What is an instant turn on about a woman?

Sandalison · 2020-12-27T14:48:19+00:00

Inspired by the other thread about instant turn-ons! I am single and also, as I slug around in my dressing gown eating cheese, I do not feel sexy, at all! So asking men and gay women, what are your instant turn ons for women? Women in general, has your partner told you what he/she finds sexy?

thepeopleversuswork · 27/12/2020 14:49

I'm neither a man nor a gay woman but I'm going to guess that there are as many answers here as there are respondents and no one-size-fits-all.

CardoMondo · 27/12/2020 14:50

Independence, a bit of fire in their personality ... someone who isn’t afraid to get mucky or break a nail. Someone who doesn’t try to be a princess

Daydrambeliever · 27/12/2020 14:57

Confidence, intelligence, positive attitude.

Original poster

Sandalison · 27/12/2020 14:57

I get that there isn’t one answer, I’m just interested!

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caringcarer · 27/12/2020 15:03

My dh likes a big smile.

IamMariahScarey · 27/12/2020 15:11

My DP likes a big bum!

RUTheShitploppeeOrShitplopper · 27/12/2020 15:16

Bum, boobs, weight, hair and make up.

RickJames · 27/12/2020 15:16

Intelligence and someone who 'ugly' laughs - like they love laughing and aren't self conscious. When I think about my friends that are really attractive, most of them are sharp/ intelligent and don't mind snorting and guffawing.

StamfordHill · 27/12/2020 15:26

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CardoMondo · 27/12/2020 15:41

Oh I’ve got another one! Someone who wouldn’t be seen dead mincing around Disney world wearing mouse ears. Also, someone who doesn’t wear “Disney” clothes. Someone who isn’t obsessed with fashion and designer labels and someone who doesn’t take “sleeping selfies etc!

Lockheart · 27/12/2020 15:43

Try posting in the sex topic perhaps?

CardoMondo · 27/12/2020 15:44

@Lockheart

Try posting in the sex topic perhaps?

Why? The other “turn on” posts were in AIBU ...

GreenlandTheMovie · 27/12/2020 15:45

I saw a post on another forum which I would say is majority, but not exclusively male, recently. The mostly agreed answer seemed to be a woman who wasn't super-attractive, but girl-next-door type, who didn't have a high ranking career. Reason being they thought that type of woman has less chances with other men and so they are less likely to end up getting divorced...I think it would depend on whether you asked a confident, good looking man with a good career or someone who is just getting by.

A lot of men now say what they find attractive in woman as what they don't find attractive, which is pretty horrible to read.

Coldilox · 27/12/2020 15:46

Gay woman here.

Intelligence, kindness, confidence. Sense of humour. Compassion.

Zoinksalot · 27/12/2020 15:46

Curly /wavey hair

Boobs smaller than mine otherwise there's too much boobage happening and the baps are flying about

AngryFeminist · 27/12/2020 15:47

Sharp wit, intelligence, and a grounded, earthy vibe. Dirty laugh a bonus. Curves. Alex Kingston is my dream partner!

Seafog · 27/12/2020 15:48

My dh says a warm smile and a true welcome are the sexiest things

Zoinksalot · 27/12/2020 15:48

Obviously personality matters and its imperative you connect on that level but inital attractiveness, at least to me, is quite important.

HermioneWeasley · 27/12/2020 15:50

Intellect and a great rack

Whatisthisfuckery · 27/12/2020 16:03

Lesbian here.

I like a woman with broad shoulders. Don’t know why but that really floats my boat, maybe because I’m very slight. I’m also rather partial to a nice bum, and breasts that are neither massive nor tiny.

All of that is superficial of course and says nothing about the woman any specific characteristics belong to, so they aren’t criteria by any means. I like a woman to be unashamedly herself. I don’t want a woman who’s worrying or doing things because of what other people think, I want a woman who knows her own mind and doesn’t feeel the need to gain external validation.

thepeopleversuswork · 27/12/2020 16:06

@GreenlandTheMovie

I saw a post on another forum which I would say is majority, but not exclusively male, recently. The mostly agreed answer seemed to be a woman who wasn't super-attractive, but girl-next-door type, who didn't have a high ranking career. Reason being they thought that type of woman has less chances with other men and so they are less likely to end up getting divorced...I think it would depend on whether you asked a confident, good looking man with a good career or someone who is just getting by.

A lot of men now say what they find attractive in woman as what they don't find attractive, which is pretty horrible to read.

Urgh… how depressing.

In other words they are attracted to women who won't challenge them too much, won't out-earn them, happy to play second fiddle and won't rock the boat too much because they fear getting divorced.

Remind me not to get married again.

OohImBlindedByTheLights · 27/12/2020 16:07

Just asked DH. His response.... "Chebs"

PizzaForOne · 27/12/2020 16:13

Doesn't really matter what body size or shape, just being confident enough to flaunt what you've got a little, some cleavage or bare legs under a dress or skirt etc

Littlefluffyclouds13 · 27/12/2020 16:15

Dh says the following, beautiful eyes, the ability to look sexy/cute in scruffy clothes (he loves me in a massive sweatshirt & leggings!) sharp wit, kind/compassionate and killer legs!!

EveningOverRooftops · 27/12/2020 16:15

@thepeopleversuswork

Every time I see stuff like that I’m eternally grateful to have met a bloke who has very much been ‘get that second degree!’ And was very much interested in the math I was learning last week even though he didn’t understand it.

I still don’t know if it’s going anywhere but the feeling of someone not caring that you’re a bit smarter/more qualifications etc (even if it’s not true) is quite something. I don’t feel like I’m having to hide parts of myself.