Am I allowed to be upset by this

[allgoodinthehood]

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My partner is one of the nicest people you have met . He is kind, considerate, loving and generous.
He is annoyed at me because I'm upset that he hasn't got me a card for Christmas.
I've said I appreciate all that he does for me . He does alot small and big things . He would give me his last penny.
He has been to three shops today to try and get a suitable card but no luck.
He says hes annoyed Im pissed off . Ive said I'm not pissed off but I am upset that he hasnt got me a card.
He says " but you know I dont do cards " I know for a fact he would be rightfully upset if I didnt get him a birthday card.
So tell me strait AIBU
When I say upset I dont mean crying and the like I just mean Ive gone quiet but not in an angry way.
Oh and he has got me a present.

FFS You are annoyed about a Christmas card. Surely he can wish you happy xmas in person. This is really very, very odd.

I'm a bit baffled that he can't find you a card. DD works in Sainsbury's, I just asked her and she said they have a whole aisle full of single cards as well as the boxed ones.

YABVU and pathetic. Your DP sounds amazing and you are annoyed that he hasn't got you a Christmas card??? I think it's time you grew up and realised what is actually important.

Schooooools out for Christmas!

Are you sure you're old enough for MN OP, because you sound like a 9 year old brat. It's a piece of paper FFS, give your head a wobble.

Honestly? Beyond unreasonable. You sound like a complete PITA.

It's a card yabu

Going against the majority here but I’d be a little hurt too!

If he would be upset in reverse, then yanbu.
Is there more to it? Or was he just a bit useless? What was his reasoning?

Sounds like he was a bit thoughtless.

Why on earth would anyone who lives together get each other Christmas cards? If my DH gave me one of those awful To My Wife cards for any reason I'd LTB!

YABVU

YANBU because emotionally that is a "need" for you and that's fine but you will be told by all the people who can't relate that you're unreasonable, pathetic etc..

I get it because it's something that is done in my house and funnily enough not only would my DH be more upset than me if we didn't do cards but he has a very specific idea of what the card should entail, how much it should cost and ideally it should be Hallmark. It's an emotionally charged childhood related thing (long story) and rather than picking him apart, calling him weird or anything else belittling I just accept that this is his emotional quirk and do it. Why? Because I love him and it just isn't that much to ask.

As for the Pandemic excuse... it's not an excuse. The shops have been open for weeks and Moonpig is alive and well as are the supermarkets...... Pandemic schmandemic.

If he can get a present he can get a card, if he had ordered from Moonpig and made a personalised card I'm sure you would have been happy with that.

Also aibu is a horrible place to post op. 😘 Please don't take it to heart.

Jesus fucking Christ, this place is nuts today.

oh god has everyone failed to see that the OP has apologised to her partner and given her head a wobble

You are being unreasonable.....sure youre not pregnant

So he went to three shops to find a nice card and wasn’t able to find one he liked. You are being unreasonable and immature. He tried, he’s got you a present and now you’re punishing him by sulking.

Ridiculous.

I honestly didn't know couples got each other Christmas cards. It wouldn't occur to me to buy dh one...if he got me one I'd assume he'd lost his mind. Bizarre.

This is pathetic tbh.

We don’t give cards at Christmas to people we are spending the day with . Cards get posted to people we don’t see on the day to wish ‘Happy Christmas’.

Two cards confused why. How pointless!

FFS! Aren't people even allowed to have their own little personal traditions now?!

@allgoodinthehood

Im upset because he has always said " Id rather have a nice card with lovely words in than a present " We have always given each other lovely cards. When I asked him about his U turn on cards he said I love receiving cards from you but I dont like giving them or words to that effect. Well this is bloody news to me . He does ALWAYS put thought and effort into my presents and everyday life. Im being AIBU arnt I

Very

It’s not usual to get the people you live with Christmas cards. YABVU

is anyone going to cancel the cheque?

Christmas cards are a wasteful pain in the arse at the best of times. No sane adult expects one from their husband/wife, surely?