Page 6 | What is an instant turn on about a woman?

jillypill · 27/12/2020 21:51

@bungaloid I'm a whizz at pivots & macros, fave tunes include Amira my desire, boom boom selection (genius crew?) however midriff not so flat after giant babies.

waterlego · 27/12/2020 21:52

My DH likes sense of humour/sense of fun, a neat bum and prominent collar bones.

noego · 27/12/2020 21:52

Authentic and natural

EveningOverRooftops · 27/12/2020 21:54

Just got a response from current male interest.

My vocab and accent. We met online before RL and spoke at length before meeting and it was specific words and my accent that did it for him. He said my pictures were the icing on the top (I’m not a model, size 16 etc etc) . Naww. Probably should keep this one right?

LouJ85 · 27/12/2020 21:55

My DP says intelligence, cheeky sense of humour, nice eyes and a nice arse. Obviously I tick all those boxes ...

bungaloid · 27/12/2020 22:12

@jillypill 2/3 ain't bad, considering it's probably a pretty rare mix of attributes.
Good pick on My Desire.

yelyah22 · 27/12/2020 22:14

Personality wise:

Intelligence
Confidence bordering on cockiness
A good sense of humour (so subjective, I know)

Looks wise:

Great tits
Pale skin and dark or ginger hair
Soft butch clothing wise

But everyone's different, that's just for me! My taste in men is exactly the same haha.

jillypill · 27/12/2020 22:16

😜

yelyah22 · 27/12/2020 22:23

My OH says: "Clever, big bum, short. Like you." Good lad.

quackson · 27/12/2020 22:49

Smiley eyes. A good sense of humour.
Dark hair. Knowing her own mind but can listen to those around her.
A big grin. Dirty laugh is a big bonus.

Yeahnahmum · 27/12/2020 22:49

Sense of humor. Nice sense of dress. Healthy physic

DillonPanthersTexas · 27/12/2020 22:54

I'm a bloke and for me:

Humour
Kindness.
Sporty
Independence
Happy to get muddy
Not needy
Daft
Intelligent
Ninja at head rubs

Heartofglass12345 · 27/12/2020 23:32

Confident and confortable in their own skin. Someone who doesn't take themselves too seriously

longcoffeebreak · 27/12/2020 23:38

@DillonPanthersTexas

I'm a bloke and for me:

Humour
Kindness.
Sporty
Independence
Happy to get muddy
Not needy
Daft
Intelligent
Ninja at head rubs

Interested in what you mean by not needy

Tempjob · 28/12/2020 08:18

I'm bisexual. The crushes I've had on women have all been on older, powerful women who I have felt a spark with in some way. It's hard to be more precise about what attracted me to them. What I found attractive was:

first woman: petite, stylish, emotionally needy, very charming

Second woman: slightly butch, beautiful face and a bit posh, very friendly

Third woman: kind personality, beautiful face, reserved

In terms of body type I'm turned on by curvy women (hour glass types) or petite women and large boobs, and auberne hair and freckles, though none of the women above really fitted into this mould.

Crakeandoryx · 28/12/2020 08:46

That spark in their eyes and they must smell good. Natural makeup and not looking like Barbie.

An ability to talk with and fit into any room of people. A genuine interest in people.
Intensity, confidence, intelligence, mischief and wit. A positive, empathetic nature.

Good sense of personal style. Can turn out well but equally happy to get muddy.

I look for the same on both sexes.

Male friends all like confident intelligent women who aren't complicated, tell it like it is and move on. Bums, boobs and legs featured in younger days but they've moved on from that now.

2021hopes · 28/12/2020 09:46

In my experience it takes an extremely secure man not to feel intimidated by an attractive, slim, financially independent and career focused woman. An Extremely secure man and there are not many of them around IMO.

I think most find slim, young, natural looking women attractive (no fillers,Botox). Most will check out breasts and bums within seconds of finding someone attractive so they would be the icing on the cake.

DillonPanthersTexas · 28/12/2020 11:32

Interested in what you mean by not needy

Someone who has their own interests, is comfortable with their own company and does not see being part of a couple as being joined at the hip. Someone who is confident in themselves and does not seek constant validation or tries to frame every action through the lens of a romantic gesture.

