To put a note asking them to move their car?

[Openalltheadvent]

It’s been outside our house for 4/5 weeks. I don’t know who it belongs too. I resisted at first in case they were isolating but it’s bugging me now. Especially as it gets towards Christmas, we will be coming from parents house with a car load of presents and we keep having to park far up the road. We have a 3 year old dd. Just to say, I don’t think the space is ours but think it’s inconsiderate leaving it outside someone else’s house for so long?!

YABU - it’s a free country, get over it
YANBU - leave a polite note on the car

@MaMaD1990

Love it when the OP fights back. YANBU, its a bloody cheek leaving your car for weeks on end and would irritate me. I'd go against the grain here and leave a polite note (you never know, they may see it!). Perhaps suggesting you 'switch' spaces. If they don't use the car that much, if at all, they should have a problem parking down the road.

If someone left me a note telling me I wasn’t allowed to park in a certain space on a public road, then I would make a point of parking there as much as possible in future.

Please explaining why it is rude for someone who has paid their road tax and insurance to park on a public road?

There is no valid explanation. You have your own property (your house) to use as you and your guests see fit; the government has their own property (public road network) for them and their authorised users to use as they see fit (within the basic legal restrictions).

It just so happens that both of your properties are adjacent (that's the whole point of how the public road network is designed) and that you are one of the 30 million or so authorised users with an equal right to it. I'm baffled as to why anybody would think that they should jump the queue and that all of the others should have to ask their permission and/or feel guilty for using it. It's like having to ask a stranger's mum if you're allowed to play out after school.

No different from the public library: even if you happen to live next door to it, you have no more right to borrow (and keep renewing) any particular book than anybody else, if they get there first - but they will always have some books in stock for you to choose from.

Your house door might be 10 yards away from the entrance to your local council offices, but if you need to visit, you still have to queue behind all of the people from across the far side of town who arrived before you - even if they all have very complicated, time-consuming issues to resolve and you just want to ask if the tip is open.

@Averyyounggrandmaofsix

OP they know you are not disabled because you would have a designated space outside your house if you were.

How do people without cars manage who have to walk with shopping and children from bus stops?

One of my parents is disabled but can’t get a designated space outside their home. Neither can my friend who is paralysed down one side and has toddlers. Neither did most of my registered disabled patients when I was nursing in the community. What world do you live in that designated disabled spaces are so easily available?

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll has hit the nail on the head. Unless someone can provide a valid explanation of why this is rude, no further discussion is required.

If someone left me a note telling me I wasn’t allowed to park in a certain space on a public road, then I would make a point of parking there as much as possible in future.

Blimey, the suggestion was to leave a pilot note asking to switch spaces to make life a little easier for another person (and if your car is left unused for weeks on end then it's not really going to make a difference to you is it?). But your reaction to that would be to take it as a personal insult and go out of your way to inconvenience someone as often as possible? My god people are petty minded and mean spirited 😂😂

There does seem to be an arbitrary perceived hierarchy among some people who don't have drives, but are fortunate enough to live on roads with plentiful on-street parking.

Previously, I've lived on streets with double yellow lines along the whole length of them for years. Once, I even got ordered to move along by the police when I had pulled up for no more than 20 minutes on a quiet evening to unload a sofa.

All of the available parking spaces anywhere near me were on residential streets. I wonder if the people who lived on those streets - who were lucky enough to sometimes manage to get a space very close to their own house - were constantly railing at those of us "who don't even live here" who didn't have drives, didn't have any legal parking on our own roads, but did tax, insure and MoT our cars and needed somewhere safe and legal to park them - ideally (if possible) not too far from our homes.

It's the easiest thing in the world to claim 'moral rights' over what you think you should have (basically just because you want it), but then to expect those in an equally entitled but less privileged position to just go and get stuffed.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll has hit the nail on the head. Unless someone can provide a valid explanation of why this is rude, no further discussion is required

Well, I've asked politely, but got rather truculent verging-on-rude responses back from the OP. There is no explanation.

If the car is moved it will just inconvenience or annoy someone else. Until you own the road OP you have no grounds whatsoever to leave a note on someone's car. It is not rude, it is not personal, it is just parking.

@QueenoftheAir

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll has hit the nail on the head. Unless someone can provide a valid explanation of why this is rude, no further discussion is required

Well, I've asked politely, but got rather truculent verging-on-rude responses back from the OP. There is no explanation.

The same as why no one will answer the question of how long is acceptable. They'll be forced to admit that the time they give is completely arbitrary.

@cherish123

While not illegal, it's very cheeky to leave your car in a residential street, clearly outside someone's house, for months.

