My neighbour keeps moaning at everything.

[Wantsadvice1978909]

My neighbour is just non stop moaning. I’ve just heard him banging on the wall and shouting (I think maybe swearing?) because my children are up playing. They’re 3 and 4. Most children are up earlier than this and I feel like we can make any noise in our own home. He moans if they’re playing at 4pm, he’s threw eggs into our garden (after we were outside talking about 4yo egg allergy) and has thrown biscuits over whilst out with our DCs in the garden.etc. He even went as far as going to our landlord and saying we have the police out every weekend (we’ve never had them out!). Landlord told us he did exactly the same with previous tenant and that’s why she left🙄 what can I do? We private rent and he owns his house.

Re the noise: I think it's reasonable for children to be quiet pre 8 AM and after 8 PM in close living spaces, especially during a time we're all stuck at home. But it's unreasonable to expect total silence during the day, especially at 4 PM. This guy needs to pick his battles.

The egg throwing is unacceptable. Can you put up a cheap CCTV camera to record it? Otherwise, I'd keep a log of the harassment (because that's what it is) so you can report to the police.

If it's that much of an issue he should move. The eggs things disgusting, sounds like a horrible person.

I'd call 101 and ask for advice/your position on throwing eggs into your garden and lying about the police. They might be able to put a flea in his ear.

The other stuff sounds unhinged but 7:30 IS too early, regardless of how lively the area is

A bit of Rammstein at 8am should do the trick 😂.
Turn your speakers up full and give the old git something to moan about ...

I'd be pissed off being woken at 7.30am tbh but the egg throwing I would have resorted to the police. If it was deliberate bc of your child's allergy I'd consider that attempted assault.

He sounds like a joyless cunt.
I’d leave loud music in during the day every time I left. Give him something to complain about.

Does he know the child has an egg allergy?

Because if not, surely he's attempting to kill the child??
(Depending on how severe the allergy is).

WTF? "Its a family home"? In a "lively" area? What on earth are you on about? I'm sorry but who cares what your home or area are like? Do not let your children play loudly at 7am when you know your walls are paper thin.

Your children do not trump other people.

7.30 is a perfectly civilised time of day.

Regarding the items being thrown in your garden you can report him to the council for flytipping also be sure to mention the egg allergy

I had a neighbour like this once, we called him Mr Grumpy. He was probably in his late 50s/early 60s and lived alone. As soon as we moved in he made it very clear he did not like us. We had young children so I suspect he just immediately decided we were going to be awful neighbours. He used to play the trumpet or bang on the walls if my DC ever woke in the night (when they were babies for reference) which of course made them more upset... He put a much higher fence up about a month after we moved in too which just seemed hostile. Once banged on the door at about 6pm because I was having a floor fit in one of the bedrooms (they were just finishing up) and he ‘needed to go to fucking bed’.

We resolved it by buying a house and moving 40 miles away . Honestly, I doubt your neighbour will change so moving may be the best option for your MH.

7.30 on a weekday is not early to be up and playing. Screaming and shouting etc yes, too early, but not normal kids playing sort of noise. People who need absolute silence need to live in the middle of nowhere with no neighbours.

This is harassment. Contact your local safer neighbourhood team, they will have a word/give a warning to him

He sounds horrible! A real bully. He must have a hollow little life.

If I were you I'd be tempted to send him a Christmas card - options of what to include in it as follows:

1. Merry please fuck off
2. Glad tidings of you are a twat
3. We wish you weren't so shitmas

7.30 with children is not early at all. As long as they are not running around, screaming or banging just ignore the idiot. How long left on your tenancy?

Hi Op
I know what it is like to have shit neighbour s issues.
I think its not reasonable to except children to have to keep quiet like that all time..
I would on your mobile record his loud opera music/verbal abuse,etc as often as possible,does mobile can say what times he does this?
(A image tells a 100 words.
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Tell and show mobile video images etc,to the council about your concerns,you have got evidence to back it up..
Also get to get her with other neighbours,and ask your Landlord if he can back up too,that this neighbour has form for being a nightmare from hell neighbour/to back up he has history for harrasment,
For e g Your Landlord could just write a short letter to support you,as he is busy working at his business..
Best of Luck
Don't live with this kind of Crap

ps (just random thought,get hold of support worker/ from a local or nearest from a charity,to support concerns, of how its affecting your mental health and your family well being as its stressful,creates anxiety etc.
(Support worker could write a short letter on your behalf backing you up.
Or even ask health visitor/Docter/nurse instead to write a letter of support of your concerns.
Best of Luck
Let us know if you want to,
How you/neighbours are getting on with sorting out this neighbour of yours.

1-Keep a very detailed log of everything that happens with photographic or video evidence where appropriate
2-it's not particularly in his interest to have a neighbour dispute because if you wants to sell its property that will make it difficult for him so in many ways you have more leverage and he does
3-he sounds unhinged or dysfunctional and these types are not straightforward to deal with

I'd move, if the landlords had issues with other tenants because of him they should really be addressing the issue.

Some people are just weird. I remember in our old house wanting to dry our tent out after a weekend away. It was an inflatable tent that took 10 mins top to inflate with a hand pump.
Our twat of a neighbour stood in his garden doing a running commentary "they're lying in flat, now they're pegging it in" and mimicking the sound of the hand pump for 10 mins.
He also used to chuck stones and sticks and random crap over our fence, played 60's music at full blast and would get so drunk he'd fall over in the garden and wouldn't be able to get up again.
My advice would be to move. We are so much happier now.

7.30 isn't early and your tenancy agreement will have a noise clause between 11pm-7am so you're fine in that regard.
Fuck me, my kids are up and about hours before that

He's a miserable old cunt, bang back on the walls and report him to the council/police for harassment. You can also send him an anonymous potato in the post with the words "wanker" or similar written on it.

@MaliceOrgan

The other stuff sounds unhinged but 7:30 IS too early, regardless of how lively the area is

This ^^

It doesn't excuse his behaviour though, especially the egg throwing.

I would ignore him. 7.30 isn't early. I would probably make more noise

@IntermittentParps

7.30 is a perfectly civilised time of day.

Builders are not permitted to make noise before 8.00 a.m. no reason for anyone to make noise at 7.30. Another half hour of peace wouldn't hurt.

He sounds like an arse but has maybe had enough of people disturbing him over the years the house has been rented. If people aren't planning to stay due to it not being their 'forever home' they are often less likely to be considerate to the neighbours.

Oh yes the old 'anonymous potato in the post' move😜
I've forgotten about that one ....never fails🤭