Stellaroses · 28/12/2020 20:34

@LouJ85

I am not enjoying reading what other people's husbands tell their wives is a turn in... Come on! Not only is it cringe, probably not true (nice to hear but no need to tell the rest of us!) it's also not really what the thread is about!

The OP asks specifically: Women in general, has your partner told you what he/she finds sexy?

Also baffled that you would assume all men lie to their partners....
🤷‍♀️😂

@LouJ85

Fair enough, I didn’t cotton on to that bit, I was just excited to see a thread discussing what women like about women and disappointed to hear the phrase I hate hearing from some my friends/colleagues (about any subject) “My DH says...” as if the husbands are the font of all knowledge and we’re all dying to hear their opinions 😂

And it’s not that think they’re lying, just that “What attracted you to me?” is a very different question to “What’s an instant turn on for you?”
The answer is VERY unlikely to be unbiased.

LouJ85 · 28/12/2020 21:24

And it’s not that think they’re lying, just that “What attracted you to me?” is a very different question to “What’s an instant turn on for you?”
The answer is VERY unlikely to be unbiased.

Yes.... but .... my DP's answer to both these is similar if not the same. Because I have the qualities that he finds an "instant turn on". This doesn't mean that I'm naive enough to think I'm the only woman in the world who instantly turns him on (in fact I know for a fact I'm not!), but it means I fit the bill for that, too (along with many other woman I'm sure).

I don't think his answer was biased at all. I'm not sure what you mean...

Stellaroses · 29/12/2020 10:01

@louj85 because if you're blonde and fair and curvy, he's not likely to say brunette, Petite, Italian women do it for him, is he? And rightly, it would be very insensitive. I'm sure he's not lying that you turn him on, but he may also have a kind of "fantasy" type which is quite different. It's the nature of fantasy.

LouJ85 · 29/12/2020 10:04

[quote Stellaroses]@louj85 because if you're blonde and fair and curvy, he's not likely to say brunette, Petite, Italian women do it for him, is he? And rightly, it would be very insensitive. I'm sure he's not lying that you turn him on, but he may also have a kind of "fantasy" type which is quite different. It's the nature of fantasy.[/quote]

After 5 years together and very sexually adventurous relationship... I think I'm aware of his fantasies but thank you for your input.

LouJ85 · 29/12/2020 10:07

[quote Stellaroses]@louj85 because if you're blonde and fair and curvy, he's not likely to say brunette, Petite, Italian women do it for him, is he? And rightly, it would be very insensitive. I'm sure he's not lying that you turn him on, but he may also have a kind of "fantasy" type which is quite different. It's the nature of fantasy.[/quote]

Also - trust me when I say he would most definitely tell me if other body types / hair colours turn him on - indeed he has done in the past; as have I told him the same about my own fantasies. It's the type of relationship we have (without going into too much detail 😂)

HikeForward · 29/12/2020 10:09

My DH finds a big bum in tight jeans or tight short skirt and big shapely legs in tights sexy!

Unfortunately I’m skinny at the moment so can’t really pull that off.

He also finds nice exposed skin attractive (eg unblemished shoulders, back of neck, feet, ankles, low backed dress or top).

And he likes untidy ‘bed head’ hair and minimal make up. Not the straightened heavily made up look!

Somewhere I read that long swishy hair, the colour red, a small waist and confidence are attractive to most men.

GreenlandTheMovie · 29/12/2020 10:13

@2021hopes

In my experience it takes an extremely secure man not to feel intimidated by an attractive, slim, financially independent and career focused woman. An Extremely secure man and there are not many of them around IMO.

I think most find slim, young, natural looking women attractive (no fillers,Botox). Most will check out breasts and bums within seconds of finding someone attractive so they would be the icing on the cake.

Maybe you don't know many professionals though? I work in one of the traditional professions, and its common for dentists to be married to lawyers or doctors. They mostly seem to hook up in the final years of university or shortly afterwards and are very clear on what they want and the lifestyle they want to lead.

I however married an engineer, which seems to be an oddly male dominated "profession" (lacks a governing body and other features of a true profession and quite low paid) and I only occassionally was introduced to my ex husband's work colleagues' wives, and when I was, they mostly didn't, and hadn't ever, worked.

So if that was all I'd encountered, I would have gained quite a misleading impression. In many social circles, an attractive, accomplished wife is almost an essential if you want to fit in.

I also think most men have no hope in hell of determining whether someone has subtle Botox or fillers or not.