My neighbour keeps moaning at everything.

[Wantsadvice1978909]

My neighbour is just non stop moaning. I’ve just heard him banging on the wall and shouting (I think maybe swearing?) because my children are up playing. They’re 3 and 4. Most children are up earlier than this and I feel like we can make any noise in our own home. He moans if they’re playing at 4pm, he’s threw eggs into our garden (after we were outside talking about 4yo egg allergy) and has thrown biscuits over whilst out with our DCs in the garden.etc. He even went as far as going to our landlord and saying we have the police out every weekend (we’ve never had them out!). Landlord told us he did exactly the same with previous tenant and that’s why she left🙄 what can I do? We private rent and he owns his house.

I'm not surprised.

730 is pretty anti social. Try and keep it down till 830-9.

@Daphnise

I would loathe living next door to a rented house where a tenant allowed noisy children to "play" at 7.30am, if that is indeed what you are doing.

Why a ‘rented’ house?

I am more than happy to keep my children silent in the morning, but I will be having a word with him very soon about all of the other stuff he’s been doing. We’ve tried a few times now to speak to him but he’s very rude towards us. I will explain that I will keep my children quiet until 9.30-10am as long as he stops lying about us and littering in our garden. I can’t see him cooperating though. If he doesn’t stop this behaviour I will report to the relevant authorities but I would very much like to keep it as civil as possible

First report to the police (particularly the egg incident) and take a log of everything. Also report to the local authority and to environmental as throwing food into the garden can cause rats. I've been through this with a neighbour.

You see OP, with your every response you are defensive. That says a lot

@Daphnise what a fucking snobby comment. Wow.

@GoldieHelen

You see OP, with your every response you are defensive. That says a lot

How was my last update offensive?

Defensive sorry

Fuck him.
I'd make more noise if he behaved like that. Throwing eggs is absolutely ridiculous and i would have responded back with far worse.

@Wantsadvice1978909

I am more than happy to keep my children silent in the morning, but I will be having a word with him very soon about all of the other stuff he’s been doing. We’ve tried a few times now to speak to him but he’s very rude towards us. I will explain that I will keep my children quiet until 9.30-10am as long as he stops lying about us and littering in our garden. I can’t see him cooperating though. If he doesn’t stop this behaviour I will report to the relevant authorities but I would very much like to keep it as civil as possible

Don't agree anything OP. He's in the wrong here. Yeah, try to keep the noise down in the morning, of course, but he is sinister at the very least.

Call 101 and ask for it to go to the neighbourhood or beat team to manage, its harassment and bullying. Im sure the neighbours the other side of the twat wouldnt mind a chat with them aswell, so may be worth pointing them in their direction aswell. Dont put up with it and be bullied out of your home

Don't keep your children quiet until 10am that's ridiculous. The problem is the walls not your noise (assuming it's average children playing noise and they aren't playing Sweeney Todd and screaming their heads off)

7.30 IS too early for noise, tbh. But his behaviour is awful. Definitely 101 him and get the police to log it.

I am going to pop around tomorrow and see if he’ll have a civilised chat. I am more than happy to cooperate with the noise.

A lot of neighbours don’t like him, the ones on the other side of us (we get on really well with these people) have had there fair share of problems too. A couple of months ago there was a blockage in the drain system and Fortem asked if they could come into our houses to check our gardens for something (can’t exactly remember what). He told them to fuck off basically and said something along the lines of it was the fat ginger ones fault (referring to my other neighbours)

Environmental health class noise a potential nuisance between 11pm and 7 am. Your dc are simply living op... Try and ignore your ndn.

If he's going to be a cunt when you're trying your best you might as well stop trying.

Not much is going to change, he's obviously completely batshit. If he moans again get aggressive and tell him to fuck off and that you're done with his stupid bullshit.

Oh, and get CCTV, tell him you'll be reviewing it daily and if he tries any other stunts then there will be repercussions so he better watch himself.

He's a bully, and the only way to deal with a bully is to smack back harder.

So many people are saying 7.30 is to early! It's not, you are allowed to make reasonable household noise from 7am. It's not fair to you or your children to live in fear of making any noise and being normal young kids in their own home. Now I agree that if you can keep the levels of noise down in the morning that is the best approach but I have a toddler and I cannot keep him quiet or stop him playing and being a normal baby. I have the same issue with my neighbour she shouts, plays loud music and slams doors in the middle of the night and it's horrible following your child around trying to shush them in their own home. It caused me so much anxiety until I decided not to let her have that much control in my life and ignore it. I really hope he calms down and if not 100% report him to everyone that will listen!

Her neighbour is allegedly asleep in his bedroom at 7.30 so how is he able to hear children playing in the kitchen and bang on the walls? Even in the thinnest of houses he wouldn't hear kids in the kitchen from his bedroom unless he was in his kitchen

Massive bully. Keep a detailed log of his anti-social behaviour. Sounds like my tenant’s neighbour. We only found out a year in when the vendor bumped into my tenant and told him they’d moved due to the neighbour’s erratic behaviour. Bastards didn’t declare any issues.

We have had Council and police involvement and eventually, the neighbour was removed by people (we think mh staff). It’s been remarkably quiet since, despite her return.

I’ll tell you now, it’s pointless trying to reason/talk with him. He’s just an arsehole. Carry on with your normal family life. I’m up at 6.30, my DH at 5.30 sometimes. I can’t stop the stairs creaking or the noise of the car engine on our shared access drive. Equally, I can’t and wouldn’t stop the neighbours’ kids running round getting excited for leaving the house.

Well I keep hearing some really loud bangs, not coming from my house as I’m sitting down with my cup of tea and kids have been in bed for nearly 4 hours. It sounds like slamming doors. I feel like he’s trying to wake the kids up so he has a reason to moan. Such a bastard

Bang on the wall and tell him to pack it in

@SquirtleSquad

Bang on the wall and tell him to pack it in

I’ve just shouted that I’m going to get the police if he carries on

Has he stopped?

Good for you. We had a shitty neighbour who used to bang large ladders against our external side wall at 10pm every few days to wake our kids up because he didn't like living next door to renters..

@HappyRaven

Has he stopped?

Haven’t heard anything yet! Hopefully he’s given up and went to sleep