To think it's fine for children to get joint Christmas presents

[PeterPickerPacker]

Talking to a friend who was saying she thinks children should get their own presents separate from siblings.

I think, providing they are similar ages, it's fine for children to get joint presents at Christmas.

This year their main present is joint (games console) along with some other things like Lego sets etc...

They have some separate things too but a lot of it is joint. Children very similar ages (year apart).

OP are most of your children's presents joint?

I don't think anyone on this thread has suggested a trampoline or console shouldn't be joint.

@RememberSelfCompassion

OP are most of your children's presents joint?

I don't think anyone on this thread has suggested a trampoline or console shouldn't be joint.

No, the majority are individual. But it tends to be larger items that are joint so, like the console this year and the Lego.

The rest are individual stockingy type stuff/clothes/games/Xbox points to spend on Fortnite one and Pokémon for the other 😂 and so on.

My 2 considered asking for a joint Lego set this year. I told them even as a joint present it was out of budget. They then discussed pooling their money and buying it together. In the end they decided no but only because DS1 displays Lego sets on a shelf in his bedroom and doesn't touch them again. DS2 has his on display in his bedroom but also gets the down and plays with them.
When they were smaller and shared a bedroom/both played with Lego they would have been happy to share a set.

I find it bizarre that people don’t buy a mix of both what’s wrong with a joint present

In our house the kids always get a sharing present from the cat! A game to play together, or a swing for the garden that seats two kids.

That said we seriously discourage possessiveness over most toys. Most lego/duplo/craft stuff/dress up & role play etc is kept in communal boxes in the play room. The children do not (and will not) own/be given their own tablets/consoles - they have use of family tablets (subject to rules/restriction) and there are plenty of hours in the day for them to take turns.

This thread it's s very weird. All this siblings not sharing things in their own house. No wonder we have so much shite in our houses!

We buy individual things for them, but we buy them joint things too- especially games which require both of them play with each other. Eg monopoly. I wouldn't buy one child monopoly and another scrabble. I'd label them to both.

We also buy family gifts that we will all love. This year I've bought us all a velvetiser. It's from me to all of us. I've bought mugs, toppings, everyone's favourite flavour hot chocolate.