But why is it ‘cheeky’?

This is a logical question @StanfordPines

The only logical answer is "Because I'm annoyed" - which might be logical, but not really a valid answer ...

YANBU to be annoyed, OP. Plenty of things that are legal are also frustrating and inconsiderate. Having an unfamiliar car parked in the same (inconvenient) spot for five consecutive weeks would irritate most people, I'd think. Leaving a note probably won't have any effect, but it shouldn't do any real harm, either. If it makes you feel better, leave a note!

@VetiverAndLavender

YANBU to be annoyed, OP. Plenty of things that are legal are also frustrating and inconsiderate. Having an unfamiliar car parked in the same (inconvenient) spot for five consecutive weeks would irritate most people, I'd think. Leaving a note probably won't have any effect, but it shouldn't do any real harm, either. If it makes you feel better, leave a note!

Hilarious that a small handful of people continue to think the OP has a valid point, yes still fail to offer any valid reason why it is rude/selfish etc.

@Doris86 - tell me where I said she should 'tell' the neighbour they 'cant' park there...were you blind to the 'polite' and the 'suggest' in my post? Better get to Specsavers.

Having an unfamiliar car parked in the same (inconvenient) spot for five consecutive weeks would irritate most people, I'd think.

Why could it possibly matter that a parked car is unfamiliar to somebody who happens to live in a house near to the spot on the road where it's located? The car is familiar to its owner and traceable by the government/police who own/manage the road, if necessary, so that's the only relevant detail.

We have neighbours a few doors down on our street - occupying entire houses - who are unfamiliar to us, but we don't get irritated by them living there. We don't own or manage their properties, so it's none of our business or interest. I trust they feel the same about us.

Personally, I think it's reasonable to put up a very polite sign (or ask the car owners in person, if you know them) requesting people not to park in a convenient location to your house only if you are expecting an emergency vehicle, funeral car or removal lorry. Even then, nobody is forced to comply. Otherwise, you're in the same boat as everybody else and it's first come first served.

@StoneofDestiny

Bizarre - never heard of anybody complaining about a legally parked car.

Apart from the 10,000 threads a day on this very website complaining about exactly that!

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll

So OP gets to have first dibs over the space, when it doesn’t belong to her and she hasn’t paid anything more to use it? In what world is such selfishness behaviour acceptable?

[quote NotPrude]**@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll

So OP gets to have first dibs over the space, when it doesn’t belong to her and she hasn’t paid anything more to use it? In what world is such selfishness behaviour acceptable?[/quote]
If you read the post, @WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll doesn’t think this is acceptable in most circumstances. Only if a removal lorry, funeral car or emergency vehicle is coming. I’d agree with that.

Hilarious that a small handful of people continue to think the OP has a valid point, yes still fail to offer any valid reason why it is rude/selfish etc.

I gave my own reasons above - pregnant and finding it harder to carry all of my shopping from the car to the house if someones parked straight outside. I acknowledged we had no right but it can still be an inconvenience you know

I do find it funny that people with driveways think they're so superior. 'Buy a house with a driveway' - like thats accessible to everyone. Houses with driveways are more expensive. We're not all rich

@Doris86 Yes, you’re right! I misread - thought they meant it’s fine in all circumstances.

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll Apologies, no idea how I read your post so wrongly!

@lucywho123

Hilarious that a small handful of people continue to think the OP has a valid point, yes still fail to offer any valid reason why it is rude/selfish etc.

I gave my own reasons above - pregnant and finding it harder to carry all of my shopping from the car to the house if someones parked straight outside. I acknowledged we had no right but it can still be an inconvenience you know

I do find it funny that people with driveways think they're so superior. 'Buy a house with a driveway' - like thats accessible to everyone. Houses with driveways are more expensive. We're not all rich

No not everyone can afford a house with a driveway. However anyone who purchases/rents a house with on street parking knows the situation when then move in. They can’t then get possessive and upset when someone else dares to park in the piece of public road right outside their house.

Also to add, yes people will have perfectly valid reasons for preferring to park near their house. I was the same when I lived in terraced street. I would rather carry my shopping straight into the house, rather than half way down the street.

However it’s when people think it’s their god given right to park outside their house, and get funny with anyone who takes ‘their space’ that things get silly.

To be fair I wouldn't leave a car parked outside a neighbours house that long as it's just not necessary and will obviously be annoying when they bring shopping back etc. I don't think there's any point ina note though as they're not obliged to move it and they probably aren't using it so won't see the note anyway.

Someone reported my stolen car as it had been parked up in their cul de sac for 3 weeks.

I was glad they did. I got it back 😄