To put a note asking them to move their car?

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It’s been outside our house for 4/5 weeks. I don’t know who it belongs too. I resisted at first in case they were isolating but it’s bugging me now. Especially as it gets towards Christmas, we will be coming from parents house with a car load of presents and we keep having to park far up the road. We have a 3 year old dd. Just to say, I don’t think the space is ours but think it’s inconsiderate leaving it outside someone else’s house for so long?!

YABU - it’s a free country, get over it
YANBU - leave a polite note on the car

@ProudAuntie76

If it’s not stolen, the police will at least have the details for the owners and can enquire as to what might be going on. If it’s not dodgy, that might shame them into moving.

Both times I reported it, I’d never seen anyone go in and out of the vehicle etc. It was obviously unattended for a month, hence my reporting.

If it’s not stolen the Police aren’t going to do any enquiries into why a car has been legally parked on the road.

Cars parking outside your house is a fact of life on terraced streets. If you don’t like it, buy a house with a drive. Leaving a note when the owner of the car has done nothing wrong just makes you look petty.

@Franklyfrost

They always HAVE A CHILD

Will no one think of the children!! And always bags and bags of shopping...

YABU to leave a passive-aggressive note. The car's legally parked.

You may be able to report it to your council as an abandoned vehicle. Council policies vary, some will do nothing if the car is taxed.

Would you not just park next to the car / outside the house next door, which presumably is only a car’s length away from the place you usually park?

My mum's neighbour tried to have my car moved when I parked it outside his house. Was hilarious watching waving his hands manically while on the phone to someone.
He has a drive big enough for three cars, only own two. I parked slightly outside his house and outside my parents (so on the boundary line I suppose) and he claimed everything from making it difficult to get out his drive (I was about 2 car lengths from his drive), to it being dangerous having cars parked on the road, to it spoiling his view, blocking his light, upsetting his dog etc.
It was only for the afternoon but the argument has now gone on for years.

Op, you don't know if the owner of the car is too ill to move their car, or disabled (my grandad rarely left the house in the colder months as it was too dangerous for him to walk if it was icey and the cold hurt his joints).
It's just daft thinking youre a better person because you wouldn't park your car legally in a certain place for absolutely no reason.

Before I got my car park space I parked in the roads sometimes outside people's houses and often for a Ds2 ent amount of time.

I live in a flat, can't park it outside my own door as it won't fit in the lift

Dh’s car didn’t move for 12 months (apart from fil coming to drive it just to check it hadn’t seized up) when he was taken ill with something that meant driving was dangerous.

After a year we moved it to my parents garage and sorned it.

Op what a hard life you must have.

@NameChange84

This is one of those parallel universe posts for me.

I think it’s a real dick move to park outside someone’s door for a 4/5 week stretch. Even a week is really cheeky in my opinion.

I had a rental car stolen from me. It was sickening as I was young and scared I’d be liable for the cost of the car. Eventually someone reported it having been parked outside their house for a while. I was really grateful and would agree that it should be reported after all this time.

But what about people who can't park outside their own house/flat because of yellow lines or just a lack of space? They are tax-paying road users, just like the OP. Why should she get the benefit of a publicly-funded parking space, when they don't?

You're getting a hard time on here. I think you just wanted to rant about how exhausting everything is at the moment and that, deep down, you know they have as much right to park there as anyone else. Finding out it belongs to a neighbour won't help your cause much so nothing you can do tbh. Would it help to get one of bag/trollies on wheels that you could leave in the boot for shopping? I live in a first-floor flat and the 2 nearest parking places are always occupied by a camper van and the same bloke's car - they never move but I've got over it. Posting this on AIBU was a brave act.

YABU. No one can in general park outside their door where I live. Sometimes you can’t even park in the same street. I wouldn’t even notice if the same car had been parked outside for my house for four or five weeks. By all means, report to police in case it’s been stolen or abandoned. Otherwise, leave it well alone.

Whose house have you been parking outside for the last 5 weeks? Have they complained?

@NameChange84

This is one of those parallel universe posts for me.

I think it’s a real dick move to park outside someone’s door for a 4/5 week stretch. Even a week is really cheeky in my opinion.

