DP present won’t arrive on time

[JupiterMoons9]

I ordered one of DPs presents (a pair of premium joggers) weeks ago but sadly delivery is delayed and won’t be here in time for Christmas. The situation is making me so anxious as I think he will try and make me feel bad about the situation. We set a budget between us which I went over and he still has other things to open but I feel immensely guilty and shit over the situation. I don’t know what to do. He is fussy with his clothing and these joggers were exactly his style. I don’t want to run the risk of ordering a different pair online and don’t fancy going to the shops. I could cry.

We set a budget between us which I went over and he still has other things to open but I feel immensely guilty and shit over the situation. I don’t know what to do. He is fussy with his clothing and these joggers were exactly his style

I don't think I'd ever buy clothes for someone who is 'fussy with their clothing' especially someone who seems to like upsetting you if things don't exactly go his way.

I think I'd send them back when they do arrive, then you'll be more in line with the budget you've set and he can buy his own premium joggers.

Because while you hope he might like them, he won't be shy about letting you know about it if he doesn't and then you'll likely feel even more guilty and shit about the situation.

I am reminded of how Dudley Dursley behaved about his birthday presents.
He's an adult. he has other gifts and this one is on the way. Your suggestion of a gift box and even a cartoon drawing inside is something we've done in the past when presents are late.
It happens to everyone.
But you really shouldn't be dreading his reaction so much that it makes you cry. That is down to him. He is very very unreasonable if he acts like that. He needs to grow up and stop being such a spoilt little kid. Its not even spoil, its treating you like crap.
If you have a life together there will be many times when things will go wrong that you can't do much about. Like pranging the car or forgetting something important like turning up to airport without passport. I've done both BTW and was absolutely furious with myself. Your partner will also do daft or accidental things. You need to be with someone who has the capacity to say, "What's happened has happened, lets see what we can do about it or let it go" and will forgive you and move forward. We all make mistakes, esp. in your 20s when you are doing many things for the first time, and learning to organise your life.
You are NOT pathetic, but if he does throw a wobbler over something so absolutely trivial and makes you feel like crap.. how will he behave when you have an important emergency that's inconvenient. How will he behave when something major goes wrong that you can't control?
You need to ask him to think about that.
What kind of partner does he want to be . Does he want to be proud of his behaviour or does he want to stamp his little Dudley foot until Petunia gets him that extra present, one more than last year?

If it were a case of it being left to the last minute I'd understand him feeling a bit disappointed.

But he's got no justification for it in this situation. Your plan of an IOU in a little box sounds lovely and I'm sure he'll be appreciative of it x

No man that makes you feel anxious, is worth staying with!

Most of my presents are delayed. I’ve let DH know in advance that the real presents will arrive late, and on the day I am giving him a list of books, albums, tv programmed that I think he will really like that I have researched. I am just writing them out on paper and he can stream them or I can buy them as he wishes.

He can act like this sometimes. I’ll get a guilt trip and feel shit about myself all day

If he acts like it now, you might as well pack him in. Unless you want to live this for the rest of your life. If he cares about you at all, he would not want to make you feel shit about yourself. Does he care how you feel? If not, dump.

These character traits are the ones which will ultimately make life miserable

Absolutely. And they will get worse as time goes by, and make you more anxious and miserable. You're only anxious because he's giving you cause to feel anxious. Wake up and value yourself.

Aww this is awful.

All l can say is don't let him make you feel that way. Also what @RosaBaby2 said. Get rid of this man baby.

op I'm really sorry that you seem to be in a relationship with a complete man child