Am I allowed to be upset by this

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My partner is one of the nicest people you have met . He is kind, considerate, loving and generous.
He is annoyed at me because I'm upset that he hasn't got me a card for Christmas.
I've said I appreciate all that he does for me . He does alot small and big things . He would give me his last penny.
He has been to three shops today to try and get a suitable card but no luck.
He says hes annoyed Im pissed off . Ive said I'm not pissed off but I am upset that he hasnt got me a card.
He says " but you know I dont do cards " I know for a fact he would be rightfully upset if I didnt get him a birthday card.
So tell me strait AIBU
When I say upset I dont mean crying and the like I just mean Ive gone quiet but not in an angry way.
Oh and he has got me a present.

My husband and I don't buy a card every year.

We buy each other a fancy one and bring it out every year.

There is nothing wrong with giving a card to someone you live with. Newsflash - some people do different things to you .

Christmas cards are for people one won't see at Christmas, not your partner. He has bought you a present. You are being childish

@Iminaglasscaseofemotion

I love cards. DH once gave me one when our thing is to give two. I mentioned I was disappointed as he always picks the perfect cards. He's never forgotten since and I get two at every occasion. I also give him two.

Two cards why. How pointless!

It isn't pointless at all. Some people just need to get some thinking genes.

@FestiveFruitloop

Two cards confused why. How pointless!

FFS! Aren't people even allowed to have their own little personal traditions now?!

Thank you. I'd say clearly lot but luckily that person has no place in my life and I don't have to listen to them.

Obviously you are being unreasonable.

Also you spell it “straight “

@mumof2exhausted

Obviously you are being unreasonable.

Also you spell it “straight “

Good job I don't care what you think then, @Iminaglasscaseofemotion.

You are possibly the most unreasonable of all of the people who have ever asked that question. Making him traipse across 3 shops just for a card?! Do you understand what a pandemic is?

Totally unreasonable! My husband has been to a card shop today and got got me a card. He does so much for us as a family all year, why would I be upset with him over an overpriced token?

NOT got me a card!

Seriously? With everything going on you’re bothered about a card? And you still have him a hard time despite him going to 3 different card shops when I wouldn’t even go to one atm
I’m shocked at how immature you are being

You’re being a bit daft but the general bleakness of Christmas is probably not helping.

He could always make one out of a cereal packet, or just buy a bottle of Prosecco with a note saying ‘liquid Christmas card’ on it. ...I think I’d prefer the latter

I for one don't understand why people get Christmas cards for those they see on a regular basis.
Birthday card for sure, but Christmas card? Can't you just wake up on Christmas morning and say Happy Christmas to each other?

Who gives Xmas cards to other halves?

I’m going to join the crowd here. Completely unreasonable and kind of needy. I don’t know a single couple that swap Christmas cards. They’re for sending to people you care about who don’t live with you - if that (I haven’t done any at all for a couple of years now). So it’s weird that you expected it and weird that you mind when he hasn’t. Birthday cards, yes. Christmas cards, no.

This can't possibly be real, right?

Yes, unreasonable.

@Noidea2114

Our first Christmas we hardly had any money so we decided that it was pointless and expensive to buy 2 cards. We were out one day and saw a card which said on the front 'to the one I love' it was blank inside and we bought it and every year we both write something inside with the year and put it out. (41 years and counting)

What a lovely tradition.

I would be upset if it was my birthday as that’s more special somehow. I don’t think I would worry about Christmas though.
Our kids never get us a Christmas card but they always do birthday cards.

Unless the three shops he went to were not actually card shops I don’t really understand...

What precise requirements do you have for a piece of folded card with a Christmassy picture on the front?! I know it’s unfair to judge someone’s personality from one Mumsnet thread but the phrase ‘hard work’ comes to mind.

@Wyntersdiary

I don't do cards so yabu. they are a waste of money

This.

He sounds lovely. Appreciate what you have. I wish I had a man full stop! Xx

By partner, I assume you mean boyfriend as opposed to business partner. Do you live together? Presumably you get each other a present. If so, a card is not really necessary. I would say you are being a bit over sensitive. I get my DH and DC birthday cards but not Christmas cards.

Really?! Are you seriously annoyed the poor bloke hasn't got you a card. By your own admission he's the loveliest bloke on the planet and you've decided to berate him for not buying you a piece of card with a nice picture and some words on it.

Have a word with yourself ffs! There are people who won't see anyone this Christmas.

I hate cards.
Hate giving them. Hate receiving them.
Don't do them for Christmas at all any more.
My mum always gets upset/angry that I don't but I'm past caring. I do do birthday cards reluctantly.
So I'd have to agree with your DP. Get over it! We need trees more that cards!