What is an instant turn on about a woman?

[Sandalison]

Inspired by the other thread about instant turn-ons!

I am single and also, as I slug around in my dressing gown eating cheese, I do not feel sexy, at all! So asking men and gay women, what are your instant turn ons for women? Women in general, has your partner told you what he/she finds sexy?

@billysboy why the horse hatred? I’m ticking all your boxes until then 😂😂 The horse thing maybe the revelation of why I’m single!

@1992serpent partner at a top law firm.

Some of her older male colleagues earn more than 1m.

@1992Serpent where do I start !!

Oh, I dont have a law degree

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Gay woman here.

Athletic, toned physique, I'm quite partial to a bit of muscle but probably wouldn't go for a full on body building look.

Not too tall, I'm a bit of a short ass myself and it would feel weird.

Someone who can exchange a bit of playful good-natured banter. I think that can indicate humour, intellect and compatibility quite quickly and tells you whether you might have a balanced match.

I can find more butch or femme women attractive and have had relationships with both (and with women who would never define themselves along those lines), but the turn ons would work in slightly different ways.

@1992serpent do you want a job that pays that? I'd say law, banking & tech would be the fields but the roles that pay that are highly competitive.

Interesting that some people are answering with what their partner finds attractive about them, but I bet lots of these things won't necessarily be the same things he would find an instant turn-on (which is what the OP asked about) in someone he doesn't already know. Instant turn-ons must surely be mainly physical, or evident from spending a short amount of time in someone's company - perhaps a sharp intellect or wit.

do you want a job that pays that?

Well of course. Who wouldn't? I love money.

I wouldn't 🤣

DrizzleandDamp

Boots and breeches , whats not to like , however the reality is very different in my experience !

Honestly straight away turn on for men...got to be slim, big boobs, big bum, pretty, long hair.

Things like career, wealth, accent is later on/relationship material.

A smile full of straight clean teeth.

Non smoker.

Blue eyes.

Nice curves, not skinny.

Dp says a nice bum!

Lesbian here. Being comfortable
In their own skin, intelligence,
warmth, pretty and on a more superficial level, boobs!

Curves, have never like skinny, skinny girls. Even my more ‘boyish’ girlfriends were pretty curvy.

@SmallChrismas

Healthy BMI and youth.

Haha! Brilliant! In other words: Slim and young, young and slim!

a lot of the answers on here are descriptions of 'ideal partner' rather than instant turn-on

warm smile
nice figure
something that hints at quirkiness

Work on yourself till you are really happy and in a good place. Then a man will see that and instinctively want to mess it all up. (Yes I know NAMALT etc.)

But realistically probably pheromones or something we (men and women) arent even aware of at the time.

Trying to think more instant turn on....
Amazing Excel skills
A flash of nice midriff
A knowledge of late 90s UK garage music

I am not enjoying reading what other people's husbands tell their wives is a turn in... Come on! Not only is it cringe, probably not true (nice to hear but no need to tell the rest of us!) it's also not really what the thread is about!

The OP asks specifically: Women in general, has your partner told you what he/she finds sexy?

Also baffled that you would assume all men lie to their partners....
🤷‍♀️😂

Women who enjoy their food and are not picky about what they eat

Good sense of humour, seriously. I will instantly take notice of somebody who can make me laugh.