To think this is the most fucking annoying comeback on Mumsnet

[Hobnobswantshernameback]

"Well at least you have a mother/dog/budgie/great aunt mine is dead and I'd give anything to have them here"

Yes we should all suck up the most awful behaviour from other people and be grateful for their mere existence as one day they will be dead
Someone says that they are in some way annoyed by someone else's behaviour
And
Every
Ducking
Time
"Well at least you have a father (even if he is a serial killer) mine is dead and I'd give anything to have them back"
Aaagghhhhh

I personally find the ‘it’s a joke’ response to be the most annoying response, especially as jokes are not always obvious when written down (no way to indicate inflection or non-verbal cues). It’s especially annoying when it’s a follow-up to an obviously rude comment.

I think sometimes the road to hell is paved with good intentions. E.g. it may be a rather ill attempted way of trying to make the op feel better.
But on a lighthearted note:
Is your father a serial killer ?

Totally agree it’s absolute narcissism masquerading as high mindedness. The world doesn’t revolve around one persons experience.

Misfortune is not a competition.

Someone asked me on a thread today if I meant to be so rude.

Of course I bloody did

I agree OP. It’s not exclusive to mumsnet either. A lot of people who have good relationships with their families seem completely unable to imagine anything different.

In my last year of uni, I stayed alone at uni for Christmas rather than seeing my parents. The previous time that I’d seen them, they had locked me in my room for over 24 hours as a punishment for being gay. Two close friends, who knew the whole story, gave me a long talk about how everyone argues with their parents sometimes and I’d regret it once my parents had passed away.

I agree this is an annoying response.
Usually it comes from a grieving person. As we all know when grieving we never remember the bad times a person brought. It's only a natural human response so dont be too hard on them

@zzizz

I can understand name changing. Threads turn up in the Daily Mail, so someone could recognise and look you up, finding all about your recent breast lump issues or husband's affair or something.

I was actually showing my husband when my comment turned up on DM😂 Proud moment. Proud moment

I like this thread as for once it's a bunch of stuff I agree is annoying 🤣

The only one I was surprised by was people saying its offensive to respond to child bereavement by saying they will hug theirs a bit tighter. I don't think I've ever actually said this but I've definitely thought it, and would have assumed it was just an expression of empathy.

Thanks, those pp. I will take care not to say this.

@youvegottenminuteslynn

Oh god I forgot the worst one, even worse than tinkly laugh...

"Man here..."

You don't need to announce you have a penis. You really don't.

Kinda depends on the user name and content of the post, dunnit? Although, honestly, I don't think I've ever met a man whose first words or actions didn't just scream "Penis here! I HAVE A PENIS!"

Oh apparently I'm precious for feeling panicky about covid and supermarkets being so full. SHE does charity work in her area, good for you. Read back a few pages, seems she has a habit of spitting back at others postings. Got nothing constructive to say (make yourself a cuppa)

Telling posters to "go and get therapy" often comes over as an unhelpful put down to me, especially when it's implied that the poster who's seeking support is "wrong" or "damaged" and needs to go and get herself fixed.

I think what I'm learning from this thread is the vast majority of replies are annoying and/or redundant.

Urgh just seen another - SHL or shit hot lawyer

Wow, so much angst and baggage here and the remainder with subliminal clues to their woes being much bigger than yours......
Where's the season joy gone to?
Genitals apart, look outward at what you can do for people who really are suffering, not within comparing trivia you endure seeking sympathy by bigging it up

And that dear friends sums it up in one fucking annoying patronising pile of waffle bollocks posts

😂

Genitals ... there's a word we don't use enough generally.

Where's the season joy gone to?

Yes! It's Chwistmas! You must be happy & joyful all the time. No matter what's currently going on in your life. Sod it. Deck The Fucking Halls innit.

I was happy and joyful over Christmas. Now I am bloated, hangovered and might thow up at any time.😂

The lesser spotted bitchplopping wanker in their natural habitat
Advanced search confirms their genus

Kinda depends on the user name and content of the post, dunnit?

It does. Occasionally a man's perspective for a particular scenario will be different to a woman's. Nothing wrong with that so long as it is not presented as being a more authoritative or somehow more valid experience then what a woman posted. You do see on here though perfectly reasonable ancedotes or experiences being jumped on or mocked just because they originated from a bloke, not because of their content.

Agree OP, but another one I particularly hate is:

"It doesn't sound like you like him very much" when someone is venting about their partner being a dick.

@littleburn

"Could you take in ironing?" to anyone in financial difficulties.

^Yes, this one.