My neighbour keeps moaning at everything.

[Wantsadvice1978909]

My neighbour is just non stop moaning. I’ve just heard him banging on the wall and shouting (I think maybe swearing?) because my children are up playing. They’re 3 and 4. Most children are up earlier than this and I feel like we can make any noise in our own home. He moans if they’re playing at 4pm, he’s threw eggs into our garden (after we were outside talking about 4yo egg allergy) and has thrown biscuits over whilst out with our DCs in the garden.etc. He even went as far as going to our landlord and saying we have the police out every weekend (we’ve never had them out!). Landlord told us he did exactly the same with previous tenant and that’s why she left🙄 what can I do? We private rent and he owns his house.

@GoldieHelen so allowing a child to play in their home at 7.30 is selfish?

Allowing your children to make excessive noise at any time is selfish, yes

I live in a terraced house with my immediate neighbours being families with kids. Other neighbours are young couples and retirees. None of them has ever disturbed me with any kind of noise - we're a very happy little community and we're all keen to keep it that way so we all try to be as considerate as possible and to respect each others' peace and quiet.

I am so with you TibetanTerrier

@GoldieHelen

Allowing your children to make excessive noise at any time is selfish, yes

So I should make my kids be dead quiet? Not make any sound because of the neighbour? My kids aren’t loud they’re normal kids. 7.30 is early to some people but for parents of young children 6 is considered a normal time to be up and about. He makes quite a lot of noise himself. He’s often up by 8 mowing his front garden (he does this at least twice a week). My OH works night shifts, should I put a letter through my neighbours doors asking them to be very quiet as for him it’s bed time?

@unmarkedbythat

it's an extremely uncivilised time if you no longer have to get up for work/school

I am going to reserve my sympathy here for those of us who DO have to get up for work or school and cannot go back to bed for a nap when early afternoon exhaustion sets in.

I worked full time for 48 years and have earned every second of my relaxation, peace and quiet.

Which is lovely but the world doesn’t stop turning. I have the school run which I have to leave by 8.20 for and I work part time my partner works full time.

Also my kids are in bed by 8 the latest and sleep through, Most nights I’m here by myself and I am in bed by 12-1 am latest. I don’t play music or tv loud, we very rarely argue

Crikey, I wouldnt have allowed my kids to be nosiy before 8am or after 8pm, particularly if I'm sharing a wall. That's pretty antisocial. I don't agree with him throwing the eggs, that's somewhat deranged, and I'd probably contact the police about it because of the risk of harm. But you don't sound like a great neighbour yourself. I'm sure you could have gone some way to stopping this before it got to this stage.

@Kaliorphic

Crikey, I wouldnt have allowed my kids to be nosiy before 8am or after 8pm, particularly if I'm sharing a wall. That's pretty antisocial. I don't agree with him throwing the eggs, that's somewhat deranged, and I'd probably contact the police about it because of the risk of harm. But you don't sound like a great neighbour yourself. I'm sure you could have gone some way to stopping this before it got to this stage.

I’ve just said that my kids are in bed by 8 so no noise happens after this time. I’ve been very nice to him actually, when we first moved in we introduced ourselves to which we got a very short rude reply!

So I should make my kids be dead quiet?

There is a world of difference between dead quiet and the sort of noise you and your family appear to be making. And yes 7.30 is too early

@GoldieHelen

So I should make my kids be dead quiet?

There is a world of difference between dead quiet and the sort of noise you and your family appear to be making. And yes 7.30 is too early

He was like this with the previous tenant who only had one DC, he’s also like this with the neighbours to the other side.

The other neighbours are an elderly couple too and we often hear him being very rude towards them over the garden fence etc

Egg him back the cheeky fucker.

Thank goodness you are only renting. You can move much more easily if need be. I don't think you'll ever change people like that - he'll be vile to every neighbour he has. It is not unreasonable for your children to play at 7.30am - it's their home. Nobody in their right mind would think two tiny children playing in a play kitchen at this time of day warrants the abuse you are getting. Think about the kind of neighbour he could have - the really unreasonable ones. Perhaps he should save up to move to a detached home if it's not ok with him.

Also I’d like to add that our walls are extremely thin. If we’re in our bathroom we can hear him flush the toilet etc.

@Scarlett1251

Thank goodness you are only renting. You can move much more easily if need be. I don't think you'll ever change people like that - he'll be vile to every neighbour he has. It is not unreasonable for your children to play at 7.30am - it's their home. Nobody in their right mind would think two tiny children playing in a play kitchen at this time of day warrants the abuse you are getting. Think about the kind of neighbour he could have - the really unreasonable ones. Perhaps he should save up to move to a detached home if it's not ok with him.

With the area we live in he could have some really bad people here. There’s a lot of people around here that would purposely have parties etc to piss off their neighbours.

Speak to your landlord explain it might be better got him to convert to a HMO men only type place because its the only way he will keep a tenant

@slipperywhensparticus

Speak to your landlord explain it might be better got him to convert to a HMO men only type place because its the only way he will keep a tenant

Yes I agree, we’ve asked our landlord to tell us if he has any more properties to rent. Hopefully we won’t be here much longer.

Get in touch with local neighbourhood policing team, his behaviours is anti social, and he is intimidating you. Doesn't make any difference that you rent and he owns, that irrelevant x

My neighbours on one side are straight out of hell. I own my property so cannot move easily. The passive aggressive name calling over the back fence is pitiful. Disability abuse as I have a health problem affecting my walking...they told my kids over the fence it would be better if I was dead and they were in a care home. They keep shouting 'saddo' and all sorts...they are in their 70's and have too much time on their hands. Last summer, the neighbour started dumping bits of litter over my front wall. It was stuff blowing up the street that he deemed was 'my' problem. He denied it while smirking, when I confronted him. I put CCTV up and that put an end to it. Get a cheap CCTV and lots of stickers. You have got a stand against this man. Collect evidence of abuse in a diary, and report to your landlord, the police and the council environmental team if he is chucking stuff over the fence.

@GoldieHelen who said anything about excessive?

Some people are just anti Social Arseholes,like Op next door neighbour
I am surprised he does not complain if he hear's Op family flushing their Toilet 😂

I mean if Op house walls are that paper thin.....

I am surprised he does not complain if he hear's Op family flushing their Toilet 😂

I think you are hurting your own argument. Work it out if you can

I would loathe living next door to a rented house where a tenant allowed noisy children to "play" at 7.30am, if that is indeed what you are doing.

It's not up to a neighbour to enable someone else's lie-in though.

bloody Norah. It's not up to a neighbour to be a noisy fucker at 7:30.

A bit of consideration both ways wouldn't hurt.

This neighbour sounds like an anti-social fucking twat, but 7:30 is still too early for noise.