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To think this is really creepy?

190 replies

thelittlefox · 16/12/2020 20:44

So, this happened this afternoon, and at first I thought it was rank but funny, but I am now starting to think maybe I should do something/complain...

My postman is rather indiscreet. He's well-meaning and friendly but does like to overshare people's business. I learned long ago not to tell him anything I didn't want spread around our village, but he's pretty harmless really.

Yesterday he asked me to take a parcel for my neighbour, and said "give her a big smile when she comes to get it". I looked at the package and there was nothing about it to explain what he meant, but he said "google the return address hahaha", tapped his nose and went on his way. I am ashamed to admit that I did what he suggested, and it turns out the parcel was from Lovehoney. Completely plain packaging, you would literally need to know Lovehoney's postcode to know who it was from.

So I had a bit of a smirk to myself, although I'm not 12 so it wasn't really THAT exciting. Thought it was a bit grim that he'd pointed it out to me, but whatever.

Today, he asked me if I had googled it, and I said yes, but I asked him how come he knew? He said that someone at the sorting office kept an eye out for the postcode and alerted the delivery guys. He also said that the same guy also looked up the names on Facebook and passed their pictures around. At this point I went from having a bit of a laugh with him to being quite grossed out, and I told him he should have a word with his mate, as that's disgusting! He said (still smiling and joking about) "I'll tell him then that from a woman's point of view he's a pervert" and wandered off.

This is fucking horrible, isn't it? To go to the lengths of looking up names and addresses, it's borderline stalky, even if the pictures are public. The more I think about it, the more it bothers me.

So, am I being unreasonable to be worried about this, or should I forget about it (and get my butt-plugs posted to my sister to be the safe side Grin)?

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coronafiona · 16/12/2020 20:47

Yes that's grim. But no don't worry about it, some people next grow up and clearly this man and his colleagues are amongst those.

FortunesFave · 16/12/2020 20:48

Are you serious? Have you contacted the post office to report this??? If not do it immediately they are open!

DrWAnkenstein · 16/12/2020 20:48

I'd say that's creepy to the power infinity.
Fucking ratbags.

innercitysumo · 16/12/2020 20:50

Eww - that made my skin crawl! Absolutely report it!! I feel sick thinking of this!! I order from there, nothing to be ashamed of - if someone was passing my photo around I would
Be mortified

JamesMoriarty · 16/12/2020 20:50

I'd report that, they've crossed a line searching for her social media.

SadSecretSanta · 16/12/2020 20:50

I’d be reporting that.

Pechanga · 16/12/2020 20:51

I'm considering cancelling my next LoveHoney order Blush

MaelyssQ · 16/12/2020 20:52

I'd be a bit unnerved if I thought my postman was looking up my social media accounts based on the name on letters etc he delivers to my house. The whole 'giggle, she's ordered a sex toy, snort' is incredibly childish though.

TheTrashBagIsOursCmonTrashBag · 16/12/2020 20:53

That’s creepy as fuck. They all need to be on some kind of register Hmm

QuestionableMouse · 16/12/2020 20:53

No, that's really creepy. Having a snigger about the postcode is one thing, looking up customers is absolutely another and wrong.

thelittlefox · 16/12/2020 20:53

FortunesFave It would be Royal Mail. The Post Office are a separate business. I don't know how I would report it when it's hearsay, and also I don't really want to drop my postman in it; he's mostly great. I've known him for years and years so I don't know whether he would have overshared if he didn't know me so well. It's more the other guy I'm worried about tbh

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Smallsteps88 · 16/12/2020 20:53

Please report this! From my experience with Royal Mail they will take this very seriously.

AtrociousCircumstance · 16/12/2020 20:54

Report it.

ScalpHelp · 16/12/2020 20:54

Seems like a data protection breach

Nowaynothappening · 16/12/2020 20:55

Definitely report that, how awful.

CutToChase · 16/12/2020 20:56

Dont report it. This kind of shit probably goes on all the time across industries and companies.

They're bored at work and have been inappropriate I get it. But it's not worth getting people into trouble for IMO

Rainbowb · 16/12/2020 20:58

Well that explains why Royal Mail take so long with sorting mail out. I think you should definitely report it. They need to change their working practices to ensure client confidentiality.

namechangetheworld · 16/12/2020 20:59

This kind of shit probably goes on all the time across industries and companies.

I worked in customer facing roles a lot when I was younger. It happens A LOT.

MumsDirtyTeaTowel · 16/12/2020 20:59

I used to be with a postie. I learnt a lot of things I sort of wish I hadn't. Including many things some of the posties had done before.

Do say something. It's not OK.

islockdownoveryet · 16/12/2020 21:00

I think it's childish, and if it was my love honey parcel I'd think it funny that I'd given someone a cheap thrill but I'd get that not everyone would think like that . I'd feel sorry for them that's the only thrill they get , sad overgrown men . Confused

Aquamarine1029 · 16/12/2020 21:02

Dont report it. This kind of shit probably goes on all the time across industries and companies.

They're bored at work and have been inappropriate I get it. But it's not worth getting people into trouble for IMO

I 100% disagree with this. It's one thing for him to have an internal, private sniggle, but for him to tell a neighbour of the recipient to Google the address, etc, is an outrage. How dare he. I would definitely be reporting this creepy fucker.

peachcherries · 16/12/2020 21:03

That's so wrong on so many levels. Go with you gut on it.

duckinatruckwithmuck · 16/12/2020 21:06

Ducking hell- googling postcodes and then looking out for them on strangers packages and then facebooking to match faces to names- that's beyond despicable and creepy AF. Please report.

Honeyroar · 16/12/2020 21:09

He’s a perverted slimeball telling you to give her a big smile. I’d tell him you’ve had a discussion with all the female neighbours warning them what a pervert he is and you’re trying to decide whether to report him and his colleagues. I’d also email Lovehoney, who perhaps need to put their return address inside the boxes.

pawsies · 16/12/2020 21:10

Place an order and when he delivers it say oh this is for you. It's a gag to keep you quiet and stop gossiping 😆