My neighbour keeps moaning at everything.

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My neighbour is just non stop moaning. I’ve just heard him banging on the wall and shouting (I think maybe swearing?) because my children are up playing. They’re 3 and 4. Most children are up earlier than this and I feel like we can make any noise in our own home. He moans if they’re playing at 4pm, he’s threw eggs into our garden (after we were outside talking about 4yo egg allergy) and has thrown biscuits over whilst out with our DCs in the garden.etc. He even went as far as going to our landlord and saying we have the police out every weekend (we’ve never had them out!). Landlord told us he did exactly the same with previous tenant and that’s why she left🙄 what can I do? We private rent and he owns his house.

Can’t make any noise *

7.30 is quite early. What kind of playing are we talking about? Quiet or shrieking around the house?

@tenlittlecygnets

7.30 is quite early. What kind of playing are we talking about? Quiet or shrieking around the house?

Just playing with their kitchen and play food, we have paper thin walls which I understand is frustrating.

Throwing eggs over the fence if he's heard that your children have an allis quite extreme and sinister. Also lying about the police.
Was the previous tenant slays woman? Has anyone ever called the police on him?

*allergy (not allis)

Yes the previous tenant was a woman too. He’s also had some runnings with the neighbours next to him, and the woman said when she was younger if any balls/items accidentally come over the fence he’d pop/break them in front of her etc

Get other neighbours to confront him together - tell him to stop being a total arsehole or you'll tell his landlord - if he rents?! Failing that call non emergency police for advice about littering your garden with things he's trying to hurt your children with

What a horrible man!

He also plays his opera music really really loudly most mornings but we don’t moan

It doesn’t make any difference whether you rent or own, he has no more rights than you. I can hear my neighbour w*anking the days his wife’s at work 🙄.

@FrankskinnerscRoc

It doesn’t make any difference whether you rent or own, he has no more rights than you. I can hear my neighbour w*anking the days his wife’s at work 🙄.

Bloody hell thats awkward😂

Start a record of the anti social behaviour from him and contact the council

I would have a bit of status quo ready. Same volume as his.

Cal the police and ask for a mental health welfare check re the egg thing

i would log incidents including recording him shouting on my phone and report him for harassment.

I would also not get too cosy n the home and move as soon as there is a break clause in the tenancy (there is generally a 3 or 6 month break clause)

Throwing eggs and biscuits is bonkers.
The banging and swearing is intimidation.

Detail everything he is doing with dates and times and if possible film him doing these things. I would pop a note in letterbox, saying you do all you can to minimise noise whilst your children are playing, but as the walls are thin, there isn’t a lot you can do.

If the situation gets worse, you will have evidence that you have done all you can and you can then ring your council, who will send someone out.

The banging on the walls was extremely loud, really startled us tbh. He did it twice, so now I’m trying to get my kids to be as quiet as possible because I’m worried he’ll moan 🙄 it’s defo started my anxiety off

I would report the throwing of eggs as it is dangerous. He has been getting away with his behaviour for far too long. And he has more to lose than you as you can move at any point, whereas if he ever wants to sell he will have to report any issues. If things don’t improve I would consider moving as life is too short to put up with this nonsense.

Throwing eggs in your garden? Call the police and report him for harrassment. Seriously, dont put up with that shit, he sounds a horrible possibly violent individual who needs to be stood up to.

I wouldn't bother with an informal note if he's already at the throwing eggs stage. I'd write a formally worded letter saying:

Please stop banging
Don't throw eggs or anything (and mention the allergy)
You will do your very best not to make noise between the hours of whatever

Then if he does throw stuff over you can call the police because he knows about the allergy.

However as a pp said you'd be better off making plans not to settle in because the chances are he's not really negotiable with.

We are trying to move currently, we have been since he went to my landlord (he’s went around 5 times to his shop)

Hearing children play at 7.30 would annoy me, sorry!

@CrotchBurn

Hearing children play at 7.30 would annoy me, sorry!

I understand that, but this is a family home in a very lively area.

I can understand why the noise would bother him but throwing eggs over at an allergic child is 100% unacceptable. I have no idea of the law on this but I'd call the police non emergency number for advice.

He sounds a bit unhinged to be honest so I wouldn't advise confronting him. As pp have said, take a note of everyone he shouts/bangs/throws stuff in your garden and report him to the police and council. I would also have a quiet word with his other neighbour to see if they would be willing to do the same and possibly even get your landlord involved. Saying this, if you're not bothered about moving again, just grit your teeth and bear it until you can move of you don't want the hassle or drama.

Don't worry about keeping the kids crazy quiet either, they should be able to enjoy their home. Just try not to let them scream or whatever early in the morning. If he bangs on the wall, if be banging right back to make a point too.

Move that's what I would do. I couldn't live a life walking on eggshells in my own home, it would cause me too much anxiety. If you're renting then its far easier than if you owned.