To think this is the most fucking annoying comeback on Mumsnet

[Hobnobswantshernameback]

"Well at least you have a mother/dog/budgie/great aunt mine is dead and I'd give anything to have them here"

Yes we should all suck up the most awful behaviour from other people and be grateful for their mere existence as one day they will be dead
Someone says that they are in some way annoyed by someone else's behaviour
And
Every
Ducking
Time
"Well at least you have a father (even if he is a serial killer) mine is dead and I'd give anything to have them back"
Aaagghhhhh

Agree. Happens IRL too. One of my former foster kids (now an adult) was horribly abused so, not surprisingly, is NC with his bio parents. But he still gets twats judging him all the time - "But it's your Mum. I couldn't not see my Mum" etc.

How stupid and unimaginative do you have to be to realise that not everyone has had good parenting?

@LynetteScavo

Years ago someone posted for advice on her unsightly varicose veins and was told: "just be thankful you have two legs".

I absolutely believe that (not sarcasm)

Comes on thread, spells out something really obvious, that's already been said loads of times then

[gavel]

Like saying the word gavel is what validates what everyone has already said in a slightly different way. Or maybe it's not just any gavel, it's a MN gavel (cue M&S muzak)

[sigh]

^ annoying as well.

@Emeraldshamrock

It depends on the post. I never saw someone use it towards a poster who was a abused by a parent it is far from the worst comeback I've read here.

It is often used on threads about going Non Contact due to abuse.

@daisychain01

Comes on thread, spells out something really obvious, that's already been said loads of times then

[gavel]

Like saying the word gavel is what validates what everyone has already said in a slightly different way. Or maybe it's not just any gavel, it's a MN gavel (cue M&S muzak)

[sigh]

^ annoying as well.

Or worse still, they start with "I'm going to go against the grain here..."

Before posting something that's been said 100 times already 🙄😂

Comes on thread, spells out something really obvious, that's already been said loads of times then

Though this sometimes happens because threads don't sync properly, especially on a phone - so page 2 (say) looks like the end of the thread and you think you're saying something new when, in fact, everyone else is 12 pages in and you're the 300th 'cancel the cheque' poster.

No excuse for the though

Another infuriating one is "You sound like you could start a fight in an empty room".

Particularly if the OP ended up in the situation they are complaining about, after pulling somebody up on their poor behaviour.

Well if it redresses the balance my mother is dead and I’m very glad. 😄

The irrational phrased one liner for me is "This is a red flag" or "plenty of red flags" with no advice or explanation.
It is not the phrase red flag as long as it is in a sentence or paragraph of other thoughts or advice.

No is a complete sentence

Yes, if you're a robot. Or a psychopath tinkly laugh.

Are you on glue? Is just embarrassing It's a pathetic MN phrase like 'naice ham'.

Oh no and yes, the "you should be grateful". About as useful as the "go for a walk" on a thread where the OP is borderline suicidal.

Oh no and

The shrug emoji and 'HTH' makes me want to hunt the poster down and grate the bottom of their feet.

"Well at least you have a father (even if he is a serial killer) mine is dead and I'd give anything to have them back"

OP posts something about a desire to have a bit more than the very basics in life/work/relationships

'You sound extremely high maintenance'

OP: "Our non-negotiable outgoings are 2X quid this month, we have exhausted all our savings and have only X coming in.."
Posters: "Wow! X! I would live like a king on X!"

End of .................... Just hate that

I got told I should be grateful for mil foisting all the shite of the day into us as one day she won’t be doing it. We live in a tiny village and work full time so have to keep shite until we can get to a charity shop to unload it..like in our 2 days off we don’t have enough to do 🙄 she wouldn’t stop going on though. No I will never be grateful and once she is gone I will be g lol as not to deal with it.

An extremely literal response to something that is clearly a metaphor or intentional hyperbole - like the first response on this thread - is super-annoying. I think people think they are being clever. They are wrong.

I’m waiting for the day someone comes on here asking for the correct response when they’ve used the oh so witty “did you mean to be so rude?” and the offending party has responded with “yes I fucking did!”

I hate the biscuit, i understand what is represents but why? A MN symbol to show you’ve been here more than 10 minutes. If you disagree, say that, posting a biscuit emoji is just annoying.

@Hobnobswantshernameback

But it's a ridiculous comeback "Tolerate any behaviour no matter how annoying or destruction or irritating or whatever as one day they'll be dead" Well we'll all be dead one day Doesn't give us carte balance to behave like and annoying dick

I so agree with this.

Plus, it never seems to occur to these types that there might be relief when said person/budgie dies.

All the Grimmers on MN telling other posters how grim they are for not living a perfect Mary Poppins middle class life. Twats.

YANBU!
Along with “At least your parents/ in-laws are interested in your children, in 7 years mine have looked after mine once for 3 hours” - in response to a post about someone’s mum/ MIL going nuclear because they haven’t been allowed their 10 week old grandchild overnight without its parents in their fag smoke and Komodo dragon filled house .

I think when you have been through the a bereavement your entire outlook on things changes. I lost my husband at 38 and I now have a different outlook/ perspective on everything whereas before I would have completely agreed with you.