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To find this a bit fishy?

313 replies

MrsToothyBitch · 30/12/2020 11:38

I know this is a minor gripe, but the principle of it is bugging me and I feel awful for doubting my mum. Sorry it's a bit long.

I asked for a particular bedding set for Christmas from my parents and not much else. I've loved it for ages but there's always something more practical or sensible I need for the house, so I can never justify getting it. I checked parents were happy to spend that much on 1 set of double bedding and 1 extra pair of pillowcases. They were. I did the online order on mum's iPad with her details- she asked me to. I am 99% sure I included the extra pair of the pillowcases. I remember checking it was ok with my parents. The set is also a tricky colour to match so it was easier to buy 4 from the same place. The brand only recently started selling pillow cases separately to the duvet cover, too- another reason I'd not bought them previously. I remember saying that.

It arrived no problem, I was thrilled to open bedding on xmas day plus a fitted sheet to go with it, that I'd not expected but had planned to get myself. I was also busy with helping to keep the show on the road so busy and preoccupied and didn't linger over my gifts.

Anyway, it's sheet change tomorrow, and I felt a little niggle, so I've just checked and I only have 2 pillowcases for my new bedding I've been v excited to use. I've asked my mum to check and she found the paper receipt just listing the 1 set of double bedding. I asked for the original email receipt since I'm sure I ordered extra pillow cases. The email receipt cannot be found anywhere in her inbox or in deleted emails. She usually keeps EVERYTHING and is fairly computer literate, I just did the ordering since she was busy. She's immediately suggested I order more.

AIBU to find this fishy and to think she's rung up or emailed to cancel my extras? My mum also has form for being a bit wily or using "technicalities" to her favour when she thinks she'll get away with it so I don't completely trust her anymore. She also v quickly commented that "most people just have plain" on extra pillowcases. She definitely has the nerve to style this out, too. She's a cool customer.

I honestly don't mind paying for more myself especially since they got me a fitted sheet instead- I just wish they'd said so I could've sorted something out pre Christmas and pre being all excited to FINALLY use my lovely dream bedding. I just want to know if it was my mistake in the first place. The lack of the original email - where I can see if I made a cock up, is bothering me. Will email myself a copy next time. I don't want a fight and I hope I'm being U ...

OP posts:
HaggisBurger · 30/12/2020 13:42

You sound a bit nuts. I can’t even comprehend the amount of energy and thought you’ve expended over some pillowcases.

Amira19 · 30/12/2020 13:42

HelenUrth
Its 2 pillow cases for heaven sake.

Immrswhistledown · 30/12/2020 13:45

I think you need to re read your post and see how silly and petty you sound. Just order some more pillowcases yourself.

Allispretty · 30/12/2020 13:47

First world problems....you need to get a grip I can't believe people actually think and behave like this over gifts

Viviennemary · 30/12/2020 13:47

You got the extra sheet which probably cost more than the pillowcase. I agree just appreciate what you've got.,

BlueThistles · 30/12/2020 13:48

When I order stuff online.. I KNOW what I ordered.... Hmm

OP ordered this stuff... she is not imagining this... someone changed the order or it's been part delivered... this needs to be queried... what's the problem with this thought path Confused

Contact the Company direct OP. ..Flowers

Dutypaid · 30/12/2020 13:48

Threads like this remind me that I made the right decision when I chose not to have children.

ContessaDiPulpo · 30/12/2020 13:50

I sympathise somewhat with the confusion OP. My mother had form for saying she'd do one thing, then doing another seemingly very strange thing and then getting angry if asked any (increasingly baffled) questions about it. I think it was partly generational - she was almost incapable of speaking plainly unless pushed to her limit, which was a shame as it would have saved everyone a lot of confusion! I'd want to get to the bottom of it as well.

sst1234 · 30/12/2020 13:50

Wow, OPs poor parents. Sometimes this forum is unbelievable, people are so entitled.

lyinginthegutterstaringatstars · 30/12/2020 13:52

I think you should be grateful. She doesn't actually have to get you a gift.

