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Original poster

To put a note asking them to move their car?

254 replies

Openalltheadvent · 20/12/2020 15:10

It’s been outside our house for 4/5 weeks. I don’t know who it belongs too. I resisted at first in case they were isolating but it’s bugging me now. Especially as it gets towards Christmas, we will be coming from parents house with a car load of presents and we keep having to park far up the road. We have a 3 year old dd. Just to say, I don’t think the space is ours but think it’s inconsiderate leaving it outside someone else’s house for so long?!

YABU - it’s a free country, get over it
YANBU - leave a polite note on the car

OP posts:
Shoxfordian · 20/12/2020 15:51

It's a free road op
Yabvvu

Putthegasfireon · 20/12/2020 15:52

I live on a long terraced street with no off street parking but there's plenty of room for everyone to get on the street even households with more than one car. My partner parked directly across the road from our house and left his car there for about a week. One morning the house opposite had put a note on the car asking him to move it or they'd report it to the police 🙄 They knew whose car it was, if it a was a problem, they could've just knocked and we would happily have moved it, but now I deliberately park my car there to piss them off. Ironically, they are a 3 car household and have zero qualms about parking outside other people's houses and leaving it. Their daughter, who doesn't even live on the street, likes to leave her car on here when she goes on holiday for two weeks or more so they can keep an eye for it.

If you're that bothered about parking directly outside your house at all times, buy a house with a drive otherwise unfortunately, you have to suck it up.

ivykaty44 · 20/12/2020 15:52

I pay council tax and I don’t own the road, if 3 people want to park there cars outside my house - which they do, they can. It’s legal to store your car on the road

I have a drive and so do all the other houses in the steeet.

If you don’t want cars outside your house then ask for double yellow lines

Or permit parking, but you’ll have to pay and still doesn’t guarantee car free outside your house

MaskingForIt · 20/12/2020 15:52

Seems this boils down to the sort of person you are. I wouldn’t do it personally which is why it is irking me.

You thinking that you’re on some kind of moral high ground still doesn’t mean they are wrong for parking there. You can have all the warm glow of self-righteousness as you like, but they can still park there.

Diverseduvet · 20/12/2020 15:54

What is it with people with young children unable to stuff? A minor inconvenience you cant park right outside your house surely?

GintyMcGinty · 20/12/2020 15:55

If it's been there 5 weeks and not moved definitely report to the police as possibly stolen.

If it's legit then they are doing nothing wrong parking there. .

Original poster
Openalltheadvent · 20/12/2020 15:57

@Diverseduvet not unable to do it. Just grates after 5 weeks when it’s raining, carrying things in from work, whilst trying to prevent child from running into the road.

As I said, for this reason and many more I wouldn’t do it to someone else. Nice to see common courtesy is thriving this Christmas Xmas Smile

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nosswith · 20/12/2020 15:58

If it is taxed and insured, then whilst it is a waste of a car, the fact you have to walk a little further is not reasonable grounds for it to be moved, in my opinion.

If you have to walk a bit further, a bit of extra exercise for you all. I hope when your DD goes to school and if you choose not walking but going by car, that you do not become one of those parents who parks on yellow lines or causing difficulty for other cars, just because you will not walk a few yards more.

StanfordPines · 20/12/2020 16:00

It’s rare that I have to park up the road, but have been having to do this for weeks now

Outside someone else’s house presumably....

Original poster
Openalltheadvent · 20/12/2020 16:03

@StanfordPines yes but a different one each day. I use my car daily

@nosswith Grin

OP posts:
PrtScn · 20/12/2020 16:03

Just double park while you unload your shopping into the house. I’ve done this plenty of times, then gone to find a parking spot elsewhere.

Mrstwiddle · 20/12/2020 16:04

I’m with you OP, it would irritate me and can’t imagine doing it to someone else,

sallywinter · 20/12/2020 16:08

We had to leave our cars where they were for around a two months when my partner snapped his Achilles while I was heavily pregnant with an enormous bump then gave birth with significant injuries. If someone had asked us to move them politely I would have given them the keys.

Carrotcakey · 20/12/2020 16:08

Why don’t you just park on the other side of the road blocking the pavement and making the road so narrow that everyone has do squeeze through? Oh and hope an ambulance/fire engine never has to get through. That’s what they do by me as people seem to think they have a god given right to be able to see their car from their house and don’t want to expend too many calories getting from car door to the house. Pisses me right off!

We had a car parked outside our house for 3 months in the summer. Owner had gone to Pakistan to get married. It was annoying but the car was taxed and insured and they had as much right to be parked on a public highway as anyone else.

My next house will have a drive!

clolo · 20/12/2020 16:12

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amitoooldforthisshit · 20/12/2020 16:13

honestly, i think its time you put your big girls pants on ... bigger issues around the world you know Xmas Biscuit

Whammyyammy · 20/12/2020 16:17

YABU and entitled. "I don't think the space is ours", but you want to put a note asking them to move it???

Its a public road and anyone has as much right to park there as you do.

May I suggest you stop being so entitled and buy a house with your own off road parking if you want ownership of private parking, and not justvadopt public space as your own.

NotPrude · 20/12/2020 16:17

OP, what do you mean it boils down to the sort of person you are? If anything this says more about you than about them.

You have no entitlement to park outside your house. People park wherever there is a free space. The car is breaking no rules except your sense of entitlement. Most likely person saw a free space, and parked their car there and has not needed to drive it since. Why do you think you have the right to dictate who can and can’t park there?

If you feel so strongly about people parking in front of your house for long periods of time, then buy a house with a drive.

PercyPiginaWig · 20/12/2020 16:17

@StoneofDestiny

Bizarre - never heard of anybody complaining about a legally parked car.
You must be new here Stone!

Plenty of entitled people think they own the space outside their house. Or say they don't think that but complain when anyone else parks outside their house, which amounts to the same thing.

If the car is stolen the police can deal with it, otherwise if it is parked legally then it's parked legally. It wouldn't occur to me to ask the car to move unless it were actually blocking my drive.

QueenoftheAir · 20/12/2020 16:19

I would never leave it outside someone else’s house for 5 weeks. It’s called being considerate

But what if the owner is working from home, or ill, or quarantining, or has had no need to use his/her car? Presumably that was the nearest available space at the time they last used their car - in my experience, parking in streets with rows of terraced houses is tricky at the best of times.

How often should they move their car in order to be “considerate”?

Franklyfrost · 20/12/2020 16:20

They always HAVE A CHILD

NoProblem123 · 20/12/2020 16:20

They can park where they like but have you checked it’s vin number (not number plate) on isitnicked.com ?

Hollyhocksarenotmessy · 20/12/2020 16:20

Why dont you park in next space along? Then its 5 extra steps to your front door, instead of up the road? If those spaces aren't ever available, then the space outside your house probably wouldn't be either.

I have zero guilt about parking legally where I need to. It doesn't make me a lesser 'sort of person' than you, OP. But then I did live in a flat with no lift and my child, and no car till I was 37, so I find it hard to sympathise with people who don't want to walk 30 yards or so. Obviously I wouldn't knowingly make life more difficult for people with mobility problems. But a kid and some shopping, not a big deal.

KarlKennedysDurianFruit · 20/12/2020 16:21

I would report it after that long but only because it might be stolen and the person will be pleased to have their car back. DM got a car back in similar circumstances years ago

june2007 · 20/12/2020 16:23

Have you asked you neighbours if they know whose it is. I have to park up the rd from my house or in a car park behind my house can,t always park where we want. (My house is on a private rd and although my mydriveway eneters on the rd icannot park on it.)

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