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Original poster

To put a note asking them to move their car?

254 replies

Openalltheadvent · 20/12/2020 15:10

It’s been outside our house for 4/5 weeks. I don’t know who it belongs too. I resisted at first in case they were isolating but it’s bugging me now. Especially as it gets towards Christmas, we will be coming from parents house with a car load of presents and we keep having to park far up the road. We have a 3 year old dd. Just to say, I don’t think the space is ours but think it’s inconsiderate leaving it outside someone else’s house for so long?!

YABU - it’s a free country, get over it
YANBU - leave a polite note on the car

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yellowcatss · 20/12/2020 18:06

[quote Openalltheadvent]@Diverseduvet not unable to do it. Just grates after 5 weeks when it’s raining, carrying things in from work, whilst trying to prevent child from running into the road.

As I said, for this reason and many more I wouldn’t do it to someone else. Nice to see common courtesy is thriving this Christmas Xmas Smile[/quote]
where do you park on your road if its not near someone else house?

yellowcatss · 20/12/2020 18:08

[quote Openalltheadvent]@LoveMyKidsAndCats I’m a nurse so yes, life is pretty hard at the moment[/quote]
? is there a law about not parking outside nurses houses im unaware of? is it mentioned in the highway code?

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Openalltheadvent · 20/12/2020 18:40

@yellowcatss well of course, cat lovers sticking together
My comment was in response to her/his comment..nothing to do with Highway Code.

@MrsJBaptiste I can take it Xmas Wink

But honestly how many times do I have to say I DO NOT THINK I OWN THE ROAD.
There are also other reasons why it is annoying/difficult for us, but there is no point me
saying as seems no reason is good enough to do this and people should just do what they like.
This is of course assuming they aren’t very unwell, in which case I obviously wouldn’t grumble about it Hmm

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Biancadelrioisback · 20/12/2020 18:52

The thing is OP, you could start a 'who deserves to park here more' conversation with the car owner, but then someone else could come along who needs the space even more. No matter what your reasons for wanting to park there, it genuinely is a first come first serve situation.
It's like going to a supermarket and not being able to get parked, yes I'm sure you have reasons why you need to do your shopping now, but that doesn't mean other people should shift their cars for you providing they're also shopping.

Biancadelrioisback · 20/12/2020 18:53

In a perfect world everyone would be able to park outside their own houses and have space for a visitor or two, but they can't. That's often why houses with off street parking are more expensive (at least around here they are), people have to pay for the privilege of parking so close

motherrunner · 20/12/2020 18:55

Are they parked across your driveway? If not you have legal right to complain.

Also we’re in the middle of a pandemic. This is your issue???

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Openalltheadvent · 20/12/2020 19:40

Why does the pandemic mean we are not allowed to be annoyed at anything else? Confused

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Openalltheadvent · 20/12/2020 19:42

Let’s just talk about coronavirus on MN shall we? because there aren’t enough of those threads...

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motherrunner · 20/12/2020 19:45

I apologise and retract my second comment (although I’m sure there are lots of people who wish their only problem right was parking).

Did you reflect on my question though? I’d they’re not parked across your driveway then there isn’t an issue.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 20/12/2020 19:45

Our cars haven't moved for 3 weeks- we've all had covid on a loop. My terraced neighbours will just have to suck it up. Same as I would if it was another household.

Want a convenient spot? Pay for it.

motherrunner · 20/12/2020 19:45

*If

TigerDroveAgain · 20/12/2020 19:49

Mortgageandmoney

Do check your battery etc, not good for a car to be unused for months. But put penguin bollards up to save your space while you’re test driving it!

riotlady · 20/12/2020 19:54

I live in a terraced house and this seems normal? There’s no parking on my side of the street so I’m always parked outside someone else’s house, in the first lockdown we didn’t go anywhere so it was probably stationary for weeks at a time.