Posturesorposes · 30/12/2020 13:52

I have seen many degrees of fussy entitlement with people bothering to crate threads about - but this is the peak.

Apollo3 · 30/12/2020 13:52

P ordered this stuff... she is not imagining this... someone changed the order or it's been part delivered... this needs to be queried... what's the problem with this thought path confused

You're so sure she ordered correctly, but OP says she is not. So what IS the problem with your thought path? Good question

And again, OP cannot contact the company as she is NOT THE CUSTOMER. Sheesh.

Wheresmykimchi · 30/12/2020 13:55

@BlueThistles

When I order stuff online.. I KNOW what I ordered.... Hmm

OP ordered this stuff... she is not imagining this... someone changed the order or it's been part delivered... this needs to be queried... what's the problem with this thought path Confused

Contact the Company direct OP. ..Flowers

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Apollo3 · 30/12/2020 13:56

No, not that.

makingitupaswegoon · 30/12/2020 13:56

Hi OP. In future i would ask for money as a gift to save the hassle.

But I do recognise your mum's type - I suspect she thought buying extra pillowcases was unnecessarily expensive and got you a sheet instead (probably from elsewhere). If you can be bothered you should have an order number on one of the emails so contact the company directly with a query.

My MIL is like this - once she ended up staying with us extra days 'because there were no seats on the train on Monday'. After querying this a few times and saying next time get me to sort the tickets as I'm sure we could've come up with a better option she let slip there were seats available but not at the cheapest level and she wasn't prepared to pay the extra £10-15. I was cross because it was really inconvenient to have to host for an extra couple of days because DH was away with work and I had lots of things on.

IToldYouIWantedTheUnicorn · 30/12/2020 13:56

You sound like a spoilt and prissy princess 'she's a cool customer' 🤮

GivenchyDahhling · 30/12/2020 13:57

I understand where you’re coming from OP, it’s not about being grateful/ungrateful; it’s about whether your DM is gaslighting you over this.

One thing I would say in her defence though is I’ve found it very hard to change most online orders once they’re placed - a few places if you contact them immediately can do so, but most places I’ve encountered automatically send things on to the warehouse and you have to receive and return.

Fuzzmutt · 30/12/2020 14:03

@IToldYouIWantedTheUnicorn

You sound like a spoilt and prissy princess 'she's a cool customer' 🤮
Yes, honestly what kind of woman would describe her mother in that manner?
MaelyssQ · 30/12/2020 14:04

What a bizarre and grabby thread. You're an adult, yet you're behaving like a spoilt child.

ktp100 · 30/12/2020 14:06

Oh FFS.

Order yourself some more pillows and stop with the dramatics & theorising - they added in the sheet extra so you've already done better than you expected!!

You sound awfully grabby, OP.

QuestionableMouse · 30/12/2020 14:07

@Witchend

She usually keeps EVERYTHING and is fairly computer literate,

I am 99% sure I included the extra pair of the pillowcases.

I'm fairly certain it's my error if I'm honest, and I hope it's not wasted money... but I'd feel a bit blind by NOT checking and she's not computer illiterate

Grin I suggest next time you start a thread you try and keep track of what you've written. It adds verisimilitude.
You might want to re read what the OP posted... She's saying the same thing, just in two different ways 🙄🙄🙄
Affor · 30/12/2020 14:10

Op why not return the sheet for credit and use that to buy the pillow cases?

ThatsNotTheTeaHunty · 30/12/2020 14:12

It's a pillowcase. Just move on.

Crocatigga · 30/12/2020 14:17

Wow! Can't even imagine thinking too much about this let alone starting a thread on a forum about it. Wish my problems were that small!!

leafygarden42 · 30/12/2020 14:19

FFS. Xmas Confused at the whole thread

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