What is an instant turn on about a woman?

[Sandalison]

Inspired by the other thread about instant turn-ons!

I am single and also, as I slug around in my dressing gown eating cheese, I do not feel sexy, at all! So asking men and gay women, what are your instant turn ons for women? Women in general, has your partner told you what he/she finds sexy?

This thread is making me feel ugly!

DP said he likes a big bum and confidence. Also said he likes a bubbly personality which is funny considering I’m a right grumpy cow 😂

Physically the obvious breasts/ass.
I'd say most guys love a warm smile and bright eyes.

@RUTheShitploppeeOrShitplopper

Mine isn't real. Just wrote what many wouldn't admit to for fear of being called superficial and whatnot.

Amused by those who asked their husbands. Yea, he'll tell you what he really thinks.

I know, hilarious.

Yeah, men really find compassion sexy.

My DP has told me that he;

Likes that I’m an easy going person and have my own life.

I have a sunny disposition.

He likes a body that has seen the inside of a gym and a nice bum.

He also likes that I’ve achieved academically, have a serious career and earn decent money.

Wow the answers that men like less attractive/confident women so that they can bully them is sooo depressing

I’m surprised big boobs/ass etc are instant turn ons. Low cut tops/short skirts I would expect, but surprised size alone is enough. Perhaps I was naive! I have small boobs and a big ass, so half marks

DP said it's a look I have in my eyes sometimes. Normally I would have spent the day staring at him ever since but I have 2 week old DS asleep on my chest so don't feel particularly amorous. In general terms he said nice legs.

On the back of the other thread I told him I agreed with the majority that it's forearms for me, so he's spent the day in rolled up shirt sleeves waving his arms at me anytime he passes

I was told by my ex that I was "too intelligent and too good looking".

It wouldn't bother me. My wife is a stunning blonde academic. She earns the same as me.

Butch appearance and confidence (gay woman).

Freckles, that shape lip that is kind of circle shaped? See it on mainly chinese/japanese women. Just soooo beautiful. Confidence to dress like 'them'. A signature scent.

a great smile , dark hair and loads of confidence are a great place to start !!
Defo no Botox or lip filler , a love of horses is a big alarm bell and cue to leave

DH says someone who doesn't take themselves seriously, can not only make but take a joke and a nice round bum (thankfully I fit all of these).

If her phd thesis was the starting point for a new area of academic study

Or tattooed arms

Or both is good

My dp says it depends on the woman.

He says make up isnt a turn on for him and yet hes fancied and been out with women who wear full face of make everyday..high heels, career women.

He likes curves, a big smile, nicely dressed, a bit of pride in appearance most of the time unless we're in the house

He likes me without make up but hates me with too much..loves my smile

Nice boobs and a nice arse as well..most men like that I should imagine..mine does

Sense of humour a must but also the same outlook on life.

He also said that intelligence turns him on, fiestyness as well, he likes bossy women..but as hes quite bossy himself then that's a bit of a clash with us sometimes.

Im not the type hes gone for before but he says there was something about me that he loved
Compassion and being loving and caring also a big turn on for dp

It can be almost anything that initially attracts me but I do love:
Power (career usually)
Intelligence - specifically good with words
A vulnerable side
Petite
Curly hair

Also being slightly "prim" and straight laced does it for me... It all sounds a bit weird now I've written it down tbh!!

One of my cousins has a very good job & earns about 500k. She's very attractive but really struggles to meet anyone, maintain a relationship . Her colleagues want a women who is happy to stay at home/raise the dc & other men who earn less struggle with the fact she is completely independent & doesn't "need" them.

@jillypill

One of my cousins has a very good job & earns about 500k. She's very attractive but really struggles to meet anyone, maintain a relationship . Her colleagues want a women who is happy to stay at home/raise the dc & other men who earn less struggle with the fact she is completely independent & doesn't "need" them.

Come across this a lot.

I want a man. Don’t need a man. A lot of men cannot get past that basic hurdle.

I am not enjoying reading what other people's husbands tell their wives is a turn in... Come on! Not only is it cringe, probably not true (nice to hear but no need to tell the rest of us!) it's also not really what the thread is about! It's not "Tell us what compliments your husband gives you when put on the spot". Their real answer is probably "spanking", "thongs", "deep throating".... Yeah, a nice smile is their instant turn on!! 😂

she had no issues when NQ and earning under 6 figures but she didn't want to commit then & was pretty consumed by her job.

I want a man. Don’t need a man. A lot of men cannot get past that basic hurdle.

Yes! I think it's because her earnings give her so much independence eg mortgage free & psychologically they think she has all the "power".

Their real answer is probably "spanking", "thongs", "deep throating"....

😂

Most of your husbands are telling you lies ......... instant turn on for me is nice figure,face and eyes ( can be any age ) and I’d have no idea how clever they are or how much they earn ? But wouldn’t look twice at fat women ....... sorry just not my thing. 🙂

My DH loves my face, big boobs and bum and small waist.

Yeah I have to say being one of those women who have a very senior job, confidence and I’m quite attractive (wasn’t always turned it round post split!) and happy in myself that I have no issues attracting attention. But so far it’s generally seemed to be about instant attraction / sex then they end it as I don’t make them feel “needed” enough!

I’m sure that’s not all men though...

My ex likes a submissive woman, who cooks and cleans and doesn't ask for money.

One of my cousins has a very good job & earns about 500k

She earns 500k? And what job would this be?