AlwaysLatte · 20/12/2020 19:54

Maybe they're isolating or working from home. If it's taxed and MOTD then it's ok.

ftm202020 · 20/12/2020 19:57

My car is always parked outside someone else's house as we have zero parking on our street so my car is parked on another road. Am I always inconsiderate then? It hasn't moved for weeks because of covid. What am I supposed to do?

kobo · 20/12/2020 20:11

You keep saying you don't think you have a right to the road but then you do because: you have a child, you have shopping/ Christmas presents/ you are a nurse. None of these are valid, you benefit from a cheaper house because you don't have a drive. Buy a house with a drive to meet your above needs but make sacrifices elsewhere. Your monetary decisions and lifestyle choices are no one else's issues to consider especially not moving their car from where it's legally parked.

foreverandalways · 20/12/2020 20:18

Nothing u can do about it...should have thought of that when u bought a house with no parking or a drive

NotPrude · 20/12/2020 20:26

You say you don’t think you own the road but you clearly do...

You’re complaining about a car lawfully parked because it’s outside your house. You have no right to the space outside of your house. If you accepted that space doesn’t belong to you and anyone is entitled to park there, you wouldn’t even question a car being parked there and certainly wouldn’t even leave a note.

Yokey · 20/12/2020 20:31

Of course you know you have no right, but I think most people would be annoyed after weeks of someone else's car parked outside their house.

Crumbleweed · 20/12/2020 20:33

This happened to us. Bloke from across the road had broken his leg.

FleetwoodRaincoat · 20/12/2020 20:37

Ignore those who are bashing you OP, I completely understand what you mean. We have a neighbour who has plenty of room for his 3 cars in his drive, but always parks one of them on the road. Like you, I'm aware that it's perfectly legal, but it's just so bloody annoying! It's really hard to see past it (it's a big Land Rover thing) and if us or the neighbours have visitors then there's nowhere for them to park (tiny village lane with very limited parking).

Like you say, it's just selfish. Do any of your neighbours know whose car it is?

Beccasb · 20/12/2020 20:44

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable it would annoy me though I know realistically you can park anywhere, most considerate people wouldn’t do it. Our street has a specific arrangement so every resident can get their car in front of their house. None of it is marked, it’s all on street but there is only one way we can all fit so need to play the game. It a largely unspoken agreement, the previous occupant usually lets the new people know where to park. I feel like we’re very odd now I’ve written that down!

Doris86 · 20/12/2020 20:47

@FleetwoodRaincoat

Ignore those who are bashing you OP, I completely understand what you mean. We have a neighbour who has plenty of room for his 3 cars in his drive, but always parks one of them on the road. Like you, I'm aware that it's perfectly legal, but it's just so bloody annoying! It's really hard to see past it (it's a big Land Rover thing) and if us or the neighbours have visitors then there's nowhere for them to park (tiny village lane with very limited parking).

Like you say, it's just selfish. Do any of your neighbours know whose car it is?

Sorry but why is it selfish? Car is parked legally on a public road, and not causing an obstruction to anyone.
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Openalltheadvent · 20/12/2020 20:48

@foreverandalways I didn’t buy the house. We are looking to move. None of this is relevant to how annoying the situation is

@FleetwoodRaincoat I haven’t asked.

I don’t know why people keep saying ‘this is normal for terraced houses’. Yea I know this. We don’t always get a spot outside our house and I don’t bother about it. But this is not that situation...so I don’t see it’s relevance

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QueenoftheAir · 20/12/2020 20:52

Like you say, it's just selfish. Do any of your neighbours know whose car it is?

But how is it selfish @FleetwoodRaincoat? Could you explain? It seems to me that your neighbour is doing something different - he has room for 3 cars on his property, but uses a street space (presumably so he doesn't have to move one car to get another out?). I think that is selfish, although it's legal.

But OP's neighbour is doing something completely different. I've lived on a very long street of terraced houses, with no residents' parking (think over a kilometre), and no off-street parking, drives or garages.

If the person parking outside the OP's house wasn't parked, there, they'd be parked somewhere else. Maybe someone is parked outside their house? Maybe they're ill, maybe they've had no need to drive anywhere.

I'm really perplexed to understand how, on a street of terraces, with presumably no off-street parking, anyone parking there - no matter how long - is being selfish?