To ask what's the weirdest reason you have decided to not go on a second date with someone?

[SnowDogFarts]

Just imagine you are on a first date with someone and it's going good until...that moment they say or do something that instantly switches your brain to "nope."

I had a first date with someone after chatting to them for a few weeks. It was going well and we were walking through one of my favourite country parks (beautiful) with a takeaway coffee when he decided to dump the empty cup on the floor, when there were bins dotted around everywhere. And that was the moment right there that couldn't be undone. I guess I don't like litterbugs 🤷‍♀️

So, tell me, what was their crime? Big, small, weird, wonderful or other.

One first date: he suggested we met at a local Costa. When we got our coffee he said he'd suggested Costa because having "real coffee was a real treat......" I sat there thinking how quickly could I drink the coffee before leaving without looking completely rude. 20 minutes I managed.

Another with a learned academic: spat everywhere when he talked and ate. Just gross and other diners were noticing too.

The "best" though, was the fool who was proud of being banned from driving having been chased by the police across two county boundaries, when driving at excessive speeds, detailing the incident at great length, and that was why his user name was Twobans....... He spilled a minute drop of sauce (size of a pinhead) on his shirt, made an almighty fuss about it and ran off to the toilet to clean it off as "this is a new and very expensive shirt" (Ralph Lauren) - he was almost angry about it. His coup de grace was when I returned from the loo later on and he told me he'd put rohypnol in my drink.......

One guy was a lot shorter than he said he was on his profile.

One went kept on going back and forth outside to smoke. Like 3/4 times per hour. He was a paramedic.

One didn’t say thank you for the drinks I got him.

One knew my mobile number off by heart (on the first date!). I freaked out.

One still lived with his parents.

One didn’t eat any fruit or vegetables. No allergies etc. I asked him in a joking way to try some of the pepper on my pizza and it made him gag. He didn’t like the textures. That ruled out a lot of meals/socialising. I couldn’t be arsed with that.

@Pansypotter123

Not weird exactly, more shocking IMO, because this reason was a definite 'I'm outta here' moment but it is the worst date I ever had.

Met online, having a drink in the pub... he announces, very loudly that he wants to go back in time to kill Mohammed thus eradicate all Muslims. 😡

With the passing of time I'm unsure if he meant it or wanted to shock me and get rid of me... but at the time I think he meant it.

He got a mouthful from me and and 'I think this won't work'.

He insisted on staying in the cinema and watching all the film credits. The film had been boring enough without the boredom of the credits too. Was clearly a non-starter.

A guy who said he was 6ft 5 so I wore very high heels only to find he was about 5ft 10 (which would have been fine if he had said that in the first place).
Proceeded to text me numerous times on my 20 minute drive home from our underwhelming dinner date. Turned out he had a bunch of flowers for me in his car that he had forgotten to give me so insisted he "must, must" see me the following day to give them to me. Big fat no.

OMG I missed this dating lark having met my husband young. Now I am very glad of it

Used his finger to push rice onto his fork

He pronounced it ‘skedule’. Just no.

@HollowTalk

Two, both to do with money.

One had a little leather purse and counted the money for a drink out to the penny. It was the look on his face as he counted that really put me off.

The other one... well, he paid for the meal (I'd paid a lot in travel to meet him) and I could see he wasn't going to leave a tip. I left some money, put on my jacket and realised he'd taken the tip. Never Again.

I had a first date like this. We'd gone Dutch and I paid for my meal/drinks and I think he was expecting me to pay for him too. It was cringe-making watching him count coins from his little change purse to the last penny pay for his food. Unsurprisingly I never saw him again - it wasn't a hard decision. 🌹

Oh god when I was in my twenties I dismissed blokes over all matter of superficial things. Saying ‘real nice’, wearing driving gloves, ordering half a pint, wearing a flat cap. I was pretty judgemental and I was quite happy being single!

He picked me up in a really old massive Mercedes that looked like something Saddam Hussein would have been driven about in.

This made me laugh so much.

I went on a date with a guy once who turned up about 45 minutes late. It was roasting hot outside and I remember standing sweating thinking this is a nightmare, my make up is going to be ruined by the time he gets here. He was texting me throughout to keep me in the loop so I wasn’t just aimlessly waiting. Anyway, he turned up wearing sunglasses- fine, it was the middle of spring and a hot day but he wouldn’t take them off inside. Eventually he did after I asked and he had a black eye, he’d been in a scrap the night before and was hungover hence the delay in arriving... Surprisingly did get on with him a lot though so I persevered until we got to the last bar and two of his friends walked in. He invited them to bloody sit with us! They sat opposite talking to us about their guinea pigs for a good half an hour before I made my excuses and left. Nightmare.