I had a rental car stolen from me. It was sickening as I was young and scared I’d be liable for the cost of the car. Eventually someone reported it having been parked outside their house for a while. I was really grateful and would agree that it should be reported after all this time.

I've left my car parked outside someone else's house for over 6 weeks on more than one occasion.

Each time, I couldn't park outside my own house, because someone else had parked there. The first time, I slipped on some ice and broke my wrist, so couldn't drive for several weeks and had no way of moving it. A year later, I had to have surgery because the broken wrist hadn't mended properly and couldn't drive for another 6+ weeks. The third time, I had to have surgery on my shoulder and couldn't drive for several weeks.

On the last occasion, DP tried to move the car back to the space outside our house a few times, but each time someone else parked in the space before he'd got round the block, so he had to put it back in the space it came from.

There's no point in getting pissed off about it really OP, unless it's dumped or untaxed there's nothing you can do about it. If you put a note on and the owner is an arsey bastard, they might start parking there at every opportunity just to piss you off.

I used to live on a street that was parking down one side only, for houses on both sides of the road. I was lucky if I got to park outside my house once a fortnight, everyone took space where they could. Parking up the road is just a minor inconvenience.

If it's a public road there is absolutely nothing you can do.

You should be able to report it on your local council's website. They will carry out the checks - saves bothering the police. Helps make sure it's not been stolen and abandoned.

@LoveMyKidsAndCats I’m a nurse so yes, life is pretty hard at the moment

DH reported a car parked in the nearby church car park as it had been there for more than a week. It was taxed etc. and looked like a well kept family car. We live rurally so there’s nothing else to visit nearby other than a few scattered houses who have plenty of space for parking.

It turned out no-one else had reported it (!!) and it was a stolen vehicle. It was collected on a trailer a few days later.

It's annoying. If you feel it has been abandoned ring the police. Otherwise there is nothing you can do. Don't leave a note.,

I'm with you. It might be legally fine but that doesn't make it morally fine. It's inconsiderate.

It wouldn't cross my mind to even get worked up by this. I don't even think about whose house I am parked outside - I live on a terrace too and it's just normal to park wherever there's a spot. I've barely moved my car since March but can't
imagine my neighbours even registering this let alone get pissed off. It's part and parcel of living in a terrace. Obviously it's different for you because you have children. I am sure nobody else in the street has something so unusual. So yes, I would call the army in.

When you've park outside someone's house and have no need to drive how long have you left it before you move it to another space?

Can't hurt to report to the council incase it's stolen but if not it's just terraced house life

I honestly can't believe this thread! Usually with a post like this, everyone is totally on the OP's side as everyone hates shit parking and random people parking outside your house. Today, the OP is getting a roasting!

I'd be pissed off too (and I have a double drive for our cars) but I get that I have absolutely no reason to be pissed off. Sometimes things just get to you!

If a car that’s never been seen in the neighbourhood before has been parked in exactly the same position for almost FIVE WEEKS and the neighbours have no idea who it belongs to, there are no comings and goings etc, it’s not unreasonable to assume that it’s abandoned.

That's rather over-dramatic after just over four weeks. Just because you think four weeks is a long time to occupy a parking space, doesn't mean that everybody else's lives and lifestyles mirror yours.

It gets said often enough, but some people never seem to to grasp it: the public road is owned/managed by the government, and they make it abundantly clear that, if there are no permits required or restrictions on an area of their road, they give permission for owners of taxed, MoTed and insured vehicles to park them on that area of their road.

Just because you happen to own a property adjacent to the road, you have no more right to tell the government or their authorised users what they can do with the government's road than the government does to tell you what moveable items you can keep within your own property boundary - or do your next-door neighbours, for that matter.

It's not rude or inconsiderate for somebody to occupy the space that you would have preferred for a long time. There are plenty of spaces on the public road network where the government allow you to park your vehicle, so you will be able to find somewhere if you don't have your own private parking area - just maybe not as near to where your house happens to be as you might have liked.

I'm with you. It might be legally fine but that doesn't make it morally fine. It's inconsiderate.

How do you know that they don't live (or are staying) somewhere nearby and that's the nearest place they can find to park their car? Presumably it's also inconsiderate and morally disgraceful if a homeowner finds a space on the public road that happens to be outside their own house and occupies it for more than a couple of weeks, thus depriving other road-users of their fair opportunity?