Thanks for proving my point @EdwardCullensBiteOnTheSide, the ‘people are dying’ brigade are really not very nice.

If you made the order, where did the extra fitted sheet come from, unless your DM altered the order after you had made it?

No problem dear!

'Dream bedding'. I feel I haven't lived! Wtf is dream bedding?! I'm imagining red crushed velvet with gold braid piping.

Glad you admit it Edward

Judging by your username you’re about 12 anyway.

😂😂😂 Saddo.

Talking of usernames, minerva said what? Thar?

Sounds like she decided you needed a fitted sheet instead of the extra pillowcases and cancelled your order and double deleted the emails because she knew you would look.

I would give yourself a break from this cycle with your mum. Just get your own and accept your mum is a but overpowering.