This happened while I was in Uni. I was a late bloomer when it came to the dating thing, so this was only my second ever first date. We'd chatted for a week or 2 then arranged a date.
I get there, and meet him. And instantly noticed that he'd told a fib. He'd told me he was 5'6. I am 5'2. I was wearing flats, and it was fairly obvious he was more like 5'1, I was definitely taller than him. I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt.
We go for coffee, and about an hour in, he turns to me and says well you seem nice enough even if you did lie about your height.
I ask what he means. He tells me I cant possibly be 5'2, because he's 5'6 and i was nearly as tall as him, which means i must be 5'5.
I was a bit gobsmacked because 1 -I know my height and 2 -I was definitely taller than him. he then went off on a tangent about shallow guys liking short girls, which made girls like me insecure and lie about their height.....
I made my excuses after that, and ignored all future messages.
Lying about your height is one thing, but being so delusional you actually believe you are 5 inches taller than you are and that the other person is lying. Its a no from me.

DH and me have been together since 23 so there’s only a few instances of dating.

1 and 2 - knew they both beforehand. Agreed to dates, both acted like we were already in relationships. One started saying he’d changed his uni plans so we could live together. The other, I was sat on a step watching a band and he came up behind me and wrapped his legs around me etc and started saying how glad he was that I was his girlfriend. We’d been on the date for about twenty minutes. I can’t even remember how I got out of that one but I do remember sporadic emails from guy number 1 for years after about how he couldn’t fall in love when he was still in love with me!

1. Every date he arranged his entire group of friends were there too. The third and final date was a cinema outing and he spent the entire time talking loudly to the friend next to him so

I couldn’t hear a thing. I got up to go to the bathroom and went to sit in the bar instead. Ex boyfriend happened to walk past with his family and ended up spending the afternoon with him instead (as friends, they were always superstars).

We chatted on line then met up to go for a walk. He was really nice.
Went back to his for coffee.
He had three cats and they each had their own litter tray in the living room. He said they never used them - but he also had a blind dog that stayed in the living room ......bleugh ...

Added to the unflushed dirty toilet upstairs, I made my excuses and left.
He emailed me later to say he preferred animals to people anyway.

He had small hands..,,,,, I know it’s trivial and ridiculous but I couldn’t get over it.

@SpaceRaiders

This guy seemed a bit shifty every time we arranged to meet somewhere. He didn’t seem to be able to do a date at notice. After a few weeks we arrange a third date unbeknownst to me, he takes two buses, it takes him two and a half hours door to door for what should be an easy 50min journey. When it came to leaving, he couldn’t just up an leave. He had to time it right to get the next bus and connection. Longest 1.5 hrs of my life! I ended up making an excuse to take the dog out for a walk just to escape. I swore never again to date a guy who doesn’t have the means to get himself around.

You don’t sound very nice. Lots of people don’t drive for various different reasons, myself included. I have a medical condition (epilepsy) which means I can’t drive, maybe he did too?

He pronounced hospital 'hospicle'. Nope. Next.

Clammy hands- insisted on holding my hand- and insisted on walking the "scenic route" to the restaurant through the quiet park, rather than down the populated high street - and mentioned his martial arts skills. I made a point of letting friends know where we were because I was convinced he was going to assault me. He then mentioned his entire experience with women was a couple of bad one night stands but he'd like to be my BF. Firm no on that one.

Enthusiastic ukele playing - just no.

Bloke who messaged me afterwards to say he'd had no pants on (having come from his teaching job) and was also a foot fetishist and told me what he'd like to do to and with my feet. No.

Wore a flat cap- no.

I'm notorious for giving people a second date when I shouldn't have, too. See below:

Smelt funny but seemed nice so agreed to lunch. Turned out to be a seriously observant Roman Catholic who said loud grace over lunch in the middle of the dinning room of the O&C club and was basically living on fresh air for Lent. It just hit me how strictured he would be; I'm Anglican, I won't convert or agree to DC being RC. Lovely bloke, not for me.

Turned up in a bowtie, took a particular route to dinner to see if a local bakery with a name in common with a famous jazz musician had any connection to said jazz musician (It didn't). Then tried to order 2 main courses AFTER a starter and would only drink rum. Agreed to see him again for some stupid reason and he dripped treacle sauce on his smart watch over pudding and licked it off. His tongue grossed me out.

@SnowDogFarts

And the one who kept going in for a kiss, but he kept chewing and sucking on my bottom lip, not in a soft sexy way which might be ok, but in a way that would probably happen if you tried to snog Henry Hoover. I just wanted my bottom lip back 😳

What was his name OP? I think I'm engaged to him 😂

Went on a first date with a black guy I'd met previously in a bar.

Was going very well until he said that the thing about black guys having massive dicks was a myth...except it wasnt wink wink (he actually said wink wink whilst winking at me)

So to clarify it was him talking about the size of his penis, 1 drink in that put me off.

Looking back I wish I'd stuck it out just for a shag

Another one who messaged me after the first date to ask why my Facebook status still said single.

@madcow88 does it begin with an M? 🙈

One date I went on ... in retrospect I’m not sure why I agreed to go... he spent much of the date praising the wonders of Anne Widdicome. I kid you not. He went on and on and on about her. In the end I asked for the bill, paid it and left.

... you should put all these first date disasters into a book! Great coffee table material!