To not want his stupid Christmas dinner

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My BIL cooks Christmas dinner every year without fail. Sounds great but he cooks Christmas dinner and summer BBQs & NEVER cooks at any other time for his family.

He is very upset that we won’t be joining them on Christmas Day this year but AIBU to feel relieved?

I really won’t miss him strutting around in his Santa apron swigging mulled wine this year.
I also won’t have to endure him carving the turkey at the head of the table like he’s some sort of God.
Does anyone else have a DH who does this or is is just my poor sister?

How mean spirited/ unreasonable am I on a scale of 1-10?
(10 being Very unreasonable/mean spirited.)

Well it’s not really about uou. It’s about your sister. You clearly dislike him intently and not just due to his cooking habits.

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What a cock! I bet his poor wife never hears the end of how much he cooks for his family. I wonder who does ALL the shopping for those meals?

Enjoy your Xmas this year.

He’s a glory cook that likes the attention on special occasions but doesn’t do the grunt work the rest of the year. I’d refer to him as a glory cook in front of him and see how he reacts - probably hasn’t realised what a knobhead he looks like.

Morning bluntness! 🤪

Lizzie She knows what he’s like! Lots of eye rolling! 😅

Loveydovey
‘Glory cook’ That’s it exactly!!

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Yanbu at all.

Glory cook is exactly it.

My DH who never cooks tried offering suggestions on the Xmas day menu the other day and it gave me the rage. I couldn’t work out why. I can now.

Thanks op. Needless to say he will be staying out of my kitchen on 25th

@Lovelydovey

He’s a glory cook that likes the attention on special occasions but doesn’t do the grunt work the rest of the year. I’d refer to him as a glory cook in front of him and see how he reacts - probably hasn’t realised what a knobhead he looks like.

Glory Cook and Disney Dad are 2 phrases I've read on here today. Love it 😊

Apple
Glad to be of service!

This is my brother but we do it alternate years. The year it’s at my house he sits on his arse not lifting a bloody finger then when we are at his all he does is cook the turkey and myself, my SIL and my mum cook everything else and he takes all the credit....bloody tube it’s a shame his year falls on this year and we’re all just doing dinner at our own houses

Ha my SIL has a BIL just like this!

Not only is his cooking of the Christmas dinner a theatrical performance only he can load the dishwasher afterwards - he will have words if someone places a teaspoon to be washed in the “wrong place”.

Oh, I know another glory cook who is incapable of making a quick weeknight pasta for the children, but this one also specialises in cooking on Saturday nights, supposedly a Big Treat for the family, but in reality an excuse to hide in the kitchen for literally six or seven hours from mid-morning, using all utensils and several cookbooks with a valid excuse for not taking the children swimming or engaging with them at all. His wife and children would rather something simple that takes half an hour than his elaborate French delicacies.

You’re not being at all unreasonable. Men who glory cook (brilliant phrase) but leave all the donkey work of the day to day dinners to their wives are arses. They lap up all the praise when guests come round but never meal plan or cook spag Bol dog tired still in their work clothes.

SIL's boyfriend tried that two years in a row. Strutting around the kitchen faffing with brussel sprouts in a bowl for 4 hours while MIL cooked dinner for 16. Then when it came time to serve he told her to sit down and brought everything out himself and tried to say he'd cooked it all! SIL was praising him for his hard work and insisted we applaud as he carved the turkey (badly). Everyone but SIL and bf knew MIL had cooked so we instead thanked her and left him to do the dishes. The next year he tried cooking and we ended up having no turkey because he only allocated half an hour for it to cook. Thankfully he's gone now and her new partner is a chef and not a knob!

Nore
Oh wow... your ‘Saturday cook’ takes this to another level!
Opting out of all childcare duties to play around in the kitchen all day Saturday?
Someone needs to tell him where to shove his Coq au vin...

I think there are a lot of people happy this year, not having to put up with Christmas day dinners, that they don’t enjoy. In our house it’s just a roast dinner with a couple of extra bits. We really enjoy it, but don’t make a song and dance about it. I cook for 4 men and myself, they eat everything, under done, over done, every morsel is eaten.

His crimes appear to be carving turkey, having a drunk and wearing an apron.

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1. JFC,, there’s a lot of very poor excuses for men out there.

BIL is annoying, we all know one.

Enjoy your strut free christmas!

1 I can't abide that shit.

Also can't STAND the head of the table thing. It's so fucking old fashioned!

I have a friend who is very aware as a feminist and yet whenever they invite anyone round for dinner or at Christmas, her DH sits at the head of the table...like some sort of God as you say.

He's also a glory cook.

His crimes appear to be that he is a lazy arse 364 days of the year, and wants to take the credit for the once a year effort he makes. Pitiful.

Conversrly... I never knew my brother could even cook as his SAHM wife always did it when we visited. To be fair he was doing a six day week at the time. Then we stayed one Christmas and he did his traditional Christmas Eve dinner and it was phenomenal - he even made a chocolate torte. Another time he "threw together" a beef bourgignon for 13 at a big family dinner.

No strutting or peacocking whatsoever.

@SillyLittleBiscuit his crime is acting as though he’s